I am tired of not being understood.

[Leisa68]

Hi all,

I have posted here before. However today I am writing because I am tired. I read posts from this forum from time to time, depression is tiring. I am asking for advice due to recent events.

I have a good relationship with my partner, who I have a son with. He is attentive, caring, and looks after me. Around six months ago I met someone who I feel very attracted to. I am older than this guy. We have become friends, he knows my true age, and has told me that I am too old for him. I understand this. He has given me his phone number, but I am only allowed to text him. I am very attracted to him.

However, I am struggling with all sorts of things. Number one: I am betraying my partner. I have told him about this guy and he has told me I can text anyone who I want. I wish he would say no. I wish he would not say that. Number two: this guy tolerates all of my crap, and has given me his phone number. However, I am only allowed to text him. Number Three: I am very confused about this all.

I was diagnosed with BiPolar two weeks ago. I am very confused. I would appreciate any advice on this matter. I am a mum in a unhappy relationship, but I really need to do the right thing. In particular, I need to do the right thing by my son.

Thanks

Leisa68

[jess334]

Hi Leisa68,

Sounds like a confusing relationship that you have with this new guy. Why would he put restrictions on how you can contact him? Is he hiding you from someone else? I don't think age is a reason not to be with someone, but if he feels that way then you will not be able to change that.

Two weeks is not a long time into your diagnosis. I think some of the confusion and difficulty you are having with this situation could resolve once you have stabilised your moods.

The main thing your son needs is for your mental health to be the best that it can. Focus on your diagnosis and your treatment plan for now, the relationship stuff might become clearer once your treatment has progressed a little.

Kind thoughts, Jess

[Leisa68]

Hi Jess,

Thanks for your post. I am feeling better today and am going to work on my moods and relationship.

Leisa 68

[Pete66]

A little confused
Are you still with your partner ?
If so, it sounds like you need to have a talk with him
Be open and honest , if he needs to change then explain what you want

[jess334]

Hi Leisa68,

I'm glad your feeling better today. I hope you start having more good days than bad.

Kind thoughts, Jess

[SarahZ]

Hi Leisa68,

Thanks for reaching out. Glad you are feeling better recently. I hope you continue down this trajectory!

Reading your post, it definitely sounds like a challenging and confusing situation to be in. I am quite confused as to why the younger man has placed restrictions on you? is he doing this to ensure you stay only as friends?

However, just like jess334 said, if you just focus on stabilising your mood hopefully the relationship aspect of your life will become much clearer. Your son will be happiest when you are healthiest 🙂

Sending you positive thoughts and wishing you all the best.