First generation immigrant- 16 years old
Welcome to the forums, we are so glad that you decided to take such a brave and important step in sharing your thoughts and feelings here with our wonderful community. We're so sorry to hear that you've been going through with your parents, but please know that you've come to safe space to talk things through and our community is here to offer as much support, advice and conversation as you need.
If you feel up to it, we'd really encourage you to reach out and talk these feelings through with our friends at Kids Helpline. They are a confidential and anonymous, telephone and online counselling service specifically for young people aged 25 and under, and are there for you 24/7 by phone (1800 55 1800) and through their webchat if you'd feel more comfortable talking online: https://kidshelpline.com.au/get-help/webchat-counselling
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I'd like to join Sophie_M in welcoming you here and agree totally that talking or chatting the the Kids Help Line could be a pretty good thing to do.
It gives you an idea of what is normal, and suggests avenues for improving your life.
Parents who were brought up in other countries may find it very hard to translate there own experiences and beliefs into this country - not that all our practices are that great, however our way of doing things is what you have to face.
They obvious want you to do very well as school, and send you to an expensive one and even had the foresight to give you a phone since you were 12 (even if an old one). While personally I'd view the difference between distinction and high distinction is not that huge that is just me and their could be some reason why they regard the mater as important.
I agree that being shouted and and called horrible and wicked is not a proper way to go. Ideally a parent should both praise strengths (in other areas than just academia) and guide and explain for anything they regard as breaches of conduct.
While it might seem I'm taking your parent's side I'm not, but it is difficult to judge what you regards as
"VERY SMALL THINGS- SMALL MISTAKES ANY HUMAN BEING MAKES!!"
So have to leave that until I understand better.
Arguments unfortunately can start on one subject, and then drift though all previous problems, allocating blame and not listening. This is a human trait, and does not really help anyone, they become more upset, and you see old matters dealt with unfairly brought up again.
If your father seems to be the more sensible of your parents is it possible to involve him more in your affairs and explain circumstances why you did things each day? This may lead to further understanding and tolerance.
I'd look forward to it if you came back and maybe gave a little more detail of the causes of contention