The Transcendent Rainbow Cafe - social space for LGBTI members

[Paul]

It would be so great to have a thread here where we can chat about almost anything. We can have fun, tell jokes, share stories, you name it!

There's a "BB Cafe" thread in the general area where lots of people chat daily and have established some nice light hearted conversations, it's treated as if it's a real cafe, there's even virtual baked goods and coffee!

Let's create a chat here for anyone to join, in particular the GLBTIQ community to let their collective hair down and chill out. It's a safe space to be yourself.

We just need a name 🙂

[Aaronsis]

Hey Jo

Apologies for my tardy response, I actually took off last minute to NSW with my dad and that was a whole day drive yesterday...we are picking a car up for him so that was kind of thrown together on the hop!

I was so happy to hear that you enjoyed Sandra's book, I was worried that it would evoke feelings and memories and in fact it has done that very strongly for you, I hope more of enlightenment than pain and trauma though as that would NEVER be my intention. I thought it would be a mini journey for you to read about another's struggles, joys and wins and how life went for her....I think you very much get where I am coming from here but it was sent to you with love and I think you got that.

Well it is time for the sun to come up here and I am beach front so that is stunning and I am feeling very grateful to see things like this when I can....a new day..new adventures...and as always great people to chat to here.

When you said fasting for the vampires I guess you have blood taking today, I hope that goes well and that it is not a drama....I say that because it is always a drama for me..I donate blood and have one vein that they can use..when I have to have a test it is the same one vein...I call her "old faithful" as she never lets me down...but I was told long ago not to come back when I donated as my veins are just not good...lol

Today for me will be a walk along the beach and some chill time hopefully.

Hope that today is great for you and that you and LD are having some more adventures that we will hear about soon...I just love that profile pic of you LD..you are super super cute xxx

Hugs and every best wish for today as always

Sarah xxxx

[Jo8049]

Hi Sarah , glad you are OK and we have not somehow offended or upset you . Apologies to , we are normally isolated here ( no one with less that 3 heads ) and it is very easy to get to dependent on your kindness with care and chats . If you throw in the journey I am now on that makes it all the more intense . ( am very happy to see you ) x

Cold here , raining and furhead and I now are in winter clothes . She has knitted sausage suits ( jumpers . A lady in Busselton WA made them for us in 2012 when we were over there on the motor bike ).

What sort of car has come to your dad ?

Sandra was almost as intense as Jo's arrival . It did get a bit dark but my old friend the guardian Angel stepped in by bringing Craig to the truckstop last Tuesday . Was a particularly happy night and overdue catch up . We worked together for nearly 2 years and in that time he was having serious marriage issues ( similar to my life when owner driver. ) and I was there to listen . I understood the pain , it is magnified when you are apart working and trying to do right for all concerned . ( had plenty of practice. 3 marriages ).

Sandra took me places I have never been able to access . In what is now hindsight it was incredibly both fascinating and scary . Am very glad we got through relatively unscathed . Hey both you nor I had any idea it would cut in so deeply and I am very glad it did as I think the person I am now is a lot more enlightened on those things . Fate !

LD is about 1 year old in that pic , she will be 12 human years on 14th of June this year .

Enjoy the sunrise a d have a coffee and breaky for me . I'm starving , up since 0300 and want COFFEE !

Thank you for your friendship , kindness , empathy and love .

Stay safe , peace love and happiness xxxx hugs & a cuddle. Jo&LD

[Aaronsis]

Hey Jo

I just wanted to jump back on to say there is nothing..nothing that you can do or say to offend me, it is not in your person to be able to do so...I look forward to our chats too and know I read them everyday, while life might jump in the way of me being able to post, know you are in my thoughts and I am so very very much enjoying both being on this journey with you as well as getting to know your life, what you get up to each day and how life is going for you..that is why I am here..and it would have to take something pretty drastic to lose me from here.

Be back later with some updates on the day, although it is raining so maybe a beach walk later, or maybe even one in the rain..who knows...both sound equally good.

Hugs my friend

Sarah xxx

[Jo8049]

Hi again . Killing time now in the bigger town where the truck stop is . Steady moderate to heavy rain . Glad we brought Mr A . ( the big car ,more comfy too ) might not get home later . Has been enough rain to make some floodways flow now . Psych appointment at 1300 so be later getting out of here . Getting cold to .

Thank you ! Lol , hugs Jo&LD xxxx

[Jo8049]

0330 , 100℅ overcast , ene gusting to 10knts , 14° , showers . ( inside weather ) ( r/c ac on at 24 ) . Another grey day when daylight arrives . Weather from the never never .

