A friend wrote this and with her permision i am posting it here really shows the fight.

Dennis38 · ‎24-05-2017

A friend of mine wrote this and with her permission I am posting it here. This screams to me of the fight that we all go though..depression is a rough thing but despite the lies it tells us...each and every one of us is way stronger then we thought!

And he said to her "You're worthless."She bowed her head in acceptance.

And he said to her "No one could love you."She felt the hurt each time they left.

And he said to her "You are grotesque."She gazed in the mirror and saw the truth in his words.

The more he said to her, the more the darkness consumed.

And he said to her "You should rid everyone of your pathetic existence."She raised her head and meekly replied "No."

The war began and every battle was hard fought. Painful sobs. Screams of victory. Agony from defeat.And he said to her "Just give up. You are tired of fighting me. Of fighting what you know is truth. You are worthless. Ugly. Stupid. Needy. Unloved and barely tolerated. End it!"She let the tears fall freely as she looked him in the eye...."No."

To me this was a very strong message!

We all think that we stand alone in the dark, yet reach out my friends and you will find a hand there willing to help you into the light, to help you get back onto your feet and once again hold your head up high. You truly are worth the effort even though the depression lies and tells you that you are not! Keep fighting for YOU are worth the fight!

blondguy · ‎25-05-2017

Hi Dennis

You are spot on that we are not alone with depression...absolutely. Friends will help us find the light at the end of the tunnel.

You have been on here for a long time Dennis. Its difficult to comment on what your friend said as we dont have a reference to the whole story or a point of reference

Just my very humble opinion Dennis but 'fighting' depression will only exacerbate the illness and the intensity of its symptoms. Calm and true acceptance of the feelings will decrease the impact of this awful condition

I hear where you are coming from though. This is my 35th year with anxiety/depression

my kind thoughts

Paul

geoff · ‎25-05-2017

hi Dennis, good to have you back, you're always welcome as I hope you know.
To me this is a battle of dominance, where his control isn't being accepted by her, by all of this amount of abuse that he wants her to realise he has over her.
She is very brave to stand up to him, even though it may not be shown, but deep down she knew what she was saying, and by doing this she needs the support from other people who know what sort of situation she has to cope with.
Any powerful and/or dominant r/ship is only going to be painful for the person copping it all, and only harm will be the result, that's when you must decide that if you stay in this r/ship you will only be abused even further.
Many times we hear where people keep returning to a r/ship that they detest and are totally frightened of, but for your own safety and peace of mind you must end it, whether you do it secretly or whether you feel strong enough to tell them, is a decision you have to make, but can I suggest that it's done when no one is around, but you need to have plans that you have organised before hand. Geoff.

Dennis38 · ‎25-05-2017

Hi Geoff hope you are doing well my friend. I have been really busy plus living with a HUGE mistake I made 3 years ago, let my inlaws move in with myself and the wife, the "kids" as we call the two 42 yearolds (who are actually a year older than I am) this was suppose to be a temp solution...I figured 6 months tops...well that 6 months has turned into 3 years and unforitnatly I can not just kick them out..the inlaw's wife is end stage kidney failure and I like sleeping at night so I can't kick them out..no matter HOW much I want to...ugg..wife is dealing with some health issues herself and with me trying to get my chainmail and leather business truly running well lets just say I have honeslty been too busy to feel depressed about anything...just VERY tired but its kind of a good tired. You are right by the way, this writing is actually two fold both about depression and a battle of dominance its a very powerful thing and the pronouns in this righting can easily be changed to suit a guy as well. Hope you are well and kicking butt mate!