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Feeling down due to fatigue & undiagnosed health issues

Elizabeth CP
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I haven't been using the forums much apart from a couple of responses to others posts. I stopped as I was too busy & trying to keep up with the forums was becoming too stressful. In September My husband went to Europe which was great although tiring due to the pace of the tour we did. Unfortunately a few days before returning home I fell heavily on concrete steps hurting my right side. I continued on relying on icepacks to manage the pain. I couldn't sleep because of the pain when lying down. The last day I came down with a bad cold which developed into a chest infection later on. The pain eased after 6 weeks & I recovered from the chest infection but have ongoing problems with fatigue & abdominal discomfort. My GP arranged pathology tests. The blood tests are normal but urine isn't. Today I was sent for a ultrasound of kidneys & bladder. Next week I have a gastroscopy & colonoscopy. My stress levels seem to be escalating out of proportion each time I see the GP & get sent for more tests. Prior to my accident my mental health issues were settling down but the last week it is much worse. I have lost my temper a few times in the last week without much provocation. This is not normal for me. I have been on a diet for several months but I am now finding it really hard to stick to it I just want to go & eat food I know will make me feel worse. The diet is a healthy one which I normally find easy to stick to because the food is satisfying.

I just want to get back on track & feel in control of my life & not feel so stressed & down. I also feel guilty for feeling this way because There is no confirmation of a serious illness.

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Thanks Shell for your thoughtful suggestions. At the moment I'm too down to even try. Getting a message with a photo from my OS daughter just made me feel worse reminding me what I'm missing but when I can I will try your ideas.

I will virtually just sit and visit with you a while Elizabeth, if you will have me. No words are needed at all

You popped into my thoughts today Elizabeth. No need to reply... no pressure. But wanted you know you are thought of.

Shell xx

Thanks Shell for your kind words. I have really appreciated your thoughtfulness as well as Demon blaster & Quirky. You each have a lovely caring attitude that helps.

Sorry I'm not up to writing much I'm still very down & exhausted.

Hi Elizabeth glad to hear your still going despite everything 🤗 and I’ve been very down since Tuesday this week gone. Actually this is the worst I’ve been even since pre antidepressants so I kind of know where your coming through in a way.

Hi dear Elizabeth and everyone 👋

I really hope your lifes getting some light in it dear lady you've been having such a rough time poor soul 🤗 that's a gentle hug if you'd like it.

Hoping your wrist is mending hun too and that hubby is back to normal.

I know how it can get feeling so low lovey it's so hard in those times isn't it. Dig deep Elizabeth with belief you can pull out of this. What makes us feel worse is accepting down comments that make us sink lower. We tend to go with our thoughts.

By challenging and talking to the negatives can help us realize they're not how we want to feel. It allows us to think more on the subject which we need rather than only hearing the one thought.

I'm so sorry you're feeling so bad. Not at all a good way to be poor lady. Please don't worry about replying unless you're wanting too. It's so hard in lows I know.

You'll get through this darl because you're a survivor and you do have the inner strength to draw on.

Much care and friendship 👋🕊👀💗

Sorry I haven't replied for so long. Things have been up & down. I went away for a couple of days last week which gave me a break and a chance to get some needed rest. While away I visited my parents grave and cleared the grass encroaching on the plaque. It was nice to read what was written as it reminded me of things mum did and dad's plaque had a rose engraved because he loved growing roses and mum would tell us about him presenting her with beautiful corsages he made from his garden. He also carved a lovely rose on a jewellery box he made for me so the rose reminds me of his talent and thoughtfulness.

Since returning things have been stressful. His NDIS plan review is coming up so I've had a few meetings discussing that. Tuesday was very stressful & my hand/ wrist was very sore so I couldn't sleep. I'm overreacting to the smallest upset

Hi Elizabeth⚘and all other good people 😊

Good seeing you Elizabeth ☺ and honestly there's no rush to reply just when you're up to.

Sounds like you had a good break which is so much needed in hard times like you're having. Glad you got some rest too.

How beautiful those memories of your Mum and Dad and the Roses. So lovely hearing that.

Sounds like it's all pretty full on still hun. The NDIS part you'll be looking back on in no time. There's a fair bit involved isn't there.

Ouch your wrist still giving you some grief poor thing. We use our arms and hands all the time as you'd well know. I think we realize how much we use and knock body parts in injury.

You're under high stress anxiety and depression I think the three Elizabeth that are all going to make you upset at a lot of things especially when they don't run smoothly dear lady it's frustrating and very hard.

Sounds like such a simple thing but it really does help to keep at regular intervals deep breathing hun. Focus on that only. The energy used to make you feel down if you can draw on that to pull you through good lady by working at not giving any negative thinking further thought. Also believing as we do and know that you can get through these hard times dear lady it's such hard yakka. Pffttt no one needs it hun.

Take good care darl been thinking and hoping things are better for you.

Absolutely no pressure or rush to reply ⚘💗

Sorry I haven't replied for ages. Things have continued to be stressful. Today I saw a specialist who confirmed what I believed was wrong with my hand. I have been frustrated because my appointments changed to telehealth due to the lockdown but still haven't changed back to in person. This has been ineffective and I felt her advice was no longer helpful as my hand/thumb changed. The doctor confirmed what I believed and he showed me his notes which will be seen by the hand therapist which states that the treatments she was giving me are no longer appropriate. Hopefully I can get the right exercises which I've been asking for but told I shouldn't do.

I was worried that people would think I was being difficult or making things up but having the doctor tell me the diagnosis and what caused the problem was a relief. It is likely to take a long time to recover but at least there is a proper diagnosis by a specialist rather than assumptions which I felt were incorrect.

Hi Elizabeth,

Hopefully you are on the right track now and treatment/therapy/action can be taken to help you.

At one stage, the physio was offering phone services, I didn't take them up on it as I know I am not good at helping myself. Thankfully we have been able to return to contact visits!

It sounds like recovery is possible so that is a good thing. Wishing you well in this. Cheers from Dools