relationship breakup

[awrinkle_in_time]

Hi , i was in a relationship the first after a divorce of a 20 year marriage , i didn't think i would find love again , i meet this lady through some good friends and we started slow seeing each other on weekends , we lived 2 hrs apart .. we found comfort in each other and the time we spent together was the best time i have ever spent with a women , i could watch the grass grow for ever in her company . as time went on the baggage in both our lives came out and instead of dealing with it we just broke up .. she was scared and so was i .. the going our own ways happened so suddenly and i couldn't believe it happened ...approx 10months ago ... we had little contact and got on with our lives ..i whole time feeling very sad i felt a massive loss .. honestly thought we wold spend our lives together .. i speak of the good times now but there were times that her baggage came out and with out an open communication at these times it would be impossible to have a lasting relationship ...no such communication was possible ... and i know us being apart is better ..but i am still so in love with her ...i messaged her a few days ago and showed her pictures of my apartment which i have renovated ..the finished product ..she didn't reply ..i messaged my feelings and she replied with i think you should move on like i have ..i asked her if she was seeing anyone and she said yes ...i had to get myself home and i vomited many times and just put myself to bed ..i am reliving the weekends i said with her and seeing another guy in her life exactly like i was ...i try to reflect to the times that help me understand that it wouldn't have worked between us but my heart is so full of love for her .. its painful and i can't stop crying

[monkey_magic]

Heya back,

It's going to be a furnace apparently so staying cool is a priority ~

I might be hiding out in the shops air-conditioning.

Yourself? 

[awrinkle_in_time]

Yes hot up hear too ...Hanging out in the shops do some shopping get a nice coffee .. sounds nice

I worked today got out early ..had a good day the car A/C didn't get turned off .. Going out with a group of people tonight.... going to the surf club ... there is a band on ...tomorrow is a day off ... All seems to be okay ...no real tough emotions this weekend so thats good ...so far ..

Enjoy your weekend Monkey ... 🙂

[awrinkle_in_time]

Hi , i chickened out last night going to meet these people .. i came home ... just didn't feel like it .. had a day of house duties today ... Hope you survived the heat okay ... Going to put sleepy music on and drift off ...Good Night X

[monkey_magic]

I get that~ not feeling like it,lacking energy, simply lacking something. Unfortunately I've been feeling down & empty~ not good, so I must do something about it. Sometimes there can be a black hole hey...well that's what I felt today. I will however do something about it~ & that's key acknowledging the feelings then finding that " happy" place again...

Nothing better than being solid, content, happy...I must aim for that. Im not sure where you're at ( feelings)atm but hope you've lifted.

Gnight simon...happy for you to stand on my shoulders to feel taller to face the burdensome world we sometimes live in...

[monkey_magic]

I need to be in a darkened room, disco lights, music & dance until I can't dance anymore

[awrinkle_in_time]

Hi , Sorry to hear your down at the moment ...These times that come around( and i know what you mean) enable us to see how the good times look ...from another place ... go with it ...allow it to pass ..the balance will come back ..it always does ... Ive got your hand baby .. hope it passes soon ...

I had a big shift at Christmas and haven't felt her for a while ...the emotions are at bay at the moment ...when i talked to family about it (again )over the break i think they get in my head and give my brain a real wash out ...or maybe its the the talking it out .. not sure ...

I hope the empty is filled with good , nice , beautiful things , beautiful thoughts ... all the stuff you deserve my friend ..Look after your self xxx

[Sophie_M]

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[awrinkle_in_time]

Hey Monkey , have got the phone thing happening .. it’s so hot today .. crazy ..

just sayin Hi .. have you been on your walk today ? Or a swim at the pool ..I better get back to work .. 🕺🏼That’s a disco dancer ..

[monkey_magic]

Yes I did a walk, now I'm eating chocolate on the lounge~ I've always had the phone thing happening ( if u mean using your pH to use bb). It's been humid here. Makes it uncomfortable exercising. I'm going to stay on the lounge a while and watch TV, much cooler inside.

[awrinkle_in_time]

Yes i did mean for BB , walks are great amazing therapy and easy to do ... Chocolate makes everything thing Okay ... Sounds like a perfect plan to stay cool watch TV and relax on the lounge ... Thinking of Ya .. x