UPDATED: Dealing with my partner's anxiety. Just want to talk

[Belthizor]

Hi all, I'm new here, my name is Sheldon and basically I just want to talk to others about how to deal with my partner's anxiety. For the past couple of months, she has been having anxiety-related issues, but only very recently have these issues intensified. In the past two days we have been to the ED twice, Seen the Doctor twice and been to see her psychologist. The attacks are getting worse, and I am really worried for her. She has even been having suicidal thoughts. This of course worries me even more, but I feel that I have to stay strong for her sake. I love her very dearly and it just breaks my heart to see her so upset. She's crying, has involuntary hand movements, feeling nauseous and has even physically thrown up. She has recently been prescribed a benzodiazaprene and tomorrow we will be going to the doctors to review her current anti-depressant medication. I love her with all my heart and I don't ever want to lose her. While we are doing everything we can to address these issues, it's still hard - especially for me, and I would love someone to talk to who has been through this, or even just someone willing to bend an ear but not judge. This girl is my whole world and without her... I don't know what I'd do.

 Thanks for listening, I know I rambled on a bit, but I do that.

[Graceeeeee]

Hey dear Sheldon!!

Thank you so much for keeping us updated, what a legend you are 🙂

I'm sorry to hear that you've had a bad day, but hope you know that there are always up and downs, and I'm glad to hear that it wasn't related to anxiety too 🙂

Also, I think it is very understandable that it is harder to cope at nights, it is usually easier if you have something keeping you occupied, but at times like at night when there isn't much going on, our brains might start overthinking wouldn't they 🙂 So don't worry Sheldon, maybe when she feels a little sad or anxious try to talk about something light hearted, such as a TV show you might both like, if she wants to of course 🙂

And Sheldon, I want you to know what a legend you are, and I understand it is hard and painful to watch someone you love suffer, but I know, being though there, that if someone is there for you, it already says so so much, it already gives so much love and strength 🙂

And I totally understand the part about you trying to not let her become too reliant on you. I hope everything goes well for her tomorrow!! My love and thoughts are with you 🙂

Keep us updated, and you are doing so well, all of you, it is not easy sometimes I know, but you guys are just legends!! I agree with Paul, remember to go 'Gentle' on yourself too ❤️ Have a splendid evening!!!

With Love,

Grace xx

[Belthizor]

Hi Guys,

Well we've been to the psychologist today and she was very pleased with my gf's progress. While she is still experiencing some mild anxiety (which is to be expected), she knows how to deal with it. Our next step is to take on some of the tasks that my Gf finds can cause her some level of anxiety (such as interacting with strangers in person. By this, we mean things like asking someone on the street for directions, or asking a store employee where something is, etc) or even writing a list of inexpensive items to buy and we walk round a Shopping Centre (another anxiety causing issue as it seems to suffer from a lack of signage, lol) and try to find and buy these items.

She didn't go in to her appointment on her own this time, but is resolved to do it next time (the 11th).

Anyway that's all from me for now, hope you're all doing well.

Ciao for now

[Belthizor]

Hi guys,

Just an addendum on my previous post as it got edited (not arguing that, just want to make sure it makes sense). When I said "a shopping centre" I actually meant our closest major shopping complex I.e. a mall. As you may know they can be large and confusing and difficult to navigate at the best of times.

[Graceeeeee]

Hey my dear Sheldon!

So glad to hear that your wife is doing well, glad to hear that her psychologist thinks she is making progress, and I am looking forward to the next session for you guys too 🙂 Also, I think she is really brave for willing to take on those tasks, I know it can't be easy, so best wishes to you and your wife!! You are a legend, keep on doing what you are doing, and of course, as always, keep us updated 🙂

So much love to both of you, good night!

With Love,

Grace xx

[Belthizor]

Hi Grace,

Thanks for the supportive words, just a side note - she's not actually my wife... we're not married. Just boyfriend and girlfriend.

Cheers,

Sheldon

[blondguy]

Good Morning Sheldon

Its always good to hear when things are improving. Really great to read that the psychologist is pleased with your GF's progress. Taking the small steps your are will help a lot with her healing and recovery.

I hope that you both have a great weekend. Nice work Sheldon 🙂

Kind thoughts

Paul

[Graceeeeee]

Hey dear Sheldon!

Sorry about that one, thanks for sharing your thoughts and being a supportive boyfriend for her!! Take care!

With Love,

Grace xx

[Belthizor]

Hi all,

First off, we've had a fairly good weekend so far - yesterday my Gf went to the animal shelter on her own and did some volunteer work. Yay her! Then we went out to my father's place for dinner (he invited us). As far as I know, there was no anxiety.

Today, I was able to get a solid few hours of game time in (gaming/losing myself in a video game is my way of de-stressing and essentially escaping from all the other negative stuff that goes on in my life) before I let my Gf play.

Dinner tonight was delicious and cooked by me (we had tacos though my Gf only ate 1 1/2 tacos. Is appetite loss common among anxiety sufferers?)

Then we watched about half a season of a TV show we enjoy. Then things got a little dicey. My Gf complained of not feeling very well and said it might have been anxiety related.

Here's where the rant kicks in: she started complaining that she thought her cat didn't love her anymore because he wasn't been very smoochy. Her cat! This frustrated me as he's a cat, cats by their very nature are not very affectionate animals! I told her he didn't hate her and that she is convinced he does because he isn't smoochy when she wants him to be (i.e. she expects him to be smoochy whenever she wants him to be). I got a little cross, but didn't go full agro or anything, so we didn't have a fight, it just left me feeling quite frustrated! I know that's not exactly anxiety related, but it still bugged me.

Anyway that's all from me, hope you all had a good weekend.

Cheers,

Sheldon

[blondguy]

Hi Sheldon

Anxiety issues can have an effect on appetite..for sure

I know exactly what you mean by your GF's cat..Some people love them but not me. If her cat makes her feel good thats great to assist with the healing process.

Good to hear from you Sheldon

Paul

[Graceeeeee]

Hey Sheldon!!

Thank you very much for the update 🙂 Yes sometimes it can affect appetite, also makes the person paranoid sometimes which might be why she thinks her cat doesnt love her anymore, but great to hear everything went well, good to hear there was no anxiety!! Thanks for sharing Sheldon, my love and thoughts are with you guys, have a good afternoon!!

With much love to both of you, and your family

Grace xx