Good morning to all . Bestest day you can have . xx

Coffee and later some nice ( local ) smoked bacon , fresh local eggs ( lightly fried in a touch of rice bran oil . ghee tomorrow perhaps ) seasoned with fresh black pepper and pink salt on soft wholemeal toast. Plenty for all .

Sarah my dear friend , did you walk in the rain yesterday ? More soul food perhaps . x . Haven't done that along a beach ( with a LD ) for what seems like an eternity . Memories of sitting in a calm anchorage hearing the patter on the deck above , looking out to see the patterns on the calm sea . mmmmm .

Had a face to face with Psych yesterday . Was a pleasure as always . Am in awe at the number of simply wonderful and beautiful people that have come into Jo's life . This is a total affirmation for Jo and the pathway I am on . Have been still saying we ( ie Jo and old me . the amalgamation is very close to being complete now , maybe 1or 2 percent off 100 . still say we sometimes meaning LD and Jo ) but that now is only a reference to LD&Jo . xxxx

Have been letting my hair grow . For more decades than I care to remember have done no comb with clippers myself . Psych lady ( another professionally able sweety ) said something very pleasing yesterday . She was skimming through my journal and looked up , " I see an elegant lady before me . your lack of hair hid your femininity ." I have when at proper weight always had a waist and non male hips ? Missed a lot of signs ( repressed )( as,with most people there is still a good dose of fragility in me . I am working on that . apologies if to fragile sometimes ) over the years . Such is life . xx

Dear friend , have a truly beautiful day , as I know you do , see the amazing world made up of an infinite number of things all mixed up .

Love peace and tranquility as always , with abundant hugs and a scattering of cuddles xxxxxx

Jo&LD

[Jo8049]

0300, Overcast , 16° , drizzle , wind light and variable . Weather from the never never .

Good morning to all . Have the best day you can , be happy and safe . x

Anyone passing , do just say hi ! You are very welcome to chat if you want.

Coffee ? Not sure about breaky yet ?

Had some very grey days here . I really prefer suny ones . The ground is wet now . A change for here .

Hi Sarah , hope yesterday was good for you and today will be equal or better . x Had a brief tele health with the doctor in the place I travel to yesterday . All good there . Face to face on the 30 th in a couple of weeks . Going to a rainbow hairdresser there on that morning to , hair and eyebrows etc . Then the doctor then to big city for a Transcendent meeting . It is a huge day and a bit scary to . LD will be in local Club Med . She can come next time for Transcendent meeting . They are starting a new group and the lady running it is well connected in the community to . She has been very helpful on this journey . That's our news , doesn't look much when I read it but I suspect the 30th is going to be a big day . We shall see ?

Did you get enough soul food on your trip and from around you in the rain the other day ? I hope so .x Chat again soon , take care and be safe dear friend . hugs xxxx

Love and peace to all , Jo&LD xxx

[Aaronsis]

Good Morning my friend, and our little fur faced friend too...(that is you LD..lol)

Back to work after a long trip and some huge soul food moments which was lovely, and also a little unnerving too, but we will work through that. I did get some wonderful time at the beach and just walking along the gorgeous soft sand and having the water wash up against my feet and legs, it is just so peaceful and so fresh and cleansing. I did get to have a stroll in the rain which is also very cleansing and made me feel so wonderful too.

The face to face with the Psych sounds really positive and like Jo is really accepting of finding her way into this big wide world which is so exciting. She does have so many wonderful people in her life and it is very heartwarming to hear that. Until you tell me otherwise we can still refer to Jo as "we", and that she is not quite amalgamated just get, and that is totally fine, I just want to respect your feelings and what makes you feel comfortable on your journey.

I was so excited to read about your hair and that you are letting it grow and that you are embracing what Jo will look like, how she would like her hair to be, what style, maybe even what colour..so many exciting places to go with bringing Jo to life, in the external and physical sense. Just a friendly word of advice with the eye brows..go slow as they can be too dark sometimes and scare the heck out of you when you see yourself in the mirror....lol....I understand completely about being fragile and this being a hugely sensitive experience, it is so personal, so emotional and so very unknown so how could you possibly not be fragile. BUT...kindness to you in knowing you are feeling fragile and that is totally fine and that some days things will bring you to tears and you will be surrounded with confusion, that is totally fine as you know and to acknowledge this is all part of Jo's growth and her coming to be. Other days you feel like you can conquer the world....ahh feelings...they are great....lol

Thank you so very much for your wishes and your kind words to me, they mean so very much and I am so happy to be chatting to you. You are very right, it is an amazing world of so many mixed up things and one minute you are flooded with delight and the next having a feeling of weirdness and hurt....but we would not be human if we did not feel and there is nothing wrong with that.

