I Feel Out of control!

TedCatTed · ‎13-09-2014

I have Generalised Anxiety and Panic Disorder. For the last 3 weeks I have been going through a really bad period anxiety wise and I just don't feel like it will ever end. I have been through longer periods of anxiety than this, but this feels different.

The underlying issue that started this period was that my best mate stopped speaking to me and cut me off completely. We work closely together, so it has turned my workplace into somewhat of a minefield and I just can't calm down.

I wake up anxious and I spend the day panicking and feeling awful. Whenever start to feel remotely calm, it's as if my brain can't handle the downtime and searches for something to panic about. Recently it has been about my parents dying. I am 28 and still live with my parents due to my anxiety, and if something were to happen to them, I don't know what I would do. This is like my brains favorite go-to thing to panic about at the moment cause I keep thinking it can happen anytime.

I take medication daily, but I don't really like taking it as I am scared of the addiction factor.

I know I should go and see someone about it, but the last Psychologist she was useless and pretty much told me to suck it up and just stop stressing. So I'm not keen on going back.

I am just so stuck in this cycle of anxiety, I feel like it's never going to end. I need some guidance as to what to do to 'snap out of it' and calm down.

I' m scared I'll be stuck like this forever. Does anyone else feel like this? What do you do to stop the cycle?

HA1 · ‎14-09-2014

Hello TedCatTed - and welcome to the BB forum.

Well done on reaching out to this forum to share your health issues. You are not alone in the feelings that you are going through at the moment. Many BB forum members are going through similar feelings, or have done so at some point. So explore the tabs at the top of the page, and stay with us on this forum - you will find many good tips and suggestions along the way.

I note your reluctance to seek support due to your experience with the previous physiologist. However, I would strongly recommend that you do seek support as soon as possible to assist you with your recovery. At the top left hand corner of this page you will see the tab Get Support. Here you will find a listing of mental health professional endorsed by Beyond Blue, including GPs that specialise or have an particular interest in mental health. I would encourage you to explore the options in your area. I think this must be your first step to recovery.

When you are ready, tell us a little bit more about yourself on the Community Board forum (new members introductions).

Again, welcome and please get back to us.

Take care

K

Neil_1 · ‎15-09-2014

Hi there TedCatTed

Firstly, welcome to Beyond Blue and it’s great that you’ve already received a terrific response from AOK.

Secondly, I’m really intrigued by your name. I see it and I think immediately of two of my fave racehorses that I used to punt on. Way back in the late ‘80’s there a sprinter called: Good Old Ted and then in the late 2000’s, there was the champion, superstar called Apache Cat. What would be the odds that your name is based on those two horses? Hmmm, let me see – about 1,000 to 1 ??

I do like AOK’s suggestion for you to get to see a specialised GP and from there, they could be well placed to refer you to a suitable psychologist or psychiatrist. Someone who WON’T tell you to just ‘suck it up’. That person should not be operating under any pretence of being in the mental health industry – that’s just appalling.

Your 28 – so I’m assuming that your parents aren’t of a ‘great’ age as yet? Are they both of reasonable health? If the answer to the 2nd one is YES – then take it from someone who’s lost a father and whose Mum is being eaten away by cancer – live for now with them. Enjoy your times with them. If the answer to the 2nd one is YES – then there’s nothing to suggest they’re going to be leaving this lifetime at any stage soon – so as hard as it may seem at this time, just enjoy things. I don’t know if they’re retired or not, but if they are, then they’ll be hopefully out and about living their retirement to the max, hopefully and enjoying life as well. I’m sorry, I’m assuming possibly too much here, so I’ll finish up on this side of things.

Talking about issues – or writing them – either way, this is a way of moving forward. To not do this, will for the most part, leave the coils of tension still within you. They must be bought out in the open to help you.

I do hope a little of this post has helped you and I do look forward to receiving a response back from you.

Neil

Bobina · ‎25-09-2014

Hi there, I just wanted to suggest that maybe attempting to resolve the issue with your best mate may help alleviate some of your anxiety?

I know for certain that when someone that is super important to me stops speaking to me as a result of a fight or some other reason it causes me a great deal of anxiety. One time my sister stopped talking to me for up to a week and I couldn’t take it anymore and ended up going to her to try and talk it out to resolve the problem. And as soon as we sorted it out I felt instantly better.

I’m not saying that sorting things out with your mate will be easy but if they are a reasonable person and are willing to work it out with you then at least it will feel like you’re making progress through the issue and it will probably help some of your anxiety. If they aren’t reasonable and you can’t make amends then at lease you could try and get some closure as to why they shut you out and it might make it easier to move on.

I hope this helps. Wishing you all the best.