Hey there,
i was wondering if anyone had tips on how to be content single or ‘alone’
I like the concept of spinsterhood but yes it is very much so an unattractive word.
I have come to the realisation that I have so many dreams and ambitions that seem quite realistic and when I was in a relationship I could not fully reach my goals and capabilities. Now being single, I am continuing to reach my ambitions and do things I thought could never be at all possible. Having a relationship, even though it was an unhealthy attachment really truly was holding me back from reaching my full potential.
I have been researching about spinsterhood. Even before I got into a relationship I always told others that I was very career focussed, even from a very early age. So this is not just a new ideology, on my part.
I would rather be alone pursuing my dreams than being in an unhealthy and emotionally unstable attachment that would be holding me back.
People my age seem to be so occupied with the ideas of drinking, taking drugs and clubbing. I just want to stay home, drink tea and listen to my favourite music.
It’s not that I think I don’t deserve a relationship. Because I know I do. I just think that there are a thousand forms of love besides intimate or romantic love.
When I’m alone I feel capable and independent. When I was in a relationship I felt like I was not looked at as an individual. When you are in a relationship you seem to become one whole unit and I don’t really like that. I want to be my own person and have my own voice. Not have someone speak on my behalf or dominant or override my actions and or thoughts.
I have been watching these videos of these single women who happen to be in their late twenties or thirties, some even in their forties. These women are so well educated, career focussed and liberated. I love it. I admire and aspire to be like that.
