Gaslighting at work

[Federer]

I have been a victim of gaslighting and severe psychological trauma to the point where nothing feels like it used to in the past. Like things music and gym and even a laugh hurts. The workplace environment has done this to me where I was psychologically traumatised from left, right and centre and even behind me as well. I had the word Penis sign put back of my hoodie. I have been subjected severe gaslighting where I was treated like a puppet by everyone and questioned my sanity and I couldn't ask for help or assistance in a Corporate environment. Sadly, I brought home that toxicity and it has destroyed my relationship with my family. I saw all of the EAPs and Psychologist but nothing was done and I tried to compromise with them through mediation as in my employer but they would not agree to it as I was trying to put in a complaint against the sex discrimination act but nothing was done and a settlement was not reached. THe corporate environment was pure evil and very cuthroat with a lot of subtle bullying and emotional ambient abuse that the staff could get away with it where it would question your self worth. You know how some people have work with children I can see why, it was like a horror film right in front of my eyes. I am at a loss and comcare rejected my claim despite showing some evidence and most of the evidence is with the Department sadly, they got away with it and HR and HSRs and Harassment Contact officers were all useless nothing more tittles. HR found no evidence but most of it was buried and destroyed by them just to cover it up.

What should I do? They got away with it and it has destroyed my mental health.

[Sophie_M]

Hi Federer,

So sorry to hear that you have had such a terrible time in the workplace.  Workplace bullying and harrassment can be a very traumatising experience and we understand that it has taken quite a toll on you.  It sounds like you did so much to try and rectify the matter only to be let down.  Have you been able to move on from this organisation?  Have you tried to contact a legal service as to what can be done next to resolve this issue and potentially change things?  Sometimes it can be difficult if there is no evidence of the trauma you have gone through, however a legal advisor might have a fresh perspective.

If you would like some help finding mental health support, we would recommend that you get in contact with the Beyond Blue Support Service. They are available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 1pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport  One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals. 

We would recommend that you get in touch with an organisation called Relationships Australia on 1300 364 277. They provide relationship support services for individuals, families and communities and aim to support all people in Australia to achieve positive and respectful relationships.  

You are not alone, this community is here to support you.
 

[Federer]

What legal services can I contact? My brother who is a manager says I will lose if I take them to court. I have tried through human rifhts commission but they were useless and they wouldnt pay for my ambulance bill which happened at work. No one wants to believe my story and former boss got away with sleeping with younger girls.

[Federer]

Yes, i am now working from home but still not happy that they got sway with it. My boss took my perfect stats with him as well. But I want closure

[Squizzy1969]

I have been Gaslighted by my last 2 employers. It's almost my birthday and because of this event my Birthday is now a PTSD trigger for me. I am a Gay man and have had my sexuality used against me in Gaslighting and bullying me. This is what happened at the hospital I work at the day before my 48th birthday.

The Day Before My 48th Birthday, 2017 ·
It is not fair, I was working away from the office today and when I returned back to the office there where 2 charts sitting on my desk for no work related reason. I was not dealing with current charts as I was working in the Secondary Storage area of the Hospital. I only returned to the office to get a cup of coffee. Both charts were new ones and the same hand writing and both were 2 (not one but 2) of my stepsisters names. I saw the charts and my PTSD kicked in as I am triggered by names. I flew off the handle and then calmed down, but was called into my Managers office and HR were called. I was relieved of my duties on the spot and escorted to my car. I have to call on Wednesday to organize to meet with HR. This has sent my mind into a spin. They stood me down and forced me to get clearance from a Psychiatrist in which I ended up in the Psych Ward because of this event. They tried to make out that they were scared of me. All I asked is "What is going on?"

After being stood down for about 4 months. I was told not to apologize to anyone, that staff wanted to let it go and was asked not to discuss it with any of the staff upon my return.

What are the chances of it being a fluke of being not one but 2 of my stepsisters first names and my surname. I could handle one name but 2 together new charts and same hand writing.

[Sophie_M]

Hi Squizzy1969, 

Welcome to the forums. Thank you so much for having the strength to share your story with us, we understand this isn't always easy to do.  

Are you receiving any support following this event? It sounds like an incredibly difficult time, and we don’t want you to feel alone with these feelings. We want to really encourage you to call our professional mental health counsellors on 1300 22 4636. We'd love to help you process any distress you might be experiencing.  
 
We're so sorry to hear about what's going on with your employers. If you feel that you have been treated unfairly you can raise this with the Fair Work Ombudsman. We'd also recommend looking at this article on your rights when managing your mental health at work. It's important to say that our advice is general in nature as we don't know the particulars, so we hope the information helps, and gives you some ideas of how you could find more support and advice on this issue.  

Thank you for sharing this with our community. Please do share more about how you're feeling with us, we're here for you. 

Kind regards,  

Sophie M