Frustration with the lack of ability with some therapists

[BOC64]

Hi

Is anyone else feel frustration with the lack of ability with some therapists?

Apart from going on a buy and try mission to find one or have your GP recommend one how do you find that "one"?

[Soberlicious96]

Hi BOC64,

I guess sometimes it can be quite difficult to find the 'right' therapist. And to be honest, I really don't know what to suggest.

But I do know that at least by reaching out on here, it's a start to being able to talk things through ........ or should I say, tap it out on your keyboard at least.

Maybe it would help to ask for a referral to from your GP? If you haven't done that already, then it could well be a great place to start. Maybe it also depends on whether or not you are seeking a 'general' counselor, or perhaps seeking someone who may specialize in a certain area, such as a trauma specialist or something more streamlined?

For example, some years ago, when I was still married to my first husband, I wanted us to get counseling with someone who knew something about Autism and Asperger's syndrome in adults, because I suspected my husband was on the spectrum, but being in a rural area, there was no-one available. My (now ex) husband didn't want to know about it, and I just got more and more frustrated with the lack of understanding. I ended up finding an online support group - on Facebook of all things - and found it to be wonderful. The people on there really understood and got where I was coming from. It helped immensely and I feel so grateful that it was there for me at the time. Even though we are now divorced, at least I found something that worked for me at the time.

Anyway, the important thing is that you keep looking. And in the meantime, at least Beyond Blue is available to you 24/7, and you don't need a referral for here.

Hope that helps at least a little. And remember, it's okay to think 'outside the square' and try something a little different, such as online support, if that's what works for you.

Take care. xo

[BOC64]

Thanks Soberlicious96

I really appreciate your advice and for sharing your story. My GP has told me that I need intensive psycho therapy due to PTSD, chronic depression and behavioral issues from childhood trauma. The GP refered my to a psychologist based on that requirement. I didn't get the impression from the psychologist that was an approach they took.

I will attend my next appointment and if needed I will seek out someone more appropriate.

[Soberlicious96]

I too have had severe PTSD, Depression and childhood trauma, and I found the best therapists to be those who practiced CBT - Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Be the each to their own. I do hope you find someone suitable soon. Xo

[TimTams]

Hi,

Was your PTSD caused by crime/s that happened to you? I feel my PTSD will never go away until the justice system starts to do more to punish these people. No amount of CBT in the world will change my feelings about this. It is hard to feel safe when you realise the job of police is not what you expect. There is not really any protection from criminals. It all comes down to money and paperwork.

You can use Psychology Today to find specialist psychologists. I personally found it too expensive and hopeless given my problems stemmed around criminal injustice which is something I never will be able to change.

I hope you find peace. Kind regards

[BOC64]

Thanks again Soberlicious96

[BOC64]

Hi TimTam's

I am sorry to hear that happened to you. My PTSD and other conditions are the result of childhood trauma being the victim of and witness to severe domestic violence. This also include bullying at school, being physically assaulted by a teacher and I could go on and on for hours.

If I can get a little better and at least be able to have a lasting and meaningful relationship I will be happier.

Take care

[TimTams]

Yes DV is a crime and a big one. I am a DV victim too, and my rapist tried to pretend he was the 'victim' which was even harder. Nobody does anything to deserve being raped. I find PTSD is more often a response to crime that has not been resolved. It is not in good humans to understand how these events are possible. All the advice I can offer is do not value yourself or your happiness by being in a relationship with someone else. Once you learn you are enough in yourself, you will be happier. Good luck friend.

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi TimTams,

Just thought I'd pop in here - one thing you can do is email a potential psychologist/counsellor. I've done this before - mostly asking about waiting lists, but the other thing you can do is to let them know what you're struggling with and if they're willing to help you out.

You certainly wouldn't need to go into detail (the diagnosis is fine), but it allows you to easily filter some out if it's not their area of interest or expertise.

Good luck in finding one.

[BOC64]

Hi romantic_thi3f

I had not thought of that either so I will give it a try.

thanks