Left multiple jobs and just at a loss

[ScottyW]

Hi,

First time posting here.

I’m a 27m with two kids aged 2.5 and 9 months and my partner that I live with.

I’ve struggled with social anxiety my whole life but could mainly deal with it up until recently.

I worked a warehouse job for 5 years, where I went from standard pick/packer all the way up to warehouse manager. I enjoyed the work of being a manager and enjoy being extremely busy as it makes my day go faster. I also had friends there that had accumulated over the years.

Fastforward to December last year and something changed. I didn’t enjoy going to work anymore and I was looking for another job, thinking a fresh start would allow me to enjoy it again.

i was offered a position through my father at a warehouse where he works, but it ended up just not feeling right and I left the job halfway through the first day.

After this I almost immediately got employed by another company. This was just another warehouse job but closer to home. I worked there for around 3 months and knew I should of enjoyed the work and people, but something inside me just wasn’t letting me enjoy it. I would hate coming into work, and hate being there for no apparent reason. i subsequently left that job.

Since then I have applied for multiple other jobs and left within the first day.

This week I was offered a job at the place I worked at for 3 months and should of enjoyed, but at another branch. I took the job and worked there for 3 days, and ended up leaving again. This time because every time I would complete all the work, there would be nothing else for me to do. I realise this is nowhere near a justifiable reason to leave a job, but the feelings that build up in my stomach and head just wouldn’t allow me to stay.

Having a job to me is extremely important. My partner does not work and I have two children to support, and without a regular income, I will lose the house we live in also.

I don’t know what to do, but I need to know that this will get better. In my foreseeable future, I am going to lose the house me and my family live in, and I feel like it can’t get better because I just keep repeating a cycle.

Not sure what to do from here but thanks.

[TimTams]

Hi,

It sounds like you are not doing enough background research before applying for a job.

Rather than just applying quickly to these places and leaving within the 3 days, spend more time researching the company before you accept an offer or apply there...

Check with a job agency who might be able to help you with this. Good luck.

[YellowPoppy]

Hey, Scott

Have you spoken to a gp about whats happening?

Seeing a psychologist might help you push past what's going on.

It definitely sounds like you need some extra support!

Sorry I can't be of more help,
Hope to hear back from you

[Katherine22]

Hi ScottyW, I understand what’s happening for you.

I have had similar problems with work and leaving positions due to anxiety. It sucks big time.

Best thing you can do with a new position in my opinion is PUSH. through your fear. Even when you feel crap and like you can’t cope. Push through anyway. You will be ok and you will make it through they day and another and another. Not many people enjoy their jobs all day long but you can find small things that are enjoyable in most positions.

Also when this happens and anxiety takes over it can knock your confidence so self care is crucial.

DONT beat yourself up about what has already happened, try and focus on you and your family’s future. Eat good food, make time for a sport or something fun with the kids try and sleep well. Then when you land a new job try and speak positively to yourself that you can do this and you will stay this time. Set small achievable goals like getting through the day, then getting through the week. DONT let anxiety win, you and your family are too important. Xxxx