I have nothing

[Lindsey30]

Ive recently been fired from a job, im almost 31 and feel like i have nothing in my life. I moved to australia 5 years ago but feel like i have no friends, no family, no passion for anything, no job now, dont own my own home and feel unhappy in my relationship. I just dont know what to do with my life right now, nothing makes me happy and i feel like a failure

[Hayfa]

Hi Lindsay30

I am sorry to hear about what is happening in your life right now.
Please don't be so hard on yourself, I think there is not one person around who has not been in the same or similar situation as you. What is important is that you are in a country of opportunity and you have your health and a place to live, there are many people that come here and have no family.
Do you have family back at home, if so even connecting on social media and skype is good and helpful to your wellbeing. Friends will come in time and there are certainly many things you can do to meet new people such as being involved in community events, volunteering somewhere perhaps.

It is normal to feel sad when a change in life events has occurred however, you should look at this as being an end of a particular journey and the commencement of a new one to come. If you make some changes in your life and embark on new and exciting possibilities I am sure your relationship will improve and you will be happier.
I am glad you have reached out here in the forum because there are many people who can also answer your post and give you some other great support and advice.

It is normal to feel unhappy when things have not gone according to plan but you shouldn't dwell on what has happened, consider instead what you would like to happen and start looking at ways that it can happen for you.

Please keep talking to us here and let us know how you are going.

Hayfa

[Donte]

Hello Lindsey30,

Welcome to this forum and thank you for sharing your story. It’s not easy loosing your job. Not only from a financial point of view but also social and networking. Work offers so much more than just money. No wonder most people link so much of our working role with our self identity. We say ‘I am an electrician, or I am a doctor etc’. What we do is often who we are. Being unemployed can be very tough for many and can make us feel we have indeed nothing left in our lives. This is especially true for migrants and newly arrived people who may not have family, friends or a sense of belonging in this new country.

There’s so much emphasis on material gains and success is often linked with possessions and by the time someone is 30 they’re supposed to have worked it all out. The reality is that it is different for every person. Not everyone owns a house. Not all have successful careers by the time we turn 30. Not everyone finds love or has relationships that are fulfilling.

I know many people into their 50s who like me, are renting and have no partners. This doesn’t mean that they’re failures. Success and happiness are very individual things. It’s not a bad place to be if you don’t know what to do with your life right now, as this opens up opportunities to experiment with different things and explore a variety of options. If nothing makes you happy currently then maybe you will create something new that you’ve never tried before and that would be meaningful for you in your life. You won’t know until you try. Until it happens. If you feel like a failure now, it could be because you are ready to move into new areas and grow in diverse ways.

We are not like trees - stuck in the ground. We can move! I always said if nothing goes right, go left! Please don’t despair and don’t give up. Be gentle with your self and allow this crisis to lead you to something different, something better. X