Just can't get out of bed soooo tired

[Hopeangel]

Hmmm the black dog is back again grrr finding it so hard just can't get out of bed and want to sleep all day.  Only thing that makes me happy is junk food, gorgeous children and reality TV.  So over feeling this way sleeping all day just seems a good way to not worry anymore. Anyone else do this ? Any tips to get over this depressed state and start living.

[Magyarok]

Hello Hopeangel,

I can empathise with you, some days i just couldn't be asked and staying in bed seems like an all too tempting option.  Personally i find exercise useful in dealing with my depressive downs.  It doesn't have to be anything vigorous, just i nice casual stroll (weather permitting) will do and it is amazing how good you can feel afterwards.

Take care

ignoP

[white knight]

Hi Hopeangel,

IgnoP is right excercise is good for that.  I think it is also important to not fight it too much. Recent opinion is that positive thinking, or rather too much of it can lead you to false hope,,,then you might feel worse from not making the standard you seek.

Once you cycle starts to improve initiate some strategies. It's all about management.

[Magyarok]

White Knight has made a good point too much positive thinking can lead us to over complicating things and over committing on them which in turn leads to over procrastination which leads to us not following through and causes us to feel defeated then guilty.

I think it's best to keep things simple by thinking about what is achievable.  When we are feeling down it could be as simple as something like getting out of bed, having a cup of tea and going for a short casual walk and nothing more.  Whatever you think is achievable.

Take Care

ignoP

[Hopeangel]

Hi guys thank you so much for your kind words and support. Yes unfortunately the weather is awful at the moment so sleeping is all I feel like doing.  Yes I use to play sport and due to injury had to quit ...I use to love it.  I just don't feel like going outside and prefer to just stay indoors.  It really sucks as I use to be such a social and outgoing person that once enjoyed life.   I will take your comments on board and maybe bugger the rain and get out for a wet walk.  I'm also finding I just can't stop over eating and it's getting worse those damn choc chip cookies and chips keep calling out to me and feel so sick afterwards.  My partner is not very supportive as he just does not understand what Im going through so a few issues there as well which is upsetting.  Any tips in how to make him sit up and listen that I just can't get over it and stop pressuring me to get back to work. Thank you fir your help I don't have a good support network so your comments are very much appreciated

[Magyarok]

Hi Hopeangel,

I hope you are having a better day.  Yep, injury really sucks!  I had to give up long distance running because of injury so now i cycle instead.  Are there any other sports / activities that you are interested in that wouldn't effect your injuries?

I used to love running in the rain but please don't force yourself to go out if the weather is awful.  Exercise should be enjoyable and should not feel like a chore.  Staying indoors definitely sounds like a better option. What indoor activities are you interested in?  Something along the lines of arts and crafts could be a good idea - it is enjoyable, you can do it at your own pace and it requires a good level of concentration which will help you take your mind off things.  Just a thought!

I am sorry that your partner is not very supportive and understanding and him pressuring you to go back to work is only going to build resistance and resentment.  He needs to be more encouraging and understanding.  Do you go to counselling?  Maybe it would be a good idea and for him to go as well so he can understand better and you can work together.  Maybe 'date nights' could also be a good idea to build closeness and better communication?

I'm sorry that you don't have a good support network but i'm glad that you are receiving benefit here.  Maybe when you are feeling up to it and more confident you could consider joining some social clubs so you can ease your way back into social situations?

Take care

Dave

[Hopeangel]

Hi Dave
Thanks for your words of encouragement yep getting counselling so that will help. Decided to go out for lunch with my mother the other day after hibernating for 4 months. I met an old colleague I use to work with who offered me a casual job which is pretty exciting. It's funny you mention arts and craft as I have now just started painting again and yes bringing much relief as it feels like meditation and good distraction.

Suggested counselling to Hubby he's not interested which is heart breaking

[Magyarok]

Hi Hopeangel,

That's great that you were able to get out for lunch with your mum and that's really awesome that you met up with an old friend who offered you a casual job.  That's exciting and it's a really positive step.  I wish you the very best with it.

It's also really positive that you have started painting again.  I think it would be a good distraction and gives you an opportunity to express your creativity.  Unfortunately for me i have no artistic talent what so ever - my 5yo daughter draws better than me:) Instead i turn to exercise for distraction.

All the very best to you, let me know how you get on.  Take care:)

Dave x

P.S. sorry to hear that your hubby is resistant to receiving counselling with you

[geoff]

dear Hopeangel, I have just replied to your post about 'your neighbour and his divorce and depression', so I just wonder if there is connection here.

When we have a partner or spouse who is not at all supportive is half of our problems, because everything gets knocked down, so there is no encouragement, which in turn makes us doubtful to try anything, because are left virtually all to ourselves.

I wonder why he has this attitude, it could be because he has been through it himself. L Geoff. x

[white knight]

Hi hopeangel,

Agree with Geoff that id a partner isnt interested in support of counselling then they could be half the problem. love is different for all of us but my wife and I agree, if we didnt do these things together there wouldnt be much of a marriage. That's us.

If you go along by yourself the counsellor wont get a full view of the situation. Sorry, I get angry with some people. My first marriage my then wife had 4 siblings, all in denial of their traits that sent all 5 spouses to the divorce court. Traits like silence used as a weapon, not fulfilling the basic expectations of a spouse like sharing the cleaning etc And some remarried and those marriages failed. And still no counselling. "There's nothing wrong with us" syndrome. Stubborness personified.

Nobody is suggesting there is anything wrong with "them". But to go along and receive some tips on how to help your partner/spouse is the least one can do . This attitude of refusing to go counselling is a display of lack of care. IMO