Introduction - Hello Everyone

[Guest_498]

Hi all,

I'm new to this forum. I'd like to introduce myself. I'm 40 years of age, female. My interests include music (any genre), reading a great novel, watching comedy, Restuaranting, and learning new things. I suffer from depression and anxiety. Depression feels very lonely for me. I'd like to reach out for some support. Thank you.

[Guest_498]

Hey Ems,

Have a lovely day at work today. It's a sunny day in Melbourne today, so I'm going for a jog sometime soon. Oh the man sounds like a catch and she's not interested in him romantically. lol. And, here I was getting all excited for her. Idk, but I'm kinda the same way most of the time when it comes to men. I like them, but I don't really like the emotional attachment to them. I've always been this way. I seem to either split and break up with them or I just keep them around as mates (not that they stick around to remain friends). Or after I've been with someone, I would explicitly tell them, I'm not interested in a relationship. There it is. Idk where this comes from but as I've stated in one of my previous posts, when I was in my early 20s I was a massive player - I liked it that way and I believe this remained with me for a very long time. The emotional attachment was something I could easily separate or if I couldn't, I would simply 'split'. I've only ever been in 3 long-term relationships and when I was in them, they didn't feel right and I wasn't happy at all. I suppose they weren't what I wanted from a partner. I got bored very quickly but stayed because I thought at the time it was the right thing to do, and for other reasons.

Hopefully, Alexa could remain good friends with the man. 🙂

ok, so that's a granny flat. I call these dwellings bungalow living. lol.

Blubes xx

[Guest_498]

Sorry Monkey, I didn't finish my thread and accidentally hit the post...
After I left my ex (he left me with no money to pay my bills), I got 2 flatmates in here. They stayed for only a month after I gave them notice. This was in March when resteiction was just being announced. One man was playing the other flattie against me. I lived with this in my family home for as long as i can remember, so I identified the pattern VERY quickly and gave them both notice. I got very scared. They used to gang up on me and cause problems daily for no reason whatsoever. There were always dramas that I didn't cause. When it got to the point where I was afraid to come home was when I knew I had to do something about it. One flattie left first, the toxic one left 2 weeks after. This one didnt want to leave!! OMG!! He even used "youre breaking covid rules, Ive reported you". I was like "yeah, yeah whatever, just please leave my home".
So, Ive shared with all sorts of horrid ppl, too. I vowed never to live with strangers again until I met my last flattie, who was so pleasant and total opposite.

[Guest_498]

I've booked myself into a dance studio for excercise. I thought instead of rejoining a gym, ima do a whole body work out with dance instead to stay fit. There are 2 style dances im leaning towards .. Hip hop & latin.
The studio will be calling me soon. If I could do this once or twice a week & fit in exercising my core stomach & buttocks in between at home, thatll be ideal until I start ubering and then school in March.
Youve inspired me with your dancing abilities, Ems. Xx

[Guest_1643]

hi that's so annoying having such damaging housemates- i dont understand these people how they have no respect for others space - to want to stay and dig in his heels when u wanted him out.... interesting....

glad they are gone and u found a good flattie now. i know that feeling of not being safe at home. I was terrified about my evil flatmate also - she wouldn't leave and begged to stay. but eventually they do leave they just try it as much sa they can 😞

It is so nice here today and yesterday... what gorgeous melbourne weather. hope you had a nice morning run

[Guest_498]

Hey Sleepy girl,
Yeh nice day today. Its not too hot. I don't like it too hot.
My jog was good. I did an hour. Then worked on my stomach & butt here at home. Did about 30min of that.
I was so relieved when the toxic rude person left my home. He stole a few of my plates, cutlery and even pieces of meat in the freezer. Lol. Good riddance to bad rubbish

[Guest_498]

What did you get up to today, sleepy?

[Guest_1643]

hey blubs - not too exciting here yet got a call today frm beyond blue which was weird - i called lsat week and they were concerned about me and offered a call back in a few days - never happened to me before. it was a different person entirely and was a bit strange. Not sure it was very helpful

But okay!
I've ordered more books and trying to read and relax a bit more - see how that plan goes lol

hour run sounds amazing and refreshing.
Omg taking plates and MEAT i'm not even surprised.

I remember this girl treated me like her housemaid - it was a power thing. She'd leave dishes in the sink for me to wash - never took out the trash, never contributed. She wanted to make PERMENANT changes to the apartment and was bugging me to ask the landlrd - get some cooling installed in her room or something - bit bold would you say when miss hadn't paid rent and kept deflecting. She also wanted to up the internet plan which of course she had no intention of paying for. The sad sad sad prat of it was she had money. She just liked to go through life milking others. What a person.

She left and actually had to leave melbourne because she did it toa few people and no one would take it anymore. Good riddance!

[ecomama]

HI dearies lol

I had to have a nap after I posted on my thread. I was ZONKED. Work had some big news. Neighbours moving which is sad. Other stuff too.

