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Loosing my husband
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Hello I cared for my beautiful husband for 12 years with dementia and he was in my arms when he took his last breath in November after his funeral I returned to Perth with my daughter for Xmas then to Melbourne to be with my mum and sister for new year. I was rushed to hospital on 29th December and my gallbladder was removed. I have been at my sisters recovering, grieving and because I have been sleeping sometimes 10-15 hours she says I’m depressed? I miss my husband very much but I’m not in a dark deep hole. I’m just tired. I go home to Newcastle in a week to restart my life without him at home. I have great friends at home to help me if I need to talk. I’m just worried about sleeping the days away? Has anybody else had this experience?
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Hi Jencop,
Welcome and thank you for reaching out to us.
Firstly, I am so very sorry for your loss, it sounds like you had a lovely partner to share your life with.
I don't get the impression you are depressed, I get the impression you are just trying to recover from all that has happened. I know first hand that a carers role can be demanding and tiring, add to that your deep grief for your husband, flying from one state to another and then having surgery. I would be stunned if you were not feeling tired and perhaps even a little run down.
Grieving effects everyone differently so I would not be concerned that you are sleeping long hours this early in the grieving process. Your mind, emotions, body and spirit have all been through a lot, so let them recover, sleep is the best way for that to happen. If in a few months your sleeping pattern hasn't improved, then talk to your GP, but for now, just try to go with the flow and if you have concerns that you want to talk about, we will be here to support you through what ever it is.
The fact that you have great friends to support you at home will be the best medicine for you, just let the process play out as it may and give yourself some time and most importantly, take good care of yourself.
I will be happy to talk more if you wish,
indigo 🌹