Overwhelmed

[Cindy89]

I don't think im really depressed or have any particularly strong anxieties. I am just overwhelmed. Overwhelmed that I can't find a new job, that I have to commute for hours every day, that I don't know how to build a strong career or build a new career. That I really don't have many positives at the moment. I really just want to have things to look forward to and I want to enjoy myself.

 It's making me really stressed and I feel like I am taking it out on others around me. I don't want to stress other people out, because everyone seems to have their own stresses. 

I am really not sure who to talk to or how to deal with things. I know I need to be proactive and make changes, but I guess thats easier said than done.

[The_Real_David_Charles]

Dear Cindy,

Success is equally as overwhelming.  Just be yourself.  Run your own race.   The external stress and all those comparisons you make probably are acting as a barrier to you actually achieving anything !  Being proactive is a great thing but being proactive when stressed is just another stress.

Start from somewhere small, like, WHERE do I want to work ?  Then build to WHAT do I want to work as ?  And then the big one - WHO do I want to work for ? Just the same way you would do a jigsaw - sort the colours, do the edges and try and fill in the rest before mum shouts "The pizzas are here".  Lol.

Adios, David.

[lostllama]

Hi Cindy,

I don't know if it helps, but when I feel overwhelmed, it is usually a sign to slow down, and stop doing so much. I like to take a bath, listen to some relaxing music, unplug the internet and turn off the tv and maybe take a walk. Anything that makes me feel like my mind is a little quieter. Try to get enough sleep. That's a big one. Maybe then the things you really want will emerge more clearly?

[geoff]

dear Cindy, you have said those words associated with depression ' I really don't have many positives at the moment'. No one

No one who has this illness can possibly think in a positive way, it's all negative thoughts, and this is always a barrier that blocks our thinking of being able to be positive.

Sure everybody have their own stress's but sometimes they have to lift their game so that they can help you, but unfortunately this doesn't happen.

Travelling for hours everyday only makes you dig yourself into a deeper hole, because the 'what if', 'or could I' churn over in your mind.

How about you go to an employment agency and have a chat with them, there maybe something that's close to home or as their say 'under your nose' that you are missing out on. Good luck.  L Geoff. x