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I am 21 yrs old and i was diagnosed with Social Phobia and Separation Anxiety when i was in Yr7. I have handled my anxiety pretty well since leaving high school, i might get a a little anxious at times for various reasons (crowds, talking in front of people, loud music etc). I was diagnosed with depression when i was 16 and got help from a phycologist, i feel a lot better with my depression since then that it is not a big issue for me now.
The last week, i started to cry for unknown reasons, i was not sure if it was my anxiety starting up again. I have just started university and got a new job which i have been at for almost 3 months now. I took 3 weeks off work for family time and the crying started the night before going back to work. I then cried the following 2 days (the weekend) with working (when i woke up to head to work, i was fine). That week was okay, no tears, no feeling on edge, i felt okay and normal. This week has come and the same thing happened, i was crying the day before work (both days) and i thought that when i finished my 2 shifts, that the week would be okay. It is now Tuesday and i cried Monday night and i have cried today too. I am not sure what is causing it, i have a pit in my stomach full of nervousness ( i went shopping today and felt sick), i have been physically sick from crying, nauseous, having trembling, racing heart, cloudy thoughts. I think the first shift back was anxiety but now i'm not sure if its a mix of anxiety and something else, i'm just confused on what is causing it. I was not sure if it was my iron levels being low.
I appreciate any tips on how to manage this crying.
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Thank you for your post and for sharing with us how you are feeling at the moment. We can hear that you are facing some intense feelings and thoughts,especially those that are brought on by your anxiety.
We think that it's a great step to reach out here and tell your story. You never know who might read your post and then feel like they are less alone in what they are feeling. It also sounds like you have some great support in place with a treating team - well done on being so proactive.
If you ever want to talk to someone, we are always here for you on 1300 22 4636 or here on webchat.
Thanks again for joining us here, please feel free to keep us updated on how you are feeling if you are comfortable.
Kind regards,
Sophie M
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Hi HiddenDragon26,
Welcome to the forum. As you were diagnosed with social phobia and anxiety at a young age, I can see you have been doing pretty good (attending Uni, jobs etc). But this crying has been upsetting and confusing you, I'm sorry that things have been tough for you. I agree with Sophie that contacting a counsellor and talking more here is a good idea. I also wonder if you've talked with the GP? since your physical symptoms may start to develop, and be quite pronounced (you went shopping and felt sick) Talk with your GP and also someone who would understand it, you probably want to stay longer in the environment where you feel more comfortable and not overwhelming.
Please keep us updated, we are here to listen
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Hello HiddenDragon, I'm sorry for what you are going through and with me depression and anxiety were both joined, one day I'