The Transcendent Rainbow Cafe - social space for LGBTI members

[Paul]

It would be so great to have a thread here where we can chat about almost anything. We can have fun, tell jokes, share stories, you name it!

There's a "BB Cafe" thread in the general area where lots of people chat daily and have established some nice light hearted conversations, it's treated as if it's a real cafe, there's even virtual baked goods and coffee!

Let's create a chat here for anyone to join, in particular the GLBTIQ community to let their collective hair down and chill out. It's a safe space to be yourself.

We just need a name 🙂

[Guest9337]

G'day Jo.

As nightfall happened I had a bit of a turn for worse and felt sick. anti-nausea pill fixed that somewhat but I remained threadbare and thin, "like not enough butter scraped over too much toast". A lotr quote/paraphrase.

In bed at 8pm and slept till 10 am, so huge 14 hours sleep. Still waking up now.

[Jo8049]

Hi D&G , wow that sounds awful . The sick bit I mean . I would be unable to stay in bed that long . I got a full hip replacement a few years ago , Was grinding up and down the ward next day with a walking frame . Crutches next day . Had to stay a couple of extra days and they wanted rid of me I think as I could nearly catch a nurse by then ?

Sorry you had to feel crook , is that going or gone now ?

I am studying voice control , in a book my gender doctor loaned me . It slow reading but is very interesting also. A more complex thing than I could have imagined .

Take care and stay warm , love to all , Jo&LD ❤🐾💃🌈

[Guest9337]

Today's one of those weird days for me, like on a melancholic spectrum.

Slow. Warm. Comfortable. Thoughtful.

Sad but accepting of sadness.

[Jo8049]

Hi D&G , I am sorry that you are sad . Can chat if you want ( or not ).

Are you ok ? BB 1300 22 46 36 if you are not . xxxx hugs

Jo&LD

[Guest9337]

Yeh I'm ok.

Your dog pic is good.

I removed my doc pic because my dog is such a superstar I loose being anonymous whenever I show her famous face. lol.

Look, there goes dng, he's owned by Buffy the superdog.

[Jo8049]

0400, Clear winter sky , Calm, 1.4° , 41% . WFTNN x .

Hello everyone from the tail of night before daylight disturbs the peace . Happiest day all xxx

Chai , Tea , Hot milk & honey but still out of Milo ? ( shop Wednesday ). Breaky ? Figure that out later ? LD is buried in sleeping bag again . ( her fave )!

Hi D&G , wish a better day for you today xx . Woke at midnight last night to a very loud stereo right outside my bedroom . Was a road train and driver had it very loud to sleep . Lay in bed for an hour grumbling in my head ? Got up and pounded on door . When he appeared he couldn't hear me . " what's wrong " he said after turning it down . I was stunned ! Said "REALLY ?" . It got turned down and back to bed for all . I don't understand and will ponder this question over and over till I die ? Common courtesy and respect would always prohibit me from contemplating such an act ? These factors seem to have slipped away in much of society today . Such is life ! Brings to mind a t-shirt I remembered from the 70's . " Do unto others before they do unto you " . Thought it amusing then , maybe pay back for that thought ?(karma )

Hi Sarah , apologies for rant ! xxx happy warm day and choose wardrobe carefully . Look forward to hearing about your weekend . Do your kids spend much time with you , think I had a busy life at that age ? Was living on own well before then to ? Have been alternating between 2 books and living on pension economy so pretty quiet . The books are the voice training one ( only jut got to excersises ) and Councillors manual . Head is full and tv is not getting much attention . Good thing , right ? Spend most time in bedroom with door curtains closed and a/c on 23° . LD squeezed in to big chair beside me dozing . Such a beautiful creature and wonderful company ❤. Been feeling very solitary lately . Very cold up here at present . 1/4 inch of ice ( frozen water ) yesterday and 12° max for day 👎. Jo got f/b page on Saturday . Not sure how long will stay there ?

