Hi Weaponsofmassdisstortion
It would definitely be so much easier if we were 100% of the time only ever invited into interesting groups where we were encouraged to be our natural self. You could settle into such a group and people would accept you for initially being more of an observer and listener than an active participant. Everyone in such a group would be sensitive enough to bring out the best in you, the natural you. It'd kind of be like 'There's no need to 'fix' who you naturally are, we just encourage more of it'. How comfortable would that be? How respected and accepted would we feel? How excited would we become, returning to that sort of group time and time again?
Someone once said to me something along the lines of 'Find your circle and you find your self, your true self'. From experience, some positive constructive circles of people can be short lived, for various reasons (such as having served out a purpose on our path), and some can be long term for other reasons. Some circles can be deeply challenging, requiring us to dig deep, others can be basically uplifting and lighthearted. Some can be filled with wonderers and philosophers, others can be filled with adventurers, leading us to add ventures to life, not just repeat the same unfulfilling ventures. Some can be deeply soulful, where people join to find self understanding and the opportunity to vent after having endured trauma of some nature. They are looking to reform both individually and as a group, supporting each other in mutual growth. Such a circle as this can bring out the best in us, not just as someone who is evolving but also as someone who is sensitive, thoughtful, supportive, caring and inspiring in the way we can make a positive difference to others. A circle of people who desire to make a difference to each other is an incredibly powerful one.
Wondering about what group we need to join at a certain point in life is, I find, more productive than considering the groups people tell us we should join. Working out what we need can definitely be a challenge at times. Finding a circle which vibes in the way we do can be an even bigger challenge. In the process of finding such people, it's important to consider why we're having trouble finding them as opposed to focusing on that potentially depressing question 'What's wrong with me?'
Finding our circle can be like finding heaven on earth, where nothing else compares to it 🙂
