Can't find decent help

[No_one]

Ok so my life's a mess my nan died in February more like a mother to me than anything I have female problems on top and keep getting knock backs for a gono appointment I have no money so help is hard to find and waiting lists are over a year I'm worried if I wait a yr for gono I'll already be gone, I suffer anxiety untreated for most of my life but now I think my grief has sparked it into overdrive it's now September I've lost the whole yr and don't really care I'm getting aggressive impatient and I feel I need help, doctor just refers me around and I get nothing no help at all in the end what do poor people do for help ? I'm losing my mind I just want to function again, please don't say have you got friends or fam that support you . No I don't I've been alone for many years it was just me and nan now it's just me and I don't feel I belong anywhere I'm 31 live in Melb am overweight lonely depressed feeling insane does loneliness affect people like that I'm unsure. P.s I've done the mental health plan and am waiting for an appointment with some fresh outta uni student who will think I'm nuts cause I've never spoken too or had a friend since kinder. And over the years I've seen the health care system fail so many who seek help where to go what to do is the question I spose, sorry if it's a jumble first time here 

[white knight]

Hi No one,

Loneliness is dreadful IMO. My wife and I have been going to a gym for the last 8 weeks and both of us are really fit and starting to lose weight. We commented to each other that we couldn't do it alone. We both need to be in a mentally content place to go there and endure the 50 minutes workout. Alone we wouldn't last.

And that's just one thing that loneliness would be tough on. Our whole lives are effected positively if we find a caring partner. Ever thought of meeting a country guy? with the long term view of finding a life long partner and living in the country? I often mention in this forum, the wonder of living in the country and the positive effects it has on ones depression and anxiety.

Dating agencies are frowned upon but more and more singles are turning to the online profiles to find their perfect match...and why not? Those days when you went to a dance and paired up are over. There are no dances anymore. Nightclubs are more pick up points for one night stand- yuk!!. So don't be afraid. There are so many single guys in the country in the same lonely situation as you.

Your Nan must have been a special lady. After my special dad passed away I used his passing (after a period of grief) to motivate me into a new journey- in his name. In 1983 I had attended a motivation lecture that changed my attitude to challenges, effectively turning anything negative into seeing positive. So by 1992 when dad passed I was determined to be as good a man as he was, perhaps a different man but an honourable one. So you might think of ways to honour your Nan. She'd love that.

You are on the right track medically having started the health plan. Cant offer you anything more on that.

The suggestions I've put to you might seem radical and need time to consider. They are just suggestions. Hope you are ok

Tony WK

[Ellie05]

Hi There,

I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. There's nothing worse in life than losing someone you love.

The only advice I can really give is to be kind to yourself during this difficult time. I wouldn't worry about your psychologist judging you - they get into the profession because they want to help those with mental health issues and I'm sure there's nothing you can tell them that's any crazier than what they've heard a million times before.

Maybe it's worth seeing a new doctor if you're not happy with the one you currently see? There are some GPs listed on this website who specialise in mental health. 

[Narniakid]

Hi No one, welcome to the forums and thank you for reaching out to us.

Firstly, I am so sorry to hear about your Nan. I spiralled into depression after the death of my Nana, as she was extremely close to me, so I know exactly where you're coming from. 

In your current situation, I'd definately be seeking professional help. Don't worry about the "fresh out of uni" psychologist you've made an appointment with - they're prepared to listen to anything and everything and help as much as possible, and if you find you don't connect with them, simply book an appointment with someone else. I tried about 4 different psychologists before I found one I really liked, and I've been seeing her for 5 years now and I've managed to make some remarkable progress. 

Particularly during the grieving stage of your Nan's passing, I urge you to be kind to yourself - the last thing she would want is for you to beat yourself up over her death. I know you are strong enough to get through this, and getting some help and advice from the right people does not make you any less capable. 

If you feel you're at risk or on edge, please call the hotline. We are always here to listen to you and guide you in the right direction. Stay strong.

Crystal 

[Shaz1]

Hi, 

i'm finding help hard to find to. I am a single parent, no friends/family closeby. And not ones I can talk to anyway. 

I don't have a job, overweight and everyday I have to "fake" being ok just to keep others happy. It's soooo tiring! 

I have a physcologist whom I've been seeing for two years and she has saved me many times, but I feel I've put up a wall now. Maybe I don't want to be saved anymore?? 

Ive tried many strategies and I really become addicted to whatever activity I may be into at that time. (I remember colouring in for 8 hrs straight just to keep my mind occupied) 

i hate feeling this way, but can't see a way out. 

I hope you can get the help you need, being honest and open to a physcologist is best. Don't go into it presuming they have made judgements. 

Take care

shaz

[Jo2015]

Hi Shaz

have you tried calling your local CAT team? I had to the other day and 2 case workers came out who have been great and given me information I never knew existed out there 

 i know its hard when you feel like you have tried everything though but please don't give up 

Jo 

[Lost_n_confused]

Can u tell me what CAT is?

[JessF]

It stands for Crisis Assessment and Treatment team. If you google that and your local area you should be able to find it.