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Hi all , new to the forum , the amount of strong people sharing their stories is amazing and makes me realise I'm not alone. I have suffered from depression for a number of years , normally I can manage it that no one even knows. When I leave the house i put on my mask and can only be myself when im alone. I just dont know why I am here or what the point of life is ? Like many others I just hope every night that I dont wake up , the torture to finally stop. I use many different tactics such as gym, meditation , healthy eating , music but nothing is helping .... How do you maintain a relationship when im like this ? My partner complains that Im distant , but i cant even get close to myself ? Any help is appreciated..
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Hi ,
It is funny that you speak of philosophy, as I have recently been listen to podcast on this very topic and do understand to some degree the point that you are making. It does not necessarily provide the answers but challenging questions for our mind to contemplate and how I fit in to the bigger picture. Meditation is definitely a facet that I would like know on a deeper level, I believe that there is great potential in the mind . It seems that you are well educated and knowledgeable around mental health and the use of channeling one's energy to find purpose , I would like to understand more..... craig
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Hi Craig, I'm a newbie to the forum also. Reading your post is the first thing to make me smile today. I completely relate to what you are saying about trying to put on a brave face. I've suffered on and off from anxiety/depression for ten years. It comes and goes, and whilst something is normally a trigger, I don't understand why sometimes I brush stuff off, and other times it drags me down. I'm going through a rough patch right now, and like you, nothing seems to be helping. But I know from past experience that this will pass, and I'll be better prepared when it happens again. It sounds like you have some good strategies in place, so all I'll say is you are most definitely not alone mate.
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Hi Speedbird , you are spot on , a small trigger can set it off sometimes and then something major happens and everything is under control. Im sorry to hear that you are also going through a rough patch, but I can tell that you have amazing strength and character . It is good to know that we are not alone , it has taken me a long time to reach out , and Im so glad I did ! Thank you for the support and take care
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Craig
thanks for feedback and am pleased the suggestions may help.
If you want you can tell us how some of the suggestion worked .
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Speedbird
Welcome to the forum and thanks for your post on Craigs thread.
I too don’t know why sometimes things don’t upset and other times a small comment may make me cry and feel low. Sometimes I can see a pattern .
The good thing about the forum is we can read about others e periences and realise we are not alone.
Thanks again speedbird.
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Hi Craig
I love philosophy, as it tends to trigger a variety of positive aspects/facets, such as the sage in us who can relate to some of the welcomed revelations philosophy offers, the analyst who likes to analyse the hell out of life at times, the wonderer that wonders about the deeper meaning of life and human nature, that soulful sense of self that loves the language of philosophy etc etc.
Meditation's an interesting topic. Personally, I used to believe meditation was largely about chanting 'Omm' or something along those lines while trying your hardest not to think. Over time I came to realise meditation is so much more than that. We can meditate on just about anything. Most of us used to meditate as kids, without even realising. We may have meditated on clouds, their shapes, how they led us to feel as well as perhaps meditating on the sound of rain on the roof of our home at night and how peaceful it led us to feel. Again, with that rain, we'd meditate of the smell of it coming in the distance at the end of a long hot summer spell. There would be an incredible excitement generated by the smell of rain in the air. I suppose you could say it's a form of aromatherapy, bringing us that joyful sense of relief from the draining heat. To meditate, to give full focus to something, our 100% focus, is to fully ingest what we see, smell, taste, touch and/or hear. To ingest it so intensely, so fully, to the point where we feel it's impact (whether it's through the imagination or through reality) is what it means to feel life and our connection to it.
Some forms of mediation prove to be an undeniable form of torture. Meditating on what 'numb' feels like, on what facing so many depressing factors in life feels like or meditating on not being able to feel the kind of love you wish to feel, such as a soulful sense of self love, are all incredibly taxing forms of meditation, that's for sure.
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Hi Craig..lost hope is unfortunately the very nature of depression..I personally have found medication very helpful..I detested the thought of medication but after trying everything else for over 9 months I decided it was worth a try and Im very glad for it now..I have noticed that hope started to come back and I was enjoying things again like hearing the birds sing and feeling the sunshine on my skin whereas prior to that I could not care less for either.
And these forums help me too..it is nice to know you are not alone in depression..
Hope you can find something that will help soon..🤗
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Hi therising,
I find philosophy a real awakening for the mind and soul , for a short time it takes my thoughts away and fills my head with the thoughtful essence of the complex world in which we live. My thoughts were similar when I was young and naïve, it took me several attempts to begin to appreciate its value and begin to fully understand the complexity of meditation. There are only a small number of times that I feel I have ever really reached the 100 % focus that you mention, and ingest is a good description for me , however when im in a dark place my mind will not allow this to occur. Like all of the other tools that can be utilized, it needs to be practiced on a regular basis , so it can be utilised when required.
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Hi again,
So last night I decided to watch "The Call to Courage", Brene Brown on netflix with my wife. It certainly does raise many useful points , especially for couples and the communication between them. So I decided to open up a little more of myself and the place I have been in of late , however the response I received was not what I was hoping for. It didnt seem to hurt as much I thought it could , i guess when you are already in the gutter , there is no where else to fall. So without going into details , It is now just me and my dog. Its ok , its my problem to deal with and not hers, I still care and respect her I know she can never understand the impact her words had last night. I guess this is what Brene was talking about in the show , about falling and being walked on , but all good , I would do it again.
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Hi Hisown,
Im really glad hope is slowly returning, it is so good to hear that things do improve, I know , this forum has already helped me find strength that I didnt think I had ! I have tried medication , unfortunately it made my circumstance worse, much worse and my doctor at the time would not listen to my concerns and kept pushing me to take them. Maybe in the future I can try this path again , I really dont know , but thank you !