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relationship breakup

awrinkle_in_time
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Hi , i was in a relationship the first after a divorce of a 20 year marriage , i didn't think i would find love again , i meet this lady through some good friends and we started slow seeing each other on weekends , we lived 2 hrs apart .. we found comfort in each other and the time we spent together was the best time i have ever spent with a women , i could watch the grass grow for ever in her company . as time went on the baggage in both our lives came out and instead of dealing with it we just broke up .. she was scared and so was i .. the going our own ways happened so suddenly and i couldn't believe it happened ...approx 10months ago ... we had little contact and got on with our lives ..i whole time feeling very sad i felt a massive loss .. honestly thought we wold spend our lives together .. i speak of the good times now but there were times that her baggage came out and with out an open communication at these times it would be impossible to have a lasting relationship ...no such communication was possible ... and i know us being apart is better ..but i am still so in love with her ...i messaged her a few days ago and showed her pictures of my apartment which i have renovated ..the finished product ..she didn't reply ..i messaged my feelings and she replied with i think you should move on like i have ..i asked her if she was seeing anyone and she said yes ...i had to get myself home and i vomited many times and just put myself to bed ..i am reliving the weekends i said with her and seeing another guy in her life exactly like i was ...i try to reflect to the times that help me understand that it wouldn't have worked between us but my heart is so full of love for her .. its painful and i can't stop crying
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Good Morning ,

Sounds Lovely ....but chilly ....

Thats a nice breakfast ... Enjoy Your Day Monkey

Soak up that sun xx

I really needed that...the big blue...my eyes r blue too! Sweet of u to worry about me in my car. I'm precautious, have some street smarts. Prepare myself for worst case scenarios. It was a really good change...listening to the waves at night...being in a different environment.

Some relationships have an end date. Too much- drinking everyday...love is a better healer of pain, crying it out- u r skilled at that one- ( add to set of skills). Some alcoholic eyes can look evil...if the devil had won, run....and u did. I've worked in bars surrounded by alchos..the blame game, derogatory comments, broken record life stories, personality changes,abuse- no thanks....

I've had so much winter sun on me- I'm in a tank top and feel hot. I was watching some outstanding surfers and paddle boarders. In qld there were a lot of...can't think of the name...u hold on to a bar and can fly out of the water..is it kite surfing? Yeh I think it's kite surfing, a lot of kite surfers.

I saw some really good bods on the beach- yes, I was looking...

Made me laugh again ( u introducing yourself to the oldies).

Generous of u( the food offer). When they play that song they never say who it's by, what it's called...if I find out I'll let u know.

Bliss- a favourite word of mine. Being blissed out is sensational ( he,he).

Thanks for all the things u said... Twas my way of letting u know I have an understanding/s of grief & loss...energy, spirituallity...

I can still picture that octopus with the big eyes- it's haunting me, ahhh..Next season is spring. Loved the explanation u gave of the brain/ mind after scuba diving. Just goes to show u can overcome thoughts and clear the mind in natural ways. U said something similar when skiing in the USA. Clear headed, blissful state of mind.

Have some blissballs and amazeballs- u have earnt them and they're healthy and taste beautiful!

....at home and have an assignment to do aagghh...

There were some wild hippy roadtrippers sleeping in vans and campervans by the ocean...and the surfer men were good and great guys...relaxed...!

Almost out of words u blissed out- or aim to be blissed out chap...Thanks for the respect, can be rare...some days in the real world...

Another compliment- u have strength! 🙂

Story time-

A friend of mine used to charge himself up with the energy from lightening. He'd go out when there was lightening to charge up and hug me- it was electrifying.

I did it once. Sat in my car when there was an electrical storm to feel the lightening energy.

He also had a lot of girlfriends...

Hiiiii Yaaaa

Glad you enjoyed the trip to the beach ...the ocean is a real cleanser ...Did you have a swim ?... too cold ...?

Glad you kept yourself safe , i know you have street smarts ...what can i say ...I've become fond of you ...

and thats yes well arrr ... so your home safe and thats comforting ...

was going to delete but didn't ...

you have your assignment to do ...hows it going ...i hope I'm not disturbing you ...

whats it on ...is it difficult ...Liver for tea ? ....or pork , pasta and pesto ...did you smile ...

