Just want to talk to people like me...

[Bec2002]

Hi everyone my name is Bec, i'm new to BB and pretty confident I suffer from anxiety even though I haven't been professionally diagnosed. I have had anxiety attacks since the birth of my first child nearly 10 years ago. I tend to over think things and worry excessively over things. I'm currently working through an attack which started just before christmas which was triggered by vertigo that i've been experiencing for a few months prior, plus Christmas on top of that and here I am. I just hate feeling like this and just want to feel normal again. I feel like i'm not coping with looking after my 3 children (9,7 & 2) as they can be full on most of the time and my husband does his best but I feel guilty passing that stress onto him. I'm hoping I can find some kind of comfort here at BB to ease my worries and help with my anxiety.

 Thanks for reading 🙂

B

[White_Rose]

Dear Bec

Hello and welcome to Beyond Blue. This is a safe place to talk about your problems and anxieties. Thank you for telling us your story.

Have a look around the BB site and read the information about anxiety. Go to the bottom of the page and go to the anxiety site.

I think you need more than comfort, although that is important. I urge you to see your doctor about your anxiety as soon as possible and get some help to manage your anxiety. Unfortunately these things do not go away by themselves and the longer you leave it the more difficult it gets to become well again.

Writing in here can be helpful but we cannot cure you which is why I suggest you visit your doctor. Children take a huge amount of your time and energy and it is quite normal to feel you are not doing enough, which of course adds to your stress. Your husband is away from the home for quite long periods as he goes to work. And that can make you feel alone with no one to talk to or help.

Do you have any friends or family near by? Keeping in contact with them and making time to visit or for them too visit you can be reassuring. No need to talk about your anxiety unless someone asks. Even then you can choose how much to reveal. I think we need our families and friends. We have a mutual need of each other no matter what problems we have.

Are you a member of any organisations? A mother's club, tuck shop, exercise group or similar. Do you do any volunteer work? It's all part of keeping contact with others and letting them help you through the rough times.

So write in again and let us know what is happening.

Mary

[Bluey_moon]

I agree with Mary! Professional help is so important! 

I am a mum too! And I've been diagnosed with Generalised Anxiety Disorder! And Obbsessive thinking! With help  getting there and I find the support and advice her invaluable! 

Hang in there honey! I'm sure you are a great mummy! And your husband sounds great! 

[Anroca78]

Hi Bec2002,

 After my son, I suffered from Post Natal Depression. Panic attacks as well. Maybe PND has something to do with those panic attacks. 

You have a great husband by the sounds of it, and I bet that he already sees you as a strong woman and can't believe how amazing you are . 3 kids! I kept breaking down in front of my partner, he was patient and understanding yet  felt helpless. I took him with me when I was diagnosed with PND, having the doc explain things allowed my partner and I to understand together. Made things easier when I was placed on a low dose of anti depressants ( worked for me, but not for everyone).

Maybe you could go together to talk to a g.p. 

School holidays for you would be like running a school camp ( except no pay lol!). Check out your local library, they run activities for many ages. 

Mary suggested joining canteen, I did this and you can meet great mums and dads only one day a month usually. I also helped kindy kids read, once a week. Gets you out of the house and your children would love to see mum at school.

i hope things work out well for you Bec, and things start looking up for you and your family. 😊