What to do!!!

[AnxSam]

I've recently started a new job (3months in) I left my old job to travel, spend time with my girlfriend. Since I've started every time I head into work my stomach churns, I feel sick and I get anxious about performing daily tasks. I've always had this fear/anxiety that whatever job I do I'm always destined to fail, not succeed or not perform well. It's always been my understanding I'm a failure.

Particularly in this role as its a role I've never be assigned to or had experience in. I don't know how to stop feeling like this and start feeling normal or even excited to come into work!

[Blue_Jane]

Hi AnxSam

I hope you had a good time travelling and spending time with your girlfriend.

Most of us have to work! Not everyone agrees with me but I think we should enjoy our job more than dislike it. It sounds like you are really hard on yourself. What have you achieved in the last three months? It might help if you write down the achievements you are proud of and then refer to them every few days - and add to the list at the same time. This will remind you that you are not a failure.

Have you spoken to your boss about how you are feeling? You don't need to make a big deal about it but say to them that you are a bit worried about your performance and ask for some feedback.

It is really normal to feel scared about a new role and being three months in you are still new, but there should be some bits you are enjoying.

What about other aspects of your life...are you exercising and eating well? These things can make a huge a difference to your mindset.

Let me know your thoughts.

Blue Jane

[blondguy]

Hi AnxSam

Your thread topic is a good one. Blue Jane posted great advice above re communication. I have been in HR and senior management for years and I see an enthusiastic and caring person that has had the courage to post on the forums......and yes....thats a huge sign of strength where communication is concerned Sam....Good1

You have only been on deck for 3 months....thats not a long time.....its only 5 minutes...

Just a note if thats okay Sam....Management wouldnt have hired you if they didnt see the qualities you possess

Management are also there for a reason.....and its not just performance and gross profit........they are there to ensure their staff are happy/comfortable in their role.

I dont see failure and you in the same sentence Sam. Have a casual conversation with your management....they will respect you for it.

This is also your thread....if you have any questions you are more than welcome to ask anything you want to Sam

I really hope you can post back when convenient 🙂

you are not alone....please be gentle with yourself...

My Best for you Sam

Paul

[AnxSam]

Oh absolutely most of us have to work, and I do want to work and want to enjoy going to work. I guess what I can say I've achieved in the last 3 months is learning a new role something I haven't done before, but that quickly fades when I put myself down and think despite that I'm not good at said role.

I have kind of spoken to my manager about it in our last 'catch up' but because I don't have a close working relationship with her/ and her being young I didn't get much of a vibe or response. I think I said something like "I don't think I fit into this role/ made any friends' which is true in my role (now) I haven't formed any friendship ties to make coming to work easier.

Just don't know what to do, I've continued to open my mind up to see what other roles there are out there, but I don't want to red flag myself as a failure or quitter.

[AnxSam]

Management are also there for a reason.....and its not just performance and gross profit........they are there to ensure their staff are happy/comfortable in their role.

That's the thing I believe there not. I don't know how they approach anxiety and my issues considering i'm so new to his role! I don't want to seem weak or not capable of performing tasks. So I instantly fear their response.

[Blue_Jane]

Learning a new role is a big thing, it is challenging and complex and uncomfortable. You should be really proud of this achievement, as hard as it feels.

How did your manager respond when you sort of spoke about it in your last catch up? Is there another catch up scheduled?

If you decide to find another role, there is nothing wrong with that. Sounds like you are giving this current role a good try and if it doesn't change soon then maybe it is time for you to find some happiness in a different role.