In hospital geoff

[geoff]

Geoff in hospital trying to use my iPhone and login if and getting to BB is atrocious for me and even whatI type isn't correct so I am going to this phone away when I get out and CHirstopher hope I spelt it correct I a. Going to.be disappointed if I miss the bus in my area as I'm not even sure I will be of here. I. have tried the enlarger the screen but that's useless to me so all up I'm sore and frustrated and missing the site bugger it Geoff

[Doolhof]

Hi Geoff,

All the best with your recovery! It is wonderful you have a couple of sons to help look after you.

It is wonderful you were able to bond with and help the guy in the hospital. Sometimes we don't know why we go through stuff, but then when you meet another person whom you can help due to your own experiences, it makes it all more worth while...kind of!

You will be very happy to have your computer back as well and not have to rely on your phone for communication with BB!

All the best to you Geoff, kind regards from Mrs. Dools

[Doolhof]

Hi White Knight,

It is a real shame when people treat those with a mental illness like they have leprosy or something even worse.

I used to attend a Church where the minister would actually preach about depression and say how he did not want to have anything to do with depressed people and that there was no place for depression in a Christian.

I didn't stay at that Church much longer even though I had made a lot of friends there. Some were very supportive. Not so the minister.

Hope you are able to assist this lady if she needs the help.

Cheers, from Mrs. Dools

[Pixie15]

Hi Geoff,

Glad you are out of hospital and you have family to support you. I have never heard of someone needing 4 hip operations before. I know people who have had two. Is this unusual?

It is obvious from your posts that you have a great heart and the story about your hospital relationship is a good reminder that even when we are hurt and struggling ourselves we can still reach out and try to help others.

Grateful.

[geoff]

dear Grateful, I'd better explain why it was 4.

When I hit a pole I couldn't move and taken to hospital where I had to be opened up to put my hip back in place and placed in traction with a bolt through my tibia and a weight on the other end, so I was stuck in bed for for 6 weeks and couldn't get out.

Then a couple of days later I was opened up again to clean hip etc out, and the 3rd operation was to put a hip resurface in which is a new technique, but I was never happy with it because it didn't solve the problem as I couldn't run, climb stairs and always fell over, because that leg was far too slow in reacting to the other leg, and finally the 4th was to open me up and replace everything and give me a total hip replacement.

As well as this I had to have another operation to remove my little toe which was badly injured in the crash and by putting a pin in it to straighten it up never worked, so off it came.

So that's the four plus another for my toe.

So it's been a long process. Geoff.

[pipsy]

Hi Geoff, Pipsy here.  Hoping you're on the road to recovery.  You are always in my thoughts and prayers.  As I said, I have returned to the church and the support I've received from there has also helped me in my recovery.  Even my minister now understands what I was trying to tell him.  I hope you and I will always remain friends as your friendship is as equally important to me as returning to the church.  Your never ending friendship and support gave me the courage to stand on my own two feet.  I have a neighbor who has just moved in next door.  She's in her 70's and terribly depressed as she's in mourning having lost her partner a year ago.  Like you she is facing an uphill battle as she has to have an operation to remove varicose veins from both legs.  She is terrified of this operation, so if I can pass on to her the friendship and support you gave me, you have gained as well.   I love your courage and your weakness because through weakness we learn humility which is what Christianity is all about.  I feel sorry for L's parents for their unkind actions toward me.  I have totally forgiven them and I pray for them to find peace and love as I have.  I'm hoping and praying L and I can have a full total marriage in the future.  But I accept, whatever will be, will be.  If we can't be together, I have to accept this too.  It is not my failure, nor is it his, maybe we're just not right together, time will tell.   All the best for your future, my wonderful friend.  Love P.xxx        

[geoff]

dear Pipsy, thanks for your response, because when we try and help someone and hope that they can understand what we are trying to say does means so much to us.

Now that you have a new neighbour could be a good thing, but once you start to feel that you are getting yourself down from her problems, just take a step backwards and a deep breath and ease off a bit, and I only say this because I don't want you to start to become depressed from her troubles.

I know that you will be totally sympathetic towards her because it's an enormous loss for her to lose a partner, plus I know that by having varicose veins removed isn't a pleasant operation, but if she needs shopping done try and organise her to do it so that it will be delivered to her at her house/flat.

I am only on the site in a spasmodic way at the moment, but will get back to it as soon as possible. L Geoff. x

[Basil123]

Giiday Geoff,

You wont recognize my name and I don't post  but you helped me once immensely and I just want to first of all wish you all the very best in your recovery and to congratulate you on your "champion" achievement! Well done mate - you're a champ in my books !!!

[Zeal]

Hi Geoff,

I'm glad you're out of hospital now, and that your sons are taking care of you. If either of my parents need me later on, I will make sure I do things for them like your sons do for you. They've always supported me hugely, so it's the least I can do!

It's great that you are so committed to this forum. Make sure you take time out if you really need it though 🙂

I hope your operation recovery is going well 🙂

Best wishes,

SM

[pipsy]

Hi Geoff.  Just to let you know how yesterday went.  I spent quite a bit of time with the neighbor.  She is extremely depressed as she is facing these ops, plus losing her partner, as I told you.  Losing her partner means she's going through a variety of moods swings, anger, hurt, bitterness, resentment.  All very normal feelings, which I was quick to tell her.  She desperately wants him back (understandably).  When I said do you want him back, suffering as he did towards the end, she said no, then she said, I have to let him go, don't I?  She did cry, but while I sympathized with her, I also empathized with her.  I managed to steer the conversation toward her improvement with having the op.  Overall, I think I did quite well as she was bright and cheerful when I left.  I did leave her BB phone number and encouraged her to reach out if she needed to.  Whether she does is her choice, but she now has that option.  I encouraged her to reach out in the village and try and get to know some of the people here as I feel she needs that contact.  She's trying to hang on to her kids and they need to feel they can 'let go' a bit if she has contacts here.  She seemed, as I said, a lot happier when I left.  On a slightly sad note.  Another neighbor (she has been in palliative care for 2 months) passed away early yesterday.  She was 91 and ready to go.  It's sad for her family, but happy too as she was suffering and is now at peace.    

[pipsy]

Geoff, me again.  Please excuse my rudeness.  I meant to add, have a nice day.  Cheers and much love,  Pip.  xxx