Hey Monkey .... Im making pizza tonight ...will set some aside for you if you like ...its spicy ...ssspppiiicccyyyyyy

I had a stressful day ...lots of people at me ....and i didn't deal with it well it got onto of me ...

i meant spring did i say autumn ?? ...its winter now right ...

A road trip would be good 12 months ...i travelled the USA for 12 months once in a kombi ...have i told you about that ...have lots of stories .....got arrested .....put in jail ...just at the police station ...hand cuffed to the wall ..not joking ...after paying bail had just small change in the ash tray left ...nooo money ....not good ...but it was fun looking back from my leather couch today ...ha ha ...

yes the skiing and the diving is pretty good ...stills the mind and kills the body ha ha ..

the post i wrote last night i had to cut and paste 3 time to get it to you ...i just got writing ...and before i new it i was over the word amount ....naughty me ...

I just love writing to you ...i hope i don't go over the top with what i write ...and the reply when it takes a bit to get to you can cause me a little stress i would hate you to think i wasn't replying ....my rejection baggage suit case opening up ...ha ha ...

well pizza time ...have a nice night my beautiful friend ..

Compliment - U Have Wisdom ...

tank top hey ...

xxx

A.W.I.T or S,

I'm feeling overwhelmed and emotional too. Your feelings and care through your words. I've sat on the couch, taking it all in...and that's how I feel...

I feel it too- thanks 🙂

I know ...your words have done the same for me ...

good word you used ...Overwhelmed ...

thats me ...

I found it hard to concentrate today ...

So how long did that guy have the heart in the microwave ....how many minutes

xxx

Lol....lol....lol.....

Well, who hasn't been arrested.... Haha....just kidding...no money...what!!! I can relate to travelling and no money- I was homeless!!! Asked a guy for a fish once....picked things off trees...washed in the ocean..you know the life of the Gods....lol.... Surviving with nature baby!!! It was such an adventure. God now I'm thinking bout the bad aspect...I'm not telling....

Yeah gave into the liver..iron helps us play...Assignment's on anatomy..the different body systems. Yup it's winter...

I love homeless people. It was so good to come out of that space, get back into a job and hand a homeless man rummaging through a bin money...u wouldn't know I've ever been through it and understand how it effects u mentally, socially, the feelings u feel during it- hey u get it! Dumbest time of my life...I felt so dumb...and it was freezing sleeping out... I really understood what homeless ppl feel cas i lived it- that's what I meant about sleeping in different places. You know, behind a bush at a workplace, under a house, yep, in someone's bathtub... Felt insignificant...

I have a whole different life now and safety...but I know I can get through the worst. I know how. I did it. A blonde female on her own did it...

Yeah u don't have to feel obliged to reply straight away...I know you're busy...I have a lot on too..but check a lot...easy with a phone..

Yum pizza- burnt my chin, thanx...

...I touched on a sore point...thanks for letting me speak and for listening... I'm imaging your support..with me...I just wanna cry..now I'm the one getting stronger....

Story time-

Been in the back of a paddywagon. U get thrown around in there, nothing to hold onto, no belt. I thought it was fun.

Caught with a stun gun disguised as a phone....what's a homeless girl supposed to do.

U know it's so unfair out there. I was being sexually harassed,whipped it out, pressed the button, made no contact, said- grab this!!! It scared him- it worked... And I was prosecuted....

Didn't get charged... But they took it off me. I had a positive experience with those police.

Getting stronger ...we both are... and i thank you ...Im feeling and i am dealing with stuff coming up in me ...when I'm communicating with you i feel so much better ....thats knowing your support is there ...Your past life sounded like a hard time for you .. .... my beautiful friend I've found ... Im so glad you got through it ...Good for you ... those feelings that you talked about most people would have no idea ....living that way is so far from what every day people would experience ...You have gained much knowledge ...and it has grown your heart to understand that some people live in hell and no one knows ... your experience has been priceless ...

Thinking of things that way brings a love that heals ...

When i was a teenager

Cry away the past thats the best way xxx I'm always alway hear ....

chin is really burnt ...pizza is great and i have made a second one ....so help yourself...

sparkling water is on ice....ice creams still in your freezer ? ....shall we have one of them later ...