I'm too scared to tell anyone how i feel.

[Ciara]

There are so many depressing things going on in my life and i dont know hot to cope. I'm not good with expressing my feelings so what do i do. How do i have this conversation with my parents or my family. Im just so angry and frustrated. I need help before it gets worse. Please can anybody help me.

[Lost_Girl]

Hi Ciara,

I am sorry to hear things are really tough for you right now. Posting here is very brave and a good first step so well done!

Can I ask how old you are Ciara? Is going along to your local Dr/GP on your own an option for you? If it is, they are a great first point of contact to talk though things with when you need to.

If you are still in school is there a school counselor that could help?

If you feel comfortable giving some more information here there are many wonderful people here who may be able to offer some help based on their own experiences. Ifind sometimes it's easier to type than talk as you can go back and check what you wanted to say.

Any information you share will help us help you.

I hope you write back Ciara.

I am going to try and get some sleep myself now as it's 2:30am here but I will check back in when I awake and you may also find you have some other responses by then.

Kind thoughts,

Carol

[geoff]

hi Ciara, I'm not sure that anybody struggling with depression can openly express themselves when they first try to talk to someone, but as time progresses it will become a little easier.
Whether it's your mum or dad who you feel more comfortable with I would approach them first of all, and slowly edge in by saying that your friend maybe suffering from depression and it worries you, then any parent will then ask you how you feel and if you are suffering as well, that's the opening you want and reply by saying 'yeh I think so', and that you want to see the doctor.
See how that goes and then please get back to us, because you need support through this rough journey. Geoff.

[Dennis38]

Hey Ciara

Hope you are feeling a little better, but let me give you some thoughts and ideas do keep in mind that I shoot straight and do not sugar coat things and I am a redneck. Now as to not telling anyone trust me do not keep that stuff bottled inside you that is a sure fire way for self destruction I know this first hand and nearly killed myself because of it. When I went and got help some days I could not really talk about what was bothering me so my counciler suggested that before I go see him that I take a deep breath...scream...say sorry to anyone around me for scaring the crap out of them..then write down what was going on in my head, how I was feeling and be HONEST about it. Then take the paper in with me on the next meeting This way I could simply hand him the sheet of paper and let him read it.

Some times it's a lot easier to sit down and write something out. Then in a day or two you can go back to it, re read it and see if you are still feeling the same way and see if you can find some truth in the writing. You see when we suffer from depression we lie to ourselves so much its not funny. Such things as we are worth less not worthy of love, no one loves me, the world is out to kill me...things like that when the TRUE reality is not as dark as we currently see it.

But do get help you are worth the effort but remember this...YOU have to do the work, we can lead you to the door to get better, but you have to walk though that door yourself. Be honest with yourself and your GP or counicler and do the work!!

[Lost_Girl]

Hi Ciara,

If you can, let us know how you're doing.

I hope to hear from you.

Kind thoughts,

Carol