unsure what to do

[Wednesday]

Hello,

When do you know a relationship is over?

[Lost_Girl]

Hi Ava,

You don't need to reply, just focus on yourself right now. I am thinking of you and sending positive vibes your way.

I have delivered to your hospital room some gorgeous non-scented roses in red and white. There is a second bunch of dutch irises and pink and purple gerbras, and yes, a third with beautiful natives including proteas, banksia, silvery gumnuts, dryandra, viburnam and more.

Much love to you,

Carol xx

[Lost_Girl]

Thinking of you.

Things must be tough right now but you have a lot of people here who care as well as your family.

I hope the hospital are keeping you out of pain. I am thinking positively for you.

Here is a gentle hug and lots of love xxx

[Wednesday]

HI Emmy,

Thank you for caring. Home from hospital last night. I don't think the doctors are clear on what is happening, maybe a viral lung disease? Back to for a check up on Tuesday. So it's still a wait and see. I was allowed to come but have to rest. Maybe I'm allergic to being home. I'll get some more meds tomorrow or that's today, that may help.

I just need to get well enough to fly to Sydney for my grandsons birthday in November prioritise!

Hugs, xx

[Wednesday]

Hello Carol,

So lovely of you to check in on me. It is truly lovely to feel cared about. Hospital is never much fun an my limit to time spent there is low. The public hospitals are so run down yo feel miserable just being there. No results from the hospital that helps as yet more meds. My nieghbours planted on our adjoining fence lots of jasmine, which is beautiful but sends my hayfever into a tizz and I think this maybe not be helping. I did explain and ask them not to plant it but they love it.

P flies out later today. He just got up and wants me to go back to hospital, I really can't. Two 11 our session in the ED and in patient stays is just too much. I'll just rest. I had the infusion yesterday too, maybe that wasn't a good idea, who knows.

Happy has switched loyalties and is a bit wary staying close but not to close. He must be thinking that I keep leaving him and have that yucky hospital smell his other owner had that didn't come back.

The chemist opens in a few hours and I can get a nebuliser, which should help a bit.

Ava, aka Darth Vader, xx

[Lost_Girl]

Hi Darth (aka Ava),

My Mum and Dad used to have Jasmine and Boronia down one fence line. It looked beautiful but they had to get rid of all of it because of my asthma and allergies. It's unfortunate that your neighbours don't understand the impact to your health.

I'm glad you are home as I know you feel happier but please make sure if you get worse you go back to hospital. As bleak as it is at least they can care for you properly.

I imagine it would be exhausting unable to breathe properly for so long. I hope the nebuliser helps. They can be good but your circumstance is more severe than normal asthma.

I wish you had someone home taking care of you. I am sure Happy will come around soon.

I have brought you some more non-scented flowers for home. These are bright multicoloured bunches to brighten your day.

Much love to you Ava xx

[Music_Freak]

I feel bad that I've only just found this thread, thanks to Carol.

I should read back, but I still have a migraine that came on, on Wednesday night, so I shouldn't, yet.

I hope you're well/better. My mum despised hospitals too...I still feel kind of bad that she died in one. But anyway, I'm glad you're out and am wishing you good health 🙂

[Emmy.]

Happy to hear you're home. X

[Wednesday]

Thank you dear Carol, Narelle and Emmy.

P has left for overseas which gives me some time to myself, hopefully that should be just what I need to relax and get things back under control. I have an appt at the hospital on Tuesday morning, so need to make sure I get back out of there again:) P's anxiety, made him grumpy, which was not easy for me to manage. He did go and get the meds for me, which was good, though incredibly messy for some odd reason and took him two trips. I'm not sure the nebuliser is actually doing me any good apart from making me shake more.

Carol, the flowers are adorable and cheer the place up enormously. Happy has come around and is back to sitting and lying on me when he can. Oh and I forgot to mention I love theatre too. The last thing I saw was the ballet Swan Lake about a eighteen months or so ago, I was mesmerised and I don't have a dancing bone in my body!

Narelle, migraines are just awful hope you have some meds to take the edge off at least. I'm sure your mum knew that you loved her and that was the most important thing to her. Even I get that hospital is the only place sometimes. No one (mums and daughters) ever want to put the people they love through anymore pain or discomfort than they can possible help. Take heart dear one that she know you cared for her.

Emmy, I'm happy to be home too so nice not to eat of plastic plates with plastic knives and forks! There is nothing like your own bed and doona is there?

Thank you all, I'l get back to your threads as soon as I can. Lots of hugs you gorgeous women.

DV, xx

[Lost_Girl]

Hi Ava,

I had hoped the nebuliser would give you some relief. I am glad you liked the flowers.

I haven't seen a ballet yet but hope to in the next year or so now that my daughter is old enough to be interested. My hubby would accompany me but we don't have anyone to look after the children. Most of my friends have their own young kids. There are a few who would still help but we save asking for important reasons like weddings or an occassional anniversary. This year in Nov we will have been together 20 years, (married 14) so we may ask then. It was the same year my Dad passed, it doesn't seem that long ago.

Does P take you out to the theatre or other places when you are feeling up to it?

Most of my friend's partners wouldn't go to the theatre but my hubby had a grandfather who loved classical ballets. He is as happy in the theatre as he is at the football though he doesn't go out much at all these days because of me. Soon maybe.

Are you ok to cook for yourself while P is away or do you get some assistance of some sort?

I best try to sleep. Please don't rush to reply. Rest up and take care of you xx

[Wednesday]

Hello dear one,

Having young children is a big job, so Im not surprised you don't get out much. Any moment now you will be in the middle of all you children concerts and end of year events. I always loved them especially the music concerts.

Staying to gather for 20 years says a lot about you two. You must be very much in love and have learnt a lot about each other in that time and how to accomodate the others needs and wants, congratulations. I'm reading a book at present by Alain de Botton called The Course of Love, you may find it interesting, it is a story with incepts from him from a philosophical position.

P and I don't really go out, it's too hard for all sorts of reasons, my health and P's rules.

I'm sorry you lost your dad I bet he would have been enormously proud of the intelligent, creative, sensitive, generous woman you are. I don't know your belief system but it would be nice to think you can have little chat every now and then.

Sweetie, I hope the new medical strategy is helping, it always takes far longer than we would like doesn't it.

I'm happy at home by myself, I can't see anyone with any bugs because I'll catch them and I am over hospitals. I can rustle up something simple for myself so its not a problem. I'll find some food and head back to bed shortly.

Sleep is a great way to help your body recover, I hope you're feeling a bit better rested by now.