i need help please

[Jackson1994]

is there anybody there

i need some help i cant cope with this anymore please help

- jackson

[Doolhof]

Hi Jackson,

Hope H is feeling better and you didn't catch what ever she has.

Cheers from Dools

[Jackson1994]

Thanks Dools, definitely not a contagious thing, baby thing

[Doolhof]

Hi Jackson,

Yer, I had wondered if that was the case. Some men do go through "changes" and episodes while their partners are pregnant so I have heard.

Hope H is doing okay now and all is well with the baby too!

[Jackson1994]

Thanks Dools, it has not been the smoothest of rides but the end (and start if you look at it that way) is near 🤞🏼

[Doolhof]

Hi Jackson,

If you don't mind me asking, what month is baby due? Does H feel like she is receiving enough help, advice and care that she needs during her pregnancy?

It can certainly be a time of many changes within the body, hormones running amok and all kinds of weird and wonderful things happening.

All the best to the three of you!

Cheers from Dools

[Jackson1994]

Due August, lots of support around but finding it hard with a few complications and she keeps getting fed the idea that it’s a beautiful time and you should embrace it, which isnt wrong but when you are that sick all the time and exhausted, and things aren’t going quite right with the baby, everything is changing. it isn’t always nice but it’s that pressure that she should be, do you know what I mean?

[Doolhof]

Hi Jackson,

You don't really want to know what my pregnancy experiences have been.

I do understand that like all things in life, if everything is going to plan and there are no complications, then yes, it is so much easier to have a smile on your face the whole time and to be joyfully expectant. Pregnancy is no different.

It is only normal if their are concerns and worries around a pregnancy if there have been some issues. As this is the first one, it can all be a little over bearing as well.

Hopefully you can just thank people for their advice and seek all the reassurance and advice you may need from the medical profession.

No question is a silly question either! If you are not sure about something, ask a professional. Granny (For example) might have a home remedy, but medical advice is always good!

The best you and H can do right now is embrace the lovely moments, make the most of the rest of the time and have open communication sharing your highs as well.

Cheers again from Dools

[Jackson1994]

Not going to lie, it’s tough and it’s taking its toll on both of us, but there are a lot worse things that could be happening right now, we’ll get through this and it will all be worth it.

Today was a really challenging day, I have been doing some PD stuff with work this week and some topics extremely close to home came up, in detail, both in the content and the discussions/judgments in the room. I was able to leave the room and have a chat to H on the phone which really helped. Conversations at work about the topic I can deal with and contribute to, but this content was full on, and then it’s a room full of other people I mostly didn’t know who all had opinions, it was like nope, I want to tell all you random people my own experience and that your judgements aren’t appropriate because i’ve seen this and been through this in my own family but I won’t, i’ll go cry outside instead...

Sitting at the beach, it’s getting dark and stormy, but it’s a good way to wind down after a huge week.

[Doolhof]

Hi Jackson,

Yes, there are worse things happening in the world, but right now this pregnancy is part of your world and H's as well.

Are there people who can help and support you both? Does H have a midwife or a birth person she can talk to about issues? (I'm not sure how the system works these days)

If you need to chat to someone, would you consider calling the Mensline or Beyond Blue? The support people may be able to put you in touch with services in your area.

Sorry Jackson, I can't think what PD means, could you please inform me, thanks.

Also sorry to read you have been triggered. Hope you are able to discuss that with someone as well.

Is you Dr helpful regarding the pregnancy? They may be able to suggest some extra support you can connect with.

Sitting at the beach in a storm sounds excellent! That is my kind of thing.

We don't have a beach near us, so I grabbed the jar of Nutella a spoon and a coffee and sat down on the freshly grown weeds out the back, listened to the birds and the trucks and had a picnic for one!

Dools

[Jackson1994]

Hey Dools, yeah we are lucky that we have some supports our families and professionals have been really good. We have a good support network, H is involved in a more personalised midwife program, really lucky to have that opportunity through the public system, most people don’t get that.

PD is professional development, it was a really great learning experience but super heavy topics.