Hope today is totally wonderful for you and chat again soon xx

Hugs to you both xx

Sarah xxx

[Jo8049]

Hi Sarah , hope your day has been absolutely superb . x Thank you so very much for another beautiful and comforting post . ( still very isolated here , thank you sweety. ). appreciated muchly .

Am getting impatient now to see how elegant we can get Jo . Been looking in the mirror Chatting to self ( Jo , old me is pretty much a memory now ). Looks good and once hair is done satisfactorily ( and eyebrows?) will be feeling confident to mix with others . And your idea about colours . ( mmmmm that could be fun ).

Hope not posting to much . lol and hugs ( would like to hear some of your story one day if you would like or not . All good . Hugs )

Hope work was OK today to ?

Love peace and stillness for you Jo&LD xxx

[Jo8049]

0310 , Broken light cloud , 18° , wind ene light , very humid . Magallenic Clouds visible with their sparkling friends about them .Weather from the never never .

Best and happiest day for all . Coffee and honey toast . xx All welcome .

Hope you get to sleep in more than me Sarah . Morning ( hug ) and happy day . Things unnerving for you , I am hear to listen if you want dear , or not if you don't . You know the drill , we are here anytime if it helps . xxx

I try to be like an Armadillo with what life deals , roll up in a ball when its to hard ( for whatever reason ) and it is supposed to bounce of the armour . ( works sometimes ) . Thank you for your depth of feeling and the respect you give me and everyone when you post . Sarah you and all the other Community Champions and Moderators are such wonderful humans , the way so many private and difficult things are brought here and those struggling are put at ease is so beautiful. I know from my own experience here and have never in my already long life found a place like this where I can relax and enjoy , and hopefully also help by relating some of my life experience . I have fallen deeply in love with this kind space and all those here . Yes mixed bunch that they are but so very kind in so many ways . Thank you , and thank you every one of you . My screen friends xxxxx hugs a plenty .

LD is in the big chair beside me ( turned 90° so the breeze from the fan ( my cooling ) doesn't get on her as she sleeps in a little ball. Did 4.5 hrs yesterday. Had afternoon session . To much energy I guess ? Japanese cook book arrived yesterday . There is a lot to take in inside its covers . A lot of reading , History from very early Japan to modern day . More like an Encyclopedia . I am going to buy a simpler one while I study in this one . Japanese cuisine is very simple but the process and history is huge . Will stop chewing your ear now . Awesome day lovely lady . ( as always hugs and xxx aplenty )

Tranquility peace and love , Jo&LD

[Aaronsis]

Hey Jo

Never stop chewing our ear here, that is why we are here, to chat to share to support and to care and be friends and go on the journey called life, the ups and the downs and the sideways steps too.

I am so happy you have fallen in love with this space, I think to some degree I have too. There is so much strength here, so much wisdom, people with whom we would not know if we passed on the street but with whom we have a great friendship, with whom we care so much about...wow..what an amazing thing!

I have had a bit on this week but am pretty good all in all. Some of my story is so varied but not sure where to start and what to share really..lol...I can tell you about how I came to be here, or I can tell you about some of the sweeter things in my life that I have been able to experience...travel...an in particular the opportunity to live in Thailand for 6 years. How as a person I really changed so very much in that time and learnt how the little things in life are actually the big things, connections with people, a moment where you smile at a stranger, a child playing with a stick on the street but with the biggest smile as they don't know of any other toy and know that stick to be the best thing they have. Gratitude, resilience...a time of real struggle for me also but also growth and I will be forever grateful for it.

I am so excited to hear about what you are thinking about for your hair, wow the choices are really only limited by your imagination. I have naturally red hair but I tend to dye it blonde, like an ash blonde, I feel like that works best with my blue eyes..but then when I was in my 20's I had it red, but dyed it really fire engine red...so much fun to just go with what you feel like at a point in time, knowing it is only hair and you can change it at anytime.

You are not posting too much my friend, I enjoy the chats so very much and as I mentioned before in a much earlier post, you just never know who is reading our conversations and the support they get from hearing your story as it may be very similar to theirs and yet they are not able to post. A little like Sandra's book really, maybe this is your space where another is reading and coming to life in their own skin...I would not be surprised as you are very inspiring and courageous in your journey, I am so happy to be on this with you.

Off home soon, time to hit the couch and watch some football and fall into bed early.

Hugs to you, more hugs and another hug here..

Sarah xx