How to cope with anxiety and stop fighting with my husband....

[REWIND]

Hi all; I am new to these forums and am only just now receiving help (have visited a psychologist twice) for my generalised anxiety disorder. I feel out of control at the moment and unable to stop my worrying and find myself getting so angry at my husband ALL THE TIME. 

He has never suffered any anxiety so finds it difficult to understand my worries and how I always immediately jump to the worst possible outcome in any situation. He loves to go out and have fun and I feel like I don't even know how to have fun anymore. He would love me to be happy and tells me all the time that I need to be happy - but I don't know what will make me happy. 

We have a young family so have the added stress of needing to find babysitters when we do want to go out and often for me that is just too much worry to cope with and I will generally stay home while he goes out. His job also involves a lot of social events where he is drinking and coming home at all hours of the morning. I don't sleep well and always hear him come home and just can't stop myself from confronting him and getting very angry. 

I want to stop this and get back to being in a loving relationship but I just don't know how to. I want to be able to go out and not worry so much about getting the kids sorted, babysitter organised, house cleaned and all the other worries that start as soon as a social event is mentioned.

I would love to hear from anyone that has been in a similar situation and any strategies or tips that worked for you. I really want to feel better and I want my children to see me coping better and feeling happier. 

Thanks 

[ci]

Hi rewind I'm relatively new to all this as well husband and 3 kids so I can understand the struggle. I have panic disorder and ocd bother anxiety related conditions so I get how hard anxiety can be. Do you have any depression as well g never thought of myself as depressed but learning things seeing doc I understand that I am but who wouldn't be dealing with such hi anxiety it can be so hard.

My advice would be take your husband to some of your appointments and maybe hearing from someone else will help him to understand. My husband took awhile he used to think it was him something he was doing or that I should just stop thinking that way don't worry etc... I was going to get him to come to my appointment but lucky for me he started to understand on his own. We talked a lot and I also found a few mental health specials on  TV we watched together and I think finally got it and been great since. 

I think was hard for him to see past his emotions with me but watching strangers really helped.

I'm still a mess so sorry can't help to much with how to cope with it all please know you not alone. Hope you get through to onus hubby I'm sure you will and things will start to improve 

Take one step at a time

[Mummybee]

Hey,

I am also a mum of two young children with a very busy husband. (We have our own company) and most of the home responsibilities rest with me. It can sometimes be overwhelming to deal with all the pressures that come with what seems like every day things to other people.

Its also difficult when those in our lives don't understand how we feel or how it effects us.

Having a conversation with your husband about your anxiety would be a great step if you think he could be a supportive person in your recovery. Sometimes those who close to us are the hardest to talk to.

Your psychologist should be able to continue to help you with gaining control back.

I think sometimes, its hard for the mum, we feel that care for our children falls on us alone and the dads are free to live their old carefree ways. Chat to him about it.. perhaps take some time with your friends and leave the kids with dad.

mummybee