Hi i_harrold
You have the incredible power of being able to feel words, a really tough ability to manage at times. I've found people who have this ability are typically careful with their words, more careful than most people. So, the question can sometimes be 'How do I manage my ability to feel what other people say?'.
I find it can be a matter of 'getting a better feel for things' or 'a better sense of things'. What I mean is...if I had a conversation with you, I imagine I'd be able to get a sense of your nature or a feel for your nature. I imagine you'd have a compassionate, thoughtful and caring and open minded nature. That is such a beautiful nature to have, truly beautiful. Speaking with such a person has such a gentle, peaceful, joyful and soulful feel to it. Now, if I spoke to someone who threw out homophobic and racist comments for example, I'd be able to feel a part of their nature too. I would perhaps sense arrogance, a closed mind and a lack of consideration for those around them who don't want to hear or feel their comments. If I asked them to be more considerate around me and they insisted I was too sensitive and needed to 'toughen up', my response would be 'Damn right I'm sensitive. I can sense your ignorance. I can sense you ignoring my request for basic consideration'. Would I be wrong or would my senses be serving me well when it comes to what I feel?
I've found there to be great relief and it's also a self esteem booster to be around other sensitive people who have the ability to sense like we do. My 20yo daughter, 18yo son and myself are all relatively good at sensing what people say in conversation. For example, when my husband/their father says something triggering around the dinner table, the 3 of us will look at each other with a smile, knowing we could all feel his comment in exactly the same way, whether it's angering, potentially depressing, somewhat insane, highly questionable etc. We share the ability to feel.
