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Hi I'm new and can't spell very well, so ever since maybe 2 years ago I've been super depressed and just haven't been able to dig my self out. Here's the big problem, I can't tell if its me or my dad who's unreasonable I think its my dad but maybe its me idk. if I feel terrible and when I don't feel like I can go to school (school a BIG problem for me) he will take everything that make me feel safe. now that's not say he don't have reasons I do play way to much xbox but ever since "the situation" I've been getting worse and he hasn't been coping well... I want to hurt my self to show him that it's serious but then I think he will just take it all away. I don't know what to do. AND BEFORE YOU TELL ME TO GO TO A THERAPIST... I tried ok none of them worked at all.
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Hello there,
It's nice to meet you. I understand there are some things that have been going on in life, and your dad doesn't seem to understand how difficult it is for you. It also sounds like you can see he's struggling.
Your dad sounds like he wants to help, but doesn't know how and perhaps isn't in a position to listen very clearly. Without knowing more, this feels like a situation where someone else could help. It doesn't need to be a therapist, it could be family or friends, to shoulder some of the burden of you and your dad. Outside of that suggestion, do you think there is a way you can explain what is going on to your dad and what you need from him?
James
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the thing is that I don't know what I need. everything is changing around me and I can't keep up, I try telling him but I feel like it never helps. it feels like a failure on my part and I think it is. but everyone says it isn't. I can never put in enough effort to see thing through. some days all I do play xbox half-heartedly for hours because I feel like I can't do anything. I can talk about all my problems for hours but... I think it would be better if I wasn't here.
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Hey, I hear you. It's really hard at the best of times to nail down what we want from others and from life in general, let alone when we are already so mentally drained it's hard to do anything other than play xbox and zone out. You wouldn't believe the number of hours I've sunk into Tetris Connected and Gears, just to distract myself.
I don't want to push you, but just letting you know that you can absolutely talk about your problems here to us. More than likely, we'll have had similar things in our past or current.
It is hard to know without living in your shoes, but sometimes it can help to find another person to help expand your support network. Even though things aren't working out with your dad at the moment, it might just be that he needs to work out something himself, or he's not able to provide the kind of support you need. I don't think that's his or your fault. I think it's normal to need to rely on a few different people for different things. Sometimes, that 'someone' might even be like an xbox, to just ride out the wave until you're better rested. Then it might be someone to convince us to get off the couch and do something else. Different horses for different courses.
Nice to hear from you again
James