My Anxiety Story!

[Nikky99]

Hi My name is Nicole and i'm 17 years old, I suffer from a bad anxiety disorder that occurs more then 3 times a day I suffer from anxiety attacks, that can become really bad like cant breathe properly and almost passing out a lot of the time. A lot of things give me anxiety, I really don't know what to do to help me from my anxiety attacks and so many things giving me anxiety attacks. One big thing that causes my anxiety really bad is My boyfriend Will, He;s 19 and I am constantly worrying about him and getting anxiety of what he is doing behind my back with other girls and stuff like that I get anxiety about, I do trust him with everything its not about not trusting him its about just being concerned and worried about him and the things he does. I love my boyfriend so much and I just don't want everything to tear me and him apart and Im scared and anxious that it could happen. I could not imagine my life without me in it. I need advice about this,

Please comment and give me any advice that could help

Thanks

[white knight]

Hi Nikky, welcome

The first thing to accept is that anxiety is a serious problem that is not an easy fix.

Ive had anxiety including panic attacks and its no fun. It took many years to overcome so be prepared for the hard slog...but it will be worth it.

First of all you need to visit your GP and keep the visits regular. Take any prescribe medication and take up any therapy because listening to those with solid knowledge will ensure you don't become unrealistic in your thought patterns.

Anxiety can make your mind work excessively and so you have over reaction and that can cause relationship issues. You need to get it under control.

Essentially the mind needs reprogramming. Your anxiety isn't just going to subside.

Relaxation classes do help. Self help ideas go a long way, like setting aside quiet times, limiting social media, removing toxic people from your life and connecting with your boyfriend to gain a stronger feeling of security.

As I mentioned at the beginning, acceptance is the key.

Tony WK

[Zeal]

Hi Nicole,

Welcome to the forum, and thanks for posting!

Anxiety and panic attacks are really debilitating, and as Tony said, definitely need professional attention from a doctor (GP).

I'd like to direct you to two great online resources, one on panic attacks, and the other focusing on general anxiety. These resources are not a replacement for seeing your GP, but saving them in your computer favourites and referring to them is a good idea.

http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/infopax.cfm?Info_ID=44

http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/infopax.cfm?Info_ID=46

Also, it's important that your boyfriend is aware that you are experiencing distress from anxiety. Good communication in relationships is crucial. I have anxiety too, and my boyfriend of 1.5 years is fully aware of how it affects me, which is comforting for me and also helps him to understand. I'm 23 by the way, and I've had OCD/anxiety since I was 13. It thankfully sounds as though your boyfriend is trustworthy.

When you see your GP, it would be good to explain the anxiety you get in relation to your boyfriend. Perhaps write down issues to discuss on a notepad, and take this to the doctor appointment. This way, you won't need to worry about forgetting something.

This site can give you some basic pointers on how to talk about anxiety: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/have-the-conversation/talk-about-it#findwords

Talking about your concerns with a trusted family member is also important.

It would be great to hear back from you 🙂

Best wishes,

Zeal