The Transcendent Rainbow Cafe - social space for LGBTI members

[Paul]

It would be so great to have a thread here where we can chat about almost anything. We can have fun, tell jokes, share stories, you name it!

There's a "BB Cafe" thread in the general area where lots of people chat daily and have established some nice light hearted conversations, it's treated as if it's a real cafe, there's even virtual baked goods and coffee!

Let's create a chat here for anyone to join, in particular the GLBTIQ community to let their collective hair down and chill out. It's a safe space to be yourself.

We just need a name 🙂

[inner_strength_]

Hi Sez,

Aww of course, what do you mean about not so many active? Really want to post more regularly.. have really struggled which don’t like to even type but going through that whole ‘not replying to anyone in my life’ too much for a while.. don’t know if I’m making sense. Tried to prompt my Mum on the whole debate and didn’t get a response via text only to other things. My partner said it’s almost as though family should be letting us know they are here for us during this time…and kind of agree!

Trying to look beyond it..will get to the other thread nowish. I’m a very open person and want to voice it a lot more but feel not sure how to and want to yell from the rooftops..how can everyone be entitled to vote on two loving people getting married? Even parts of this community are also against it ahh. Trying to keep the love in these posts.. thank you so much aww cute haha except we are vegetarian so faux-lobster HA!! But definitely the alcohol, ha!
Aww try to do so even when so much is passed, feel out of it when you all catch up regularly but thank you for mentioning me. Aww yeah, sure anyone could learn something from you.

Thinking of you!

[inner_strength_]

HI Ms Purple, Been trying..it is not only online that I’m taking a step back..need to push through all the crap at the moment! Ha great, that is incredible. Oh great, want to eventually do a triathlon. Impressive! Definitely not, atleast you know with experience what to look out for. Maybe could be a deficiency, that is making it affect your anxiety? Don’t be too hard on yourself. Maybe you are pushing yourself too hard? It is satisfying to accomplish!

[MsPurple]

I went to the gym tonight and really struggled. I kinda felt like I was weak and a bit spaced out. I am not sure if it's because I have pushing for some body toning or if my increased meds have caused it (my gp said some dizziness is a side affect but will side affects will subside after a week or two). I also had a bit of a mild anxiety episode doing box jumps. I tried a higher one and it was towards the end of the workout and I felt myself about to have a panic attack. Others in the group kinda noticed and the instructer told me to go to the lower one if tired. He asked if I was ok and I just said yes. I was kinda embarrassed. I hope that I get used to this dose soon cause it would suck if I didn't

Yeah like yourself sometimes I just need some time not on the forums. I come on when I have time and when I am in the right mind set/am motivated

[cleews]

Hey everyone! A newbie here - just registered the other day and poking my head around to see what's up.

I see that there are many of us that are upset about this so-called debate. I'm a gay man myself and have voted for Yes. I saw a couple of elderly people the other day in front of Woolworths, passing out pamphlets for the No campaign. So I decided to have a chat with them. They were very pleasant and polite people. I spoke with them for about half an hour, telling them why I felt I needed to vote Yes, and ask them why they felt to they needed to say No. To them, they felt that they wanted to protect something, they wanted to preserve something that was very important to them and sacred. We discussed for a while and I agree that it was something beautiful and sacred and I felt sad that they didn't think that I was not worthy or capable of that beautiful thing. They apologise and said that I was the first gay person that actually talked to them as so. Mainly through that morning, others had been rude and downright frustrating, even scary for them - it was the first thing doing this kind of thing for one of ladies. I said even though I may not agree with their No message, I think it was beautiful and great that they were active and decided to come out and engage and participate in this.

When I left to get to work - to which I was really very late, they said thank you and they will consider.

It got me thinking; a lot of us might just be arguing about the same thing like two sides of the same coin. We both want to respect the social contract of marriage, but somehow, someone made it into a Us vs Them fight, and like footy team supporters, the two sides started fighting for no better reason than it's just Us vs Them. To be honest, I don't think I convinced them of my argument, I still think they will vote No, but at least it was a very pleasant exchange and discussion and hopefully they don't think all Yes voters are violent bullies.

Cheers

Chris

[MsPurple]

Hi Chris and welcome to the forums

I am so glad to hear someone being nice to others, even if they are for the no campaign. I do not believe in showing hate or violence towards anyone for their beliefs. I think just having a casual conversation with them and explaining why it is something important to us is all we can do. And showing future kids that it is ok to not be a heterosexual and all variants of sexuality (and gender) are ok and good. I hope no yes voters are being bullies. We don't want to turn into the hate we are trying to eradicate through this equal marriage act.

I posted off my yes vote the other day. Glad to have it all over and done with. It is like normal politics for me in a way. Seeing the adds for both sides can be annoying, but I am ok with seeing the side I am on (well I'm not really into politics, lets be honest). I'm already keen for close date so people can move on. I am just hoping more people vote yes than no

So what is everyone up to this weekend? I have a friend from my home town coming up and we are catching up tomorrow night. I am also going for a bike ride on sunday 🙂

[Raynor]

just checking in here. i read all your posts. i have nothing to say about all this, no words. i stopped looking at facebook a few weeks back. i don't only find the no campaign hard but also the yes. i can't say words though. thinking of you all

[MsPurple]

Fair enough. It will be over soon

So how was everyones weekend?

[Lonelydan]

Hello my beautiful darlings, what. Tough times we are all experiencing right now. If I hear one more time what’s next a man can marry his cow I’m so tired of it. And no!! I do not support anyone, do you take this paw/hoofs in marriage. It’s just so f up how people think and impossible not to take personally. This is a human rights issue. I’ve been finding it very hard to post lately the words don’t come my depression has skyrocketed but I’m a fighting son of a b and will fight all the way to the end. Danny xx....

[justinok]

Thanks for your nice reply Dan. I'm struggling at the moment too, trying to even avoid news now because there is a story every. single. day. Can't even go to the supermarket without being reminded, with posters everywhere, sometimes people have scribbled NO over the top of YES.

I saw a post on here that upset me, but I tried to respond in as calm a way as possible because I don't want to get kicked off.

[Just Sara]

Hey sweet D-man;

I, like you have been stung by those culpable bastards. I chose to stay away from websites and all social media while this vote thing continues. But I was smooth talked into visiting a website and subsequently come out feeling shaken and nearly traumatised.

I won't go into it, I did however post on my thread when it happened and actually found a missing piece of myself. I'm a better person for it and more resolved than ever.

I'm sorry you're doing it tough, sending warm thoughts your way hun. When it's over, we can share a long glass of whatever you want. ok? It's on me! Not much consolation I suppose, but there's not a lot we can offer each other at this time but empathy and care.

Thinking of you...

Love...Sez xoxo