Employment anxiety

[Mattsmum]

Long story short I was fired a few days ago. Now trying to find a new job. I manage ok til I start job searching then it’s all downhill from there. I start looking and my stomach turns to sick knots and I become a mess. I’m booked in to see a psychologist who can’t see me til November 21st 🤷🏼‍♀️.

So the longer story. Is me trying to work out where is this all coming from? Rewind 3 years ago I was happily employed had been with the same company 8 years when my marriage ended. My 45yo husband took off with a 21 yo! Needless to say I was stressed. Work kept me sane but I had noticed I was beginning to make mistakes, needless to say one of those mistakes cost me my job.

I had been studying while at this job and was lucky enough to land a great job within 2 weeks. However this job was way way above any experience I had and the job lasted 9 months before I lost that job.

It took 11 months to get the job I just lost and it was a much more simpler job than previously. The fear was there that I wasn’t good enough. I was trying to be careful not to make mistakes but surely enough the boss asked for a meeting and explained he wasn’t happy with my performance. Surely someone degree qualified would not make such mistakes. He gave me 2 weeks to fix everything up which I thought I did but during that time more mistakes had been found. I’d expect any new person to be simply given direction on how things were wanted done but it was expected that I just know these things. the whole 2 weeks I went to work feeling so sick and anxious. I knew it was just a question of him finding something wrong to get rid of me and he did. I was relieved to be let go so I could stop feeling sick not to mention the boss had some serious anger issues himself.

I need a way to move forward somehow. I feel like my life has been painted a portrait of me that is a complete misrepresentation. I know even if I picked up a new job tomorrow I’d be faced with the same issues. I forgot to mention my parents moved in with me plus my sister when I separated. So I feel a duty of care to support them too.I need help! If it takes another year to find a job I’ll go nuts!!!

thanks if you read all that

Mattsmum

[kanga_brumby]

Mattsmum Welcome to beyond blue forums boy yoyve got a lot on your plate. With your parents are they on the age pension or disability. if its disability you can get carers pension which is a slightly higher rate of payment inquire with centerlink on payments for you caring for your parents either way could be easyer on you plus dont give up on trying to find a job even part time there must be a job you can do out there. I have done heaps of different jobs some I had to leave because I wasn't suited to the job I was hopeless at it. the last couple of jobs I had The companies went bust or I became to ill to work any more. on the ones that went belly up I was the go to person for training others supervisor all from walking in not knowing the job when I got the job when I walked in. Often the managers would turn to me for advice on certain points. So don't give up it could be your turn next>

Kanga (peter)

[Ulysses]

Hi

i feel for you there. It feels lousy to lose a job. Two things you could think or read about and one is Lisa Kudrow when she was fired from Frasier. It’s interesting and the other is about one of our prime ministers who was fired from maccas. It happens. After I got driven into the ground from my good position, I started working in a bar and got fired for not being able to pour a beer. Lol I have two degrees and can’t keep a job in a bar. I’m trying to see the funny side. But on a serious note it’s bloody hard to keep your head up high. Remember you are a worthy human being and just as worthy as anybody else.