Lonely birthday

[Vvp]

Valentines, Easter and Christmas are not the best days for me i feel really lonely and sad but the worst day for me is my birthday, is my birthday today and this is the 5th year that nobody has wished me a happy birthday, my family, friends,my son, nobody, especially since I always make sure to be by there side celebrating  there birthdays. I have always pushed though today in the past but  somehow I just can't this year, I just feel totally hopeless and lonely and I just think why, why am I still here, no one cares for me, maybe it's time to give up hope because each and every year becomes worse then the previous one for me, i know i have to fight and push though but when will things change, will I ever be truly happy again...

[Ggrand]

Hello Dear Vvp,

I’m so sorry your feeling so lonely…it’s, I think one of the worse feelings our emotions have have….

Happy birthday sweetheart, and a very big but gentle caring hug…🤗🩷..

I can relate to spending those special days on your own, I know many other beautiful community members struggle with this as well…you are not alone beautiful lady…

I have grown children with families of their own…after my husband, their father passed away  my children were not talking to me for several reasons…Living and growing up with DV, no more afraid of their dads reaction to not visiting was no longer their for them,..they cut me of from there lives for a number of years…after lots of hard work, tears and being an emotional mess, we reconnected….

I used to travel 7/8 hours to see them on those special days, they never came to see me or message me….the hurt goes deep…I stopped going to visit them over 4 years ago on those special days…and now just send birthday greetings, Christmas greetings etc:- over the phone now….and they surprised me and  then started doing the same…I am grateful now, that I do get that msg and in a way it makes me realise that they still love and care for me….messages through normal days are very rare, if I don’t initiate the first call, then they will probably not ever ring me….sometimes I just need to hear there voices to help relieve that loneliness….

Loneliness has a way of hurting our heart and soul so deeply that we start thinking about the unhealthy thoughts you are thinking today…Please Vvp, never give up yourself, your hope, because I know everyone on these forums care about you…you are an important family community member…

Sending you my kindest and most caring thoughts sweet birthday girl…🩷🤗🦋🌈 🎉 🎂 and another caring hug 🤗..

Grandy..

[Eagle Ray]

Hello dear Vvp and wave to dear Grandy,

I do understand what you feel and just turned 50 and spent the day alone myself. Well actually I had two appointments in a neighbouring town so I interacted with two other people, but didn’t tell them it was my birthday.

Sending you a kind, comforting hug and warm birthday wishes. You are welcome here anytime you feel lonely and want a chat. Grandy is so right, to not give up and know you are an important family community member here. Loneliness can be so hard but do know that we see you and support you. Perhaps do something lovely just for you today like eating a favourite food or just relaxing watching a show you like or finding a peaceful spot to have a cup of tea. We are with you in spirit.

Love and hugs to you 🤗🥰🌼🌸💫 And Avery Happy Birthday 🥳 🎂 💗 !!!