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Dear Grandy and Everyone 🤗
I think that was good to tell the area manager you will rethink your decision in the Christmas break. I would say trust your intuition Grandy. If it really feels better not to go back, that sounds like what is best for you. It does sound like it is better for your health.
I am the same as you in that I had to please others as a child otherwise I was met with punishment. I was taught to neglect myself completely while taking care of others. Two days ago I went to my local supermarket and there was a charity raffle. The guy there encouraged me to pay the minimum raffle price of $25. I have regularly donated to charities but I often do so at my own expense. I was so sick that day and could hardly speak. I am also worried about my financial future. But as always, someone else wanted something so I gave it. While it is a good cause, I negated myself in the process. When I got home I burst into tears because I realised yet again I hadn't done what I really wanted in that situation. I have given to charities so many times, but then I look at myself who has no family support and debilitating chronic health conditions, and I think who is there to help me? Only me. And yet I still fail to put myself first when I need to.
So I completely understand what you are saying Grandy, that it is really, really hard to put your needs first. The irony of the above situation with the charity is that morning I was trying to find affordable places to stay in a town I want to visit in order to visit a friend in a nursing home. I was looking for the cheapest place possible, yet I automatically give my resources away to others. I think the thing that can potentially turn the pattern around is when you realise your own health and wellbeing is being seriously damaged by not putting yourself first. So Grandy perhaps even looking at it from that perspective, that you will have less pain and feel so much better in your body when you do take care of your needs. Even thinking of the vulnerable child part of yourself that didn't get the care she needed, and going in to care for that inner child now, might help. Scoop her up and give her a big hug 🤗💗
Also, you can really take heart in the fact that customers were asking about you. That shows you are valued by people Grandy, that people see the light and goodness in you. So know that you are a valued and precious human being deserving of care and respect 🌟
I hope you and everyone are going well today and you are getting some nice rest.
Take care,
Eagle Ray
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Hi darlin 👩❤️💋👩 and all the lovelies here too 😊
Oh I'm glad to hear at least one of the ladies apologised. Yes it would mean a lot. Good hun 🙂
And that you didn't worry about the other one is also a plus too.
That was good of you helping out back, I'd imagine they would have appreciated the help. Sounds like it was pretty full on.
Yip from what you've said in the past it certainly doesn't sound as though they give a toss.
Still I think it'd be a good thing to let them know. Who knows maybe someone might take heed.
That is up to you of course lovey. I just think they need to have their eyes opened and another good towards you standing up for yourself.
Agreed it is good you said you'll have a think over Xmas. Well done darls 🤗
That's so beautiful customers asking after you 😀 it makes you feel appreciated and cared about doesn't it. Loved hearing that.
Dagh not good your poor leg hurting again though. Glad about the sciatica but still you don't want pain again aye. Sounds like it's been flat out too that wouldn't have helped. Good you were resting the poor thing.
All the best with the mammogram huns I know you've had it done. I was sure we (friend) had to go last yr but she thought it was this one.
Grandy love I really do think about you daily often and wonder how it's all going for you. I seriously hope going back isn't a constant down for you though. You don't need that on top of everything else hun. But then I'm glad you're amongst mostly anyway nice people especially customers that clearly care about you. Look how far you've come darlin.
OK precious soul, you look after yourself dear friend esp that leg.
Always so much love sweety girl 🤗💚💗🌺💜🐥
Take good care everyone too 🕊 It's a bit pale but that's a white dove. Might need the hubble telescope to spot it 😅
See yaz
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Hello Dear Grandy,
Just popping in with a cuppa & (I must admit I did rifle through your 💼 to find it) a cake tin that is always filled with your most favourite cake, calorie free. I also bought along some 🍖 🍖 for the furs.
I've been thinking about you lass & wondering how you are keeping. You are always welcome on mine if you want to pop in, chat about anything or add to the mayhem happening on Croix's iceberg. No pressure lass.
Giving you a big comforting 🐻 hug
Paws
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Hiya Grandy 👩❤️💋👩 Pawsy 🐾 and all other lovelies here and reading 😊
No pressure to reply Mrs lovely, just popping with our lovely Pawsy to have a nice cuppa Baileys and kahlua yummmmm.
Hoping dear friend that things are settling down for you but sadly I very much doubt the leg and bodies improving including the shoulders how are they going darls these days I know one had eased off somewhat.
Anything physically or mentally that affects our sleep and of course the pain makes life a lot harder.
Not long now till Xmas and then you"ll have a well earned break and I guess if you haven't decided yet to tell them if you're staying or not. Geez you've done a few yrs there haven't you there and come a long way.
I've always liked you've been around people as opposed to an empty house of humans. Of course thank goodness you have the eternal both ways love of the furs.
I know some of those have been horrids, shaking head I don't understand how people can be ok with being horrors to others. Pfttt
Ok lovely friend, we're off for a walk which we do most days around half an hr at a good pace. After that we pretty much plonk out 😄 although it doesn't really sound much it is a fair load of walking and as mentioned at pace that's covering more ground.
It certainly is good for mh and being out amongst it's nice.
It's as pretty much mostly a gorgeous sunny day here, I know you prefer rainy ones but sending you some sun for your beautiful heart and soul packed with vitamins and light that spreads throughout your bod. Oh OH lol it's also a slow release med so it'll last for ages and watch when you breath out it releases a Golden light vapour then goes back in when you breathe back in.
Love you Mrs bbff please take care and don't let beasty have control. That's our job now. IT's been sacked!!!!
Cya all...same goes tc and don't let the downs control us 🤗💜💫
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