Social Anxiety affecting life and work

[Hailz]

I'm new to the community here. I'm 17 and have had depression and anxiety for the past 4 years. I have a job interview tomorrow that I'm feeling extremely anxious about. I had to move away from friends/family a while ago and have been feeling the impact. I feel alone here with no one to talk to and I'm scared that I will get this job and then have an anxiety attack when I get there the first day.

Any advice on how to calm anxiety would be deeply appreciated. Thank you for reading

[White_Rose]

Dear Hailz

Hello and welcome. Job interviews can be quite scary because you are on your own facing several people you have never met before. And they want to know if you are the best person for the job.

Think about the more common interview questions. Why do you want to work here? What can you offer us? What particular aspects of the job attract you? Think about what you want to say about yourself, your good points such as being a hard worker and willing to learn.

It's interesting you are more concerned with your first day on the job than actually getting the job. Are you that confident about being offered the job? Good for you if you are.

Do you have any supports for your anxiety? GP or counsellor? Medication?

I hope your interview goes well. Please let us know what happened and continue to write in here.

Mary

[Hailz]

Thank you for your advice. The lady who interviewed me said I will probably have the job and I'll know in 2-4 days for sure.

Its not that I was confident about getting the job I'm just worried about messing up if I do get it as this would be my first job

Thank you again 🙂

[White_Rose]

Hello Hailz

So the interview is over. How do you feel now?

Do you have a counsellor at all? As you have been plagued by the black dog for four years I am wondering if you have enough support. It's at times like this when talking to a counsellor can be very helpful. I noticed in your first post you mentioned moving away from friends and family. You said you had been feeling the impact of this. Can I ask the reason? Not being prying so if you don't want to answer this for any reason, please ignore the question.

What may be easier to talk about is how you can make new friends and enjoy some social life. This could very well help your depression and anxiety by providing something else to think about. Do you have any activities or hobbies you enjoy? There are so many different types of clubs around that maybe there is one near you which caters for your activity. It's also a place to meet people and make friends.

Have you had a look around the forums? Try the BB Social Zone. Lots of games to play and several virtual cafes to meet and chat. Cheap coffee, free food courtesy of your imagination.

Mary

[Hailz]

Hey Mary,

I feel okay now I'm a little bit worried about messing up if I have the job and being around so many people as I have strong social phobia.

No I don't have a counsellor, I have previously tried but I didn't like it not did it really help much.

I feel the impact of being away from friends and family because I've not been without them for years. My best friend of 5 years is there and I barely get to see her. I am also close to her brother, sister and mom. They welcomed me into the family and I always felt more at home with them. I consider my bf's mom my mom and I also call her mom. Me and my bf would never be without each other. We were in every class together at school and hung out every chance we could. When I was having issues with my then boyfriend 5 months ago I stayed with her for 2 weeks straight and got even more attached. I would be living with them now but there is a complication with that at the moment. My bf and I are like soul mates and she's been my main support since we became friends so not being able to see her has been extremely difficult it's now been nearly 2 months since I've seen her and it's hard for me and her both.

I have no outlets here. I keep a journal and talk to my bf on the phone but I don't have anyone here I feel comfortable talking to like I do my bf.

Hailz