Social anxiety/ meeting new people/ keeping jobs

[Jennaa]

I have a constant anxiety that is there weather I’m meeting up people I’ve met before or meeting new people for the first time I’m so crippling with fear about what they’ll think of me or how I look that I just won’t go or if I do try to I won’t make it there because I’ll feel to sick or start hyperventilating I have no idea what I can do to help this.
it’s the same with jobs if I get a new job I’m scared that I’m not learning everything properly & that I’m an annoyance for asking about anything it doesn’t matter how many times people tell me it’s ok to ask questions I just can’t.

im so sick of having all this in my head I need help in how to fix it any help would be so appreciated because I really don’t know what to do or how to help myself

[Gambit87]

Hi Jennaa,

Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums!

I'm sorry your experiencing this, anxiety can be really brutal.

Have a look at this link - https://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/anxiety it has some pretty useful information.

I was at my usual Thursday poker game when I felt some anxiety setting in. I questioned it - 'Uh gambit... whats happening here? you come here every week... theres nothing scary here... you're fine... everything is fine... its going to be ok' then I started focusing on willy wag tail pictures on Instagram (I have a thing for willy wag tails haha) and after about 10 mins I was feeling ok again. Telling myself that im ok and then doing something to distract myself calms me down.

Have you tried meditating? Theres a great app called smiling mind. I meditate once/twice a day and ive noticed it helps keep calm and centred.

I also suggest talking to a GP about this! they will be able to provide options on how to tackle this.

you got this 🙂