Experiencing anxiety and depression, worried it's about my relationship.

[The_Sensei]

Hi Everyone

I'm new to Beyond Blue and this is my first time posting. A little background about myself i'm 30 years old and over the past 6 months have developed allot of anxious and at times depressive feelings. My parents divorced when I was 14 and my father passed away suddenly 6 years later we had a strained relationship when I was growing up but had grown closer prior to his death.

Throughout my life I have always been a pretty positive person and generally have coasted through life until this year. At the begining of the year me and my partner of 8 years decided to part ways which was for the best at the time and at my place of work there have been allot of sudden and radical changes which at times have been very challenging as I am at a managerial level in the company and am relied on to implement allot of these changes.

Around 6 months ago i started feeling very down and then started to have these overwhelming feelings in the pit of my stomach. It got to the point a few times when I would have to walk out of the office and go sit on my own for a bit and do my head space app.

During this time I have actually reconnected with my partner who I love very deeply and really do want to make things work with and have a happy life together. I initially thought that my anxious feelings might have been because i missed her but they are continuing to plague me.

My feelings are very up and down some days I feel great and experience really great feelings about her and work isn't so bad, but then I have days where i feel like shit and I begin to question everything with her "do I really want this", "will it work", "will I hurt her" and then begin to feel guilty and makes me feel even worse.

Has anyone experienced feelings like this? I know when my head is clear and I can tell my self that this is the anxiety that's making me feel this way that I do feel better and really good, but far out some days get hard and it really can pull me down.

I am seeing a counsellor through work which i find really does help. He thinks allot of issues from my parents divorce and the death of my father that I never fully faced when I was younger have started to come to the surface.

I'm taking a month of work and going on a holiday with my partner which i haven't done in 3 years so hopefully getting away from work will help calm things down.

Has anyone got any advice or gone through anything similar? Is it worth seeing my GP and talk to him?

[white knight]

Hi Sensei welcome

Im 61 and at your age I hit a brick wall with anxiety. From that experience and the following 30 years Ive learned so much more about this disorder and how it can develop into depression

But the complexity of mental illness dictates a multi-tool approach. It all starts at your GP and his recommendations but also, especially with anxiety self help measures has long term benefits if you make daily rituals.

Facets of ones life, any facet, can have a bearing on your anxiety levels so a change in your base thinking processes need to change. The following threads cover this. Use google and thanks for coming along.

Topic: how I eliminated anxiety- beyondblue

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Topic: running around trying to save the world- beyondblue

Topic: know your limits- beyondblue

Topic: relationship strife?- the peace pipe- beyondblue

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Topic: planning a healthier mind- beyondblue

Tony WK

[geoff]

hi The Sensei, always very happy to welcome new people that want to join us.
I'm happy that you have rejoined up with your g/friend and of course, there are going to be times when you start to question your future, I don't think anyone else wouldn't, it's part of our personality, either in a r/ship or when you're single.
I'm 62 and still think about what's going to happen to my two sons and my two beautiful little granddaughters, aged 5 and 3.
Every year the older generation says to their young family,'I'd hate to be bringing up children these days', no different than what my grandmother told my twin and myself when we were young, so the thought process always happens.
As much as we may not like it, our moods change depending on the circumstances, sometimes it may become too overwhelming as you struggle through the day, while other days the sun couldn't shine anymore, but once you don't seem to be getting any better, then yes, absolutely consult with your doctor, where they may want to prescribe medication starting on a low dose.
It's worth trying this, because going away with your partner will help you, but you will need therapy to discuss how you will be able to get back to work after having a month off, that's something people never think about when starting their holidays, all they think about is how good it will be to be away. Geoff.