I'm so scared that people hate me

[Eirenuu]

Hi everyone,
I messed up at work on Wednesday and someone got upset at me. Now, I'm so paranoid that everyone hates me or I'm saying things to upset people. That isn't the core of the problem though, why am I so intent to have everyone like me? Its as if I don't have the self confidence and strength to be okay with people not liking me.

When I had an anxiety attack on Wednesday, I felt like everyone was mad at me and that I was a powerless child. I'm still feeling the aftershock of the anxiety attack, waking up with a racing heart, digestive problems etc.

Lovely people, how did you learn to be okay with some people not liking you? How do you not feel like a powerless child when you mess up?

[Purple4]

Hi Eirenuu

I can relate 100% to your post and wanted to let you know that you are not alone in feeling this way.

I believe selfesteem plays a huge role as well as over thinking and analyzing everything. Going over conversations in your head worried you said the wrong thing.

I try not to be consumed with the fact people may not like me but that feeling of being a powerless child usually rears its ugly head.

I will be following this post in the hope others will contribute their thoughts and suggestions.

Thanks for posting

[quirkywords]

Eirenuu,

Thanks for your post and for reaching out and writing with honesty.

I know that I can relate to what you wrote and so many people will also relate to you.

I have struggled with the fact that not everyone will like me. I think if you can like yourself that helps.

There is a thread Do you like yourself that you may find helpful and interesting.

When I mess up try not to use words like helpless and hopeless. Try to describes things specifically like I made a small mistake today instead of I am so hopeless.

Keep posting here if you want and we can continue the chat.

Quirky