Happy warm one my friend , stay safe and am pretty close by this week especially . eternal hugs whenever you want/need xxxx . 4 more sleeps to 🍩☕❤🐾💃🌈

With the first rays of light minutes away I wish for peace love & kindness to prevail and be ever growing for the whole world and all its inhabitants xxxx . Love and peace from the never never , Jo&HRS/LD ❤🐾💃🌈❄

[Guest9337]

Ah yes one of the (possible) misinterpretations of the Golden Rule.

I once witnessed a self proclaimed sadist satanist who argued that because he felt pain when being polite and nice to others, that he instead had the right to be impolite and sadistic to others to avoid his own pain... and called that an expression of the Golden Rule.

Thought/Felt like missing the point of the golden rule to me... but here I am having a look at his possible thought process again.

Could I do some small harm to someone else to achieve some lessening of a perceived larger harm to me?

Still don't accept it. I'll try again...

A sadists experience of "large" pain vs a neurotypical experience of "small" pain = seems like a ripe opportunity for biasing suffering away from oneself onto others. idk is that healthy? Doesn't seem healthy to me.

Seems to me it's a bias that is ripe for concluding or choosing that verbal abuse is worse than physical abuse.

So that one could deduce from that point of view; well they verbally abused me and that hurt, so I killed them to stop my hurting, or so I tortured them to stop my hurting.

I don't think/feel that kind of idea has utility for me.

It's essentially what America decided to do when using the Atomic bombs against Japan. Do overwhelming damage to the Japanese psyche that they no longer would want to fight at all, that they would just unconditionally surrender.

Historically those Atomic attacks are attributed to ending the war in the pacific, but did it Change the American psyche to something even worse than the Japanese Empire's own warlike psyche?

Gandhi thought so and predicted as much.

[Aaronsis]

Happy Monday and huge hugs to you both.

It is really windy and while the sun is out here in Melbourne it is quite cool, you will be happy to know tho that I have dressed appropriately today..lol

I had the most wonderful weekend with a great mix of friends, dinner, Ru Paul's drag race, laughter, cheese platters, kids sport, laying on the couch and some reading too. All in all it was a really great weekend. I didn't get the massage and opted for a bath and some relaxation at home on Friday. Funny you should ask about the roller skating, while we have not been in a while we are planning our next trip and just trying to line our diaries up for a free day, easier said than done these days!

That is so cool that you read all the champs profiles, we are a very mixed bunch with lots of different life experiences and ages and genders and race, so together I think we have most things covered as far as a united group of people who are lifting others. I love it. We all do have our areas that we feel more comfortable and some have areas that they avoid but we do cruise all over the place here and meet loads of wonderful people.

That is really exciting that Jo has a social media page, I hope that with the connection you make there you can support and share and widen your network, so very important. However, it is social media too and comes with all the warnings of trolls and people who have nothing better to do so be mindful of that, as I am sure you are.

I have no words for those who are a rule unto themselves and have no consideration for others, I am always shocked to hear how some people are so unaware of the impact they have on others, although I should not be, but really..how could he not know at a time when most are sleeping that loud music would be not welcome? No apologies for the rant...happy to hear all parts of the day and night..lol

I am so happy to hear that LD brings you so much comfort and joy and that she really does know when to put in a bit extra when you are feeling a bit off, how amazing are animals. My number one cat (eldest) has a toy that she knocked off from my daughter..lol..she used to have it on her shelf and the cat kept going in there and taking it..now she throws it against my door at night if she wants attention...darn cat!

My daughter has decided she would like to try a vegetarian diet so I am off to the shops today to stock up on a list that she has sent me...I wonder how long this will last..lol

Hugs to you both and stay warm.

Sarah xxx

[Jo8049]

0330, Clear cold , Calm , 1° , 37%. WFTNN x.

Good morning time again . Good morning and happy kind day for everyone . Posting from warm bed today , up after posts then work begins at 6ish . Should be home by lunch time gods willing ?

