Anxiety issue

[BballJ]

Hi all,

I took abit of convincing myself to join the forums and write in here but just wanted some advice.

in the past two weeks, I have had anxiety spiralling out of control, I am unable to concentrate at work or at home, I continually think of the worst case scenario in anything, I wake up in the middle of the night having panic attacks (heart racing, in shaking, heavy breathing) I haven't slept more than 4 hours each night and during the day I am in a constant stressed state that by 2 pm I am tired as can be, I hate being alone, if I'm driving I feel the need to call someone just so I can get my mind off my anxiety and contanst worry feelings. I have lost my appetite, eating maybe one meal a day simply because I cannot eat. I have tried natural over the counter medicine to try and alleviate the anxiety and calm me down but they don't work.... Does this sound like GAD and should I see a doctor about medication?

thank you in advance for your replies.

Jay

[CMF]

Hey Jay,

Just dropping in to see how your weekend was? Did you get up to much?

RX, yes i think i have found my calm. I think you have also😉

[CMF]

HI Jay, came across this and wanted to share it with you;

'You never know what's around the corner. It could be everything, or it could be nothing. You keep putting one foot in front of the other, and then one day you look back and you've climbed a mountain.'

cmf x

[BballJ]

Hi CMF & randomx,

Again, thank you for your replies. I took a few extra days off the forum, had some issues to sort out with my now Ex. Been thinking a lot of things through and trying to work through so much stuff. Each day presents it's own battles and I am trying to work through each of them. Some days are worse than others.

I loved the quote by the way, I am a sucker for a good quote. I think it applies to you as well.

Will reply to you on your thread, CMF.

My best,

Jay

[CMF]

I'm so glad to hear from you Jay. I've missed you. You will have ups and downs, just work through at your own pace, one thing at a time. I do sense a bit more positivity, I hope I'm right. I look out for you every day and hope you are doing ok.

cmf x

[BballJ]

Hi CMF,

I actually think about you a lot when I am off the forums. I guess that's what happens when you speak to someone almost daily for a year. I do hope you are doing ok. I am alright, today was a nice day. Not major drama's other than really just struggling to be alone at the moment, it is probably the one thing that is on my mind a lot but it's ok. Learning to be alone is part of this.

My best,

Jay

[CMF]

Hey Jay,

If it makes you feel any better, I too struggled with being alone for a long long time. Believe me, if i can do it, so can you. I think it is about being confident in who we are and being confident enough to say to the world 'hey, I ' need anyone to validate me. I know who i am and I'm proud of me'. For me part of not wanting to be alone was that I felt everyone was out having fun and i felt i was missing out on something. It made me feel so lonely and depressed. I understand that your reasons may be different. I actually love being on my own now. I try to keep busy, but I also like just doing my own thing. I think this comes from being in a bad relationship where i had to justify every move i made and trying to hold the relationship together by doing everything i could to keep him happy but i wasn't being myself. I was being what i thought he wanted me to be and it caused anxiety and i was scared of breaking up and being on my own and having to start all over again. It does take time but you know what, you're not really alone, sort of, you have me if you want to talk or need 'company'. Sometimes i pop into the BB cafe for some social chit chat. Not sure if it is our thing but it can take your mind off things a times.

I'm glad it was a nice day.

cmf x

[CMF]

Found these, thought you may like them;

'Without rain nothing grows. Learn to embrace the storms of your life'

'I believe that sometimes the bad things in life put us on a direct path to the very best times in our life'

Hope your day was good.

[BballJ]

Hi CMF,

Thank you for your kind post, it resonated with me tonight because after I finished going the gym (I joined a gym to try and get healthy and something to take my mind off things) but as I left it hit me how much I am struggling with being alone, it is tough. I feel isolated as I have moved out of home obviously but on the other side of the city, far other side. Part of it is because I literally do anything for my friends in terms of support and being there if they are struggling, I thought I would get the same things but I haven't so I guess that is what has hit me a little. My expectations of others are too high which only leads to disappointment so I need to learn to curve those feelings. I love that you enjoy being alone and your own company, I want to get to that stage. Just got to keep working I guess.

Those quotes are great as well, thank you for sharing.

My best,

Jay

[CMF]

Hi Jay,

for sure it will be tough especially moving across town on top of everything else. It's disappointing that your friends haven't reciprocated and been there for you, people can be so wrapped up in their own world. You're right, less eoecation = less disappointment. It's good you joined he gym, at least you are keeping busy and are around like minded people ie wanting to get fit. Who knows, new friendships may form. As far as me enjoying being alone, I had to be treated pretty badly to get there, I just shut down in the end. I'd sit on my own in coffee shops, away from people cos I was depressed but eventually I came out of it, slowly, but I think once we are confident in ourselves and realise our self worth, we enjoy our own company. You will get there Jay.

what's on for your weekend?

cmf x

[BballJ]

Hi CMF,

I have to agree, you almost have to hit the rock of rock bottom to really try and find a way up. I just find myself going down and down, especially the last 24 hours, I go through periods of utter happiness and then it turns into utter sadness, just really struggling with being alone and feeling like no one cares about my general well being outside of you guys on here. You know I was driving home this evening and before I drove, I looked through my phone of contacts for someone to ring and talk too. I got from A-Z and couldn't find anyone. I ended up ringing my cousin. I lost a good friend of mine this week as well, she told me Saturday she didn't want to be friends with me anymore which hurt. I am sort of used to people walking out on me.

My weekend was ok, nothing special. I will reply on your thread about yours.

Thank you for your lovely message again.

My best,

Jay