Need help

[laura86]

Hi everyone,   

I’m new to sharing here but really needed to reach out for help.   

I have been suffering from depression and anxiety for many years now and am currently in a massive low period. I recently left a horrible workplace for a better job- this is a good thing and I am proud of myself for moving on. However I now work for a very small business and don’t have anyone to really talk to on a day-to-day level and this had effected me more than I thought it would. I feel as though I have lost most of the friends I had despite trying to keep in contact and everyone else seems to be overseas, away with work or just too busy.   

A couple of weeks ago I had a big meltdown while

I was home alone.  For the first time in years those truly dark thoughts came back where I couldn’t control my pain and emptiness and thought seriously about taking my life.  The worst part was having no one to reach out to. I felt totally alone and worthless. Although those really bad suicidalfeelings are not as strong I wake up every day with horrible anxiety and sadness. I often don’t know how I’ll get through the day at work and cry whenever I’m alone.      

Since then my partner has come home from his business trip and has been really supportive even though I’m just

sad all the time. I just wish it was over but I feel like it is just getting worse every day.  I can’t afford to see a psychiatrist and in my local area there isn’t like a community-based service that is cheaper. I suppose I feel lost, alone and desperate.     

Anyway, I thought I should try to reach out here and see what happens. 

Thank you for listening and for your support   

Laura

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[laura86]

Hi All,

I hope everyone is having a good week. 

I went to that support group last night and it was fantastic! It was great to meet other people, share our experiences and also get some amazing advice from people who have been through depression, anxiety etc. Everyone was really friendly and we all stayed to talk after the meeting too. It was great just to say some things out loud that have been stuck in my head. There were a few new people like me and I realised what a brave step it was to seek help like this. 

I woke up with anxiety again this morning but I think I'm taking some positive steps to healing myself. 

I hope everyone is having a great week so far.

Love always,

Laura

xx

[Neil_1]

Hi Laura

Thanx so much for sharing your experience last night.  I’m SO pleased to read how it went for you and you even participated as well, which was heaps great to read.  You’re better than I am – I don’t think I could get myself along to something like that.  But it did sound in a way, a little like being here – being with like-minded people.

And you are damn right, it was a brave step for you to take – and I’m just reading some very nice things that you’ve written.  Little steps along the way;  set yourself little goals – and have in your mind as much as you can the word “Positive”  or “Aim for progress”, things like that.

Cheers

Neil

[laura86]

Hi All,

Just touching base with everyone and making sure everyone is having a good week. My week hasn't been too bad. I haven't been crying as much and things are ok. I've still been waking up with anxiety but hopefully that will calm down sooner or later.

I'm seeing my spiritual healer/hypnotherapist tonight so that should be good- I'm looking forward to it. 

Anyway just wanted to say hi and make sure everyone is ok : )

xx

[Neil_1]

Hi Laura

That's so awesome of you to be reaching out to check on others - whilst your doing it so tough yourself.

I'm actually intrigued about your hypnotherapist - is it a matter of them putting you 'under' and to talk about things in your past, whilst you're 'under'??

I'm interested in this, as on a cruise ship last year, I went on stage - for a hypnotist and I was captured and went 'under' - and my daughter tells me it was the funniest thing she's ever seen.

But back to you, yes, I'd be interested in hearing what it's all about - if you're ok with that?

Neil

[laura86]

Hi Neil,

Thank you for your reply.

I'm seeing my friend this weekend that I've been having issues with so I'm a bit nervous. At least it's at an event so there's less chance of being having an emotional meltdown lol.

So with my hypnotherapist, I go there and we talk a bit first about things that have been happening. Feelings, emotions etc. Then we go into 'trance' and it's more like a guided meditation I suppose- I don't remember much but I think the aim is to input positive thoughts and ideas. She doesn't make me cluck like a chicken or anything- I don't think (eek! Maybe she does lol).

But I've been really enjoying going to see her. Her house is so nice and relaxing and I think it's working. I think seeing her and going to this support group are really doing good things with me. I obviously still feel depressed and anxious and after seeing my friend tomorrow I'm sure I'll be worse but we have to keep trying don't we.

Thanks again Neil and have a great weekend!

Laura

xo