relationship breakup

[awrinkle_in_time]

Hi , i was in a relationship the first after a divorce of a 20 year marriage , i didn't think i would find love again , i meet this lady through some good friends and we started slow seeing each other on weekends , we lived 2 hrs apart .. we found comfort in each other and the time we spent together was the best time i have ever spent with a women , i could watch the grass grow for ever in her company . as time went on the baggage in both our lives came out and instead of dealing with it we just broke up .. she was scared and so was i .. the going our own ways happened so suddenly and i couldn't believe it happened ...approx 10months ago ... we had little contact and got on with our lives ..i whole time feeling very sad i felt a massive loss .. honestly thought we wold spend our lives together .. i speak of the good times now but there were times that her baggage came out and with out an open communication at these times it would be impossible to have a lasting relationship ...no such communication was possible ... and i know us being apart is better ..but i am still so in love with her ...i messaged her a few days ago and showed her pictures of my apartment which i have renovated ..the finished product ..she didn't reply ..i messaged my feelings and she replied with i think you should move on like i have ..i asked her if she was seeing anyone and she said yes ...i had to get myself home and i vomited many times and just put myself to bed ..i am reliving the weekends i said with her and seeing another guy in her life exactly like i was ...i try to reflect to the times that help me understand that it wouldn't have worked between us but my heart is so full of love for her .. its painful and i can't stop crying

[awrinkle_in_time]

Hi Beautiful Lady .. Hope your day was good... its stormy in QLD .. Maybe i can hand everything over to the storm and let it blow out to sea .. wouldn't that be nice ..don't let go of my hand its helping.. ..its helping a lot ....I like to cook chops in the oven ..slowly ...wrapped in foil ...they often not always cook up so tender .Yum ..sauce or gravy is ok .. in my travels at work today i got a real nice coffee .... I love coffee ..no cake ....Did you swim or gym today ..

[white knight]

Hi Simon

Going on dates is the best thing you can do.

Distraction is a great way of putting memories further back.

If you have the time jump on other relevant threads and make comments.

I found its indirect therapy.

Tony WK

[awrinkle_in_time]

Ok will take a look , Thanks

[monkey_magic]

Hey simon,

Did some gym, another small cry...I'll be OK. There's a saying that says " I'm not afraid of the storm, I am the storm" lol...sometimes we are the storm, but yes it would be nice to hand it over to the sea.

[monkey_magic]

Hey Simon,

Hope the dating is keeping you pre- occupied, and you are still doing other things you enjoy. Just a quick check in to see that you are travelling Ok,or not.

[awrinkle_in_time]

Hey Monkey , Not doing the best .. Trying to stay in the bloody moment .. flashes of hey are all over me all weekend ...every weekend ... I miss her so much .. I'm so in love with her ... Lots of tears .. I pull out of it and feel good then like a bullet its back again ... the dating is not for me tried... can't do it ..cant do the one night thing ..want the love ... Im keeping busy at home doing stuff .. I'm busy at work ... it has to pass soon hey .. Thanks for checkin in appreciate it xx

[monkey_magic]

Simon,

Thankyou very much your msg made me smile but then I'm also feeling like you're holding on tight. At least you know what works and what doesn't work for you. You sound so in love with your ex still. It can be a helpless feeling. I'm sad simon. I can't help but feel some of it too.

Take your time, take as much time as you need. You need her spirit with you until you need her spirit to leave you.

I was being loved, but I don't think he's the one, going to look for someone else.

Lub you too, u can get through this simon, u can and u will x

[awrinkle_in_time]

yes i supose she will leave me when its time . i probably am hanging on cause I've got nothing else... i missed out when i was young i didn't get all the dots connected I'm not feeling sorry its just how it is ... mabe thats the problem... needing to much ....i miss that feeling of being alive with her ... it was the best .. it was real so real something I've never had with a women ... going to sleep now ...got sleepy music on... its nice

[awrinkle_in_time]

Hi , got in trouble from BB so sorry if i offended anyone ..I understand and it wont happen again ....

[james1]

hey simonc01,

i found it helped when i took my attention away from my ex. Having her at the front of my mind just made things worse.

Would you like to tell us what you've been up to? You said you were busy at home and at work? What were you doing?

I just recently watched the new blade runner movie. It was looong but I liked it.

James