Hot drinks & porridge . LD & I are on strike ! Self serve today . xxxx

Are you feeling better now d&g ? I am old school and sometimes not truly understanding what I read ? I need to understand to have a meaningful conversation . We are moving a D10 today . One of our regulars . A big bulldozer about 75 tons this machine . Short job only about 80 km .xxx

Hello dearest Sarah xxx .hug . If you could see our laziness now. Posting rugged up in bed with coffee and LD between the sheets beside me . ( little darling ).

You had dinner with friends , Ru Pauls Drag Race , is there a restaurant of that name there? I watch RP on tv . ( SBS ). Sounded like a lovely time , it always fills my heart with happiness when you have soul food times S . Your life is very busy and you still fit in these moments xxx.

Vegetarian eh . Not Vegan ? Have you ever been vego for extended period ? I did many years ( decades actually ) ago in mid twenties . You certainly feel and look different . Mentally there is a noticeable difference also . Perhaps to , these feelings are also influenced by why you are not eating meat . As I have said before , when T &I go out to talk to the cows in the cow taxis when they stop outside my house , you never come back inside without the feeling of sadness or guilt even !!! I still go to butcher ???

fb : been staying away for a long time because push messages annoy me & I only used it for 2 groups . East west Trucking in the 70's & 80's and a Norwest group in WA ( trucks ). Jo's been chatting with existing friends and the 2 from Transcendents . I am timid and as careful as possible . xxx

Not sure which day you are going for drive dear friend but we are floating around and here for chats hugs or just sit in the room for company . It will be fine and rewarding xxxx love & peace for you and yours Sarah , relax & stay warm , us ❤🐾💃🌈☕🍩🍷🍫

With the darkness peeling back to reveal an ice coated fresh world we wish you all love peace & happiness from the never never ,xxxx Jo&LD ❤🐾💃🌈

[Aaronsis]

Hey Jo, I was up almost with you this morning as I woke at 5am...gee that is early. I got lots done though as I put the slow cooker on for today, was able to do my hair and watch some morning TV and have a coffee before waking the kids and starting the morning rush. While I am feeling it now and probably ready for a nap, it was kind of good being up and seeing the sun wake up and have that time to myself.
I love that today is self serve for brekky and that you and LD were still in bed enjoying some quiet time in the warmth before your day started too, sounds perfect. LD all snuggled up in the sheets next to you is just way to cute, bless her little heart xxx
Ru Paul is the TV show, we all get together to watch it as we just love it, love the make up, the talent that these Queens have to be able to create costumes, to own their designs and also own who they are is just so incredible and so very inspiring and we love it. I love these times too as we talk way too much and eat way too much and have the best time, real soul food.
I have been vegan once, I was going to try it for a month and it lasted for 6! I was so proud and like you said, I felt amazing, I had no pain in my body and felt so good. It was hard work to prepare meals and even harder when I went out but I managed. Then the depth of COVID struck and I guess it just became too overwhelming and I started to go back to old ways. I often think of restarting from time to time and then it leaves me.

I am off on the drive on Thursday and my dad will not be joining us, so I am somewhat nervous about the time in the car with only my brother and 40 plus years of angst to either discuss or not. I don't really want to talk about our relationship while locked in a car as I am not sure how he feels or how he will respond but I know that the conversation needs to happen. I am hoping it is an easy day where we get to say good bye to our mum and to remember the beauty in her and the good times.

I have a brisket in the slow cooker today so I am super keen to get home and see how that has turned out. I smothered it in mustard and some really yummy rub and let it sit overnight and put it on this morning so I hope it is yum..I think we will have it with some coleslaw??

Well I am off to get the last few things to put dinner together and get out of here before someone asks me to do something else..lol

Hugs to you both and chat tomorrow, stay warm, enjoy the cuddles and much love xxx

Sarah xxxx