Loving someone with Depression

[Timeout]

If you have depression you know how hard it can be at time, you cut your self of from everyone out there, you get in to a very bad head space and a black hole.

Are there people out there that can love us all the time with owe depression. And stand with us when we are in that mind set, as I have heard a lot of people and my self had people walk away because it gets to hard. Now I think I am un-loveable because of what I have.

Do they fall in love with you and only find out about your depression years later as you try and hide it from them at the start as you want someone to let be you?

[geoff]

hello Timeout, a very good question you have raised, and each one of us may have different thoughts, but never the less it's very good.
You can certainly fall in love even though you're struggling with depression, this puts you on 'cloud 9' or a honeymoon period, so your depression is pushed to one side and all you're interest is with your new love, but as time progresses both of you begin to open up to each other and the secrets begin to appear, then it's impossible to hide or even pretend that you're OK, your moods will change, just as your temperament so you won't be able to hide any of this.
People can still love you but all they want to do is help you, such as going to the doctors, getting any medication and encouraging you to go your psychologist or who your doctor refers you to, however this is when it can become difficult, when you refuse to take the medication prescribed, don't go to your psych appointments and refuse everything they have encouraged.
Love is strong but it has to go both ways, one person can not love someone when they don't want to help themselves. Geoff.

[Timeout]

I hear what you are saying and I feel that is very true at the start it’s amazing then the real test start once you one up to each other.

i know love does go both ways I have learnt the hard way, I know the person that loves us only wants to help as it’s what we do for people we care about. Even with there love we feel alone that’s the hard part.

to anyone out there that reads this that has depression- I know it’s scary and hard to open up as if your like me you feel the will run away, but you should try even if it’s only a little bit so they can see how you really feel.

i had someone that loves me for me depression and all, she gave me chance after chance and wanted us to be together, one night we had a fight and she just wanted me to reassure her that I loved her and wanted to be with her, I said I was unsure. 10min later I walked out and now we are over.

she knew about my depression and still loved me, she just wanted to know I loved her and I know now I should of said something I should of said I love you so much I’m just done so I fined it easier to be alone, but I still love you. If I said that she would of know I still want to be with her.