I won't go into my bad flattie experiences, I'll feel sick to my stomach ugh.

That sounds nice - "Bungalow" - yeah sweet! I think I'll call my cabin a bungalow from now on but will have to translate THAT too to fiancee... can I write bf instead? because I always typo and write financee lol!! Not good karma there lol.. I'll say "bf" from now on (even though he gets REALLY excited when I say "fiancee" so I won't tell him).

Alexa and keen man lol... I told her to just enjoy his company. They can talk really well together and that's really nice.
She's super bubbly in a good mood and has great interesting and intelligent convos - she knows alot. Plus she is an empath so it's nice for others.
Date is tomorrow night.
We'll see.

Sleepy you sound brighter or something. Are you feeling better somewhat?
I hope so.

Blubes - I love your switch up to dancing. Just cause I'm into it so much. Or was alot more. I danced many classes per week till I was 9 months pregnant with my first lol... so funny but cool. Then started up when she was 18 months old and wanted to do dancing too!

I just picked Yvette up from dancing lessons. I'm SO HAPPY she asked to return of her own volition!
I think her O.D.D. cut in this year and she just axed it.
Cutting her nose off despite her face there because SHE loves it too.

I can't do dance lessons atm. Injuries to my feet now. Plus money constraints and exhaustion lol. Maybe late next year IDK. I hope my feet / legs get better.

I've been worried about those lumps and had a cry to bf yesterday.
He said to think positive and I do but I'm still worried.

I did the whole financial working out thing and thought I'd be better off to UP my Super contributions next year instead of putting extra on the house because my Super payout to the kids doubles or trebles upon my demise, so it's better for them.

Anyway next year will be very financially taxing lol... for lots of reasons.
I'm a shark with taxes and NEVER ever cheat nothing.
But there were some loopholes I used and I'll be paying for them next year!

Just feeling a bit low and worried the kids would lose their home.

And Alexa would have to parent them. There's no one else.
They're GREAT kids!
Just alot of responsibility for her and yuck for her really.

Anyway. I need more sleep lol.

Love EM

[Guest_1643]

hey lovelies

this date is keeping me in suspense. It sounds like it has the ground to be really fun for Alexa - even if nothing comes out of it romantically. Dates are underrated 🙂
I've been doing a lot better, thanks EM (this is scary in itself). Have been NC with family fr a while and am enjoying finding new things I like. Even just decorating the house has been fun. And going out into crowds and... phew... surviving lol.

sounds like work today was a lot. how are things changing there- is someone leaving? A work wife/friend?

Someone i used to work with contacted me out of the blue last week - asked ten questions about what i was doing/where i was these days... i answered and asked her the same and never heard back.... it was so weird. I think i've mentally moved on from those workdays so I am happy to respond and say hello but expect very little from those people.
Blubs hpe you had an amazing day in the sun today. Thanks for keeping us all sane and being so sweet...and optimistic for melbournians. Have you been able to get out to the shops a lot? Is it very hectic? It's nice isn't it to be able to shop in person again - I didn't realise how restrictive it was when everything was closed...

[ecomama]

Hi Sleepy!

You sound brighter.
I know it's weird but remember many ppl slip back bec that past feels more 'known and comfortable' than the new feeling.

Please keep grounding yourself in the "new feeling" bec it's plain to see it's working really well!
I think it took me around 6 weeks of feeling really weird but it was me finding NORMAL.
Then a few months of checking in with helplines AND my Counsellor asking "Is THIS a normal response to THAT?"
They were normal reactions apparently lol.

Even THAT was weird! lol.

Some indicators are you pointing out "weird" things LOL... YES! Because those things ARE weird!
The "veil" is lifting and you're seeing things far more CLEARLY.

This is a powerful time for you and MORE POWER TO YOU Sleepy!

Hold on to it by grounding. All good.

Alexa lol.

My work - found out today my position ends at the end of next year.... I haven't worked FT in the other field for about 30y lol!
It's alot more mundane and restrictive and also a steep learning curve of just mundane things BUT also pretty exciting and nerve wracking too lol!
For all this time I've had ppl beg me to go back to that other sector, I ALWAYS thought I would one day... I wouldn't welcome the pressure right now but hopefully I'll improve in my coping / health / family situation alot more by then.
A new strategy in all our workplaces had put my expertise in the spotlight but others who shoot their mouths off more (without the credentials) have usurped roles there...

There's opportunity for promotion in the other sector but not sure how I feel about all that yet.

I just need my home life, esp children, more settled.
Yvette disclosed alot tonight so it looks like a long road of MH Professionals which she wants help from. Hmmmm.
I'll be calling helplines for her and Victim's Services etc.

Me Working FT will NOT help her which is concerning tbh.
Hopefully Alexa can be on board to help.

Fingers crossed and ALOT of Prayers needed here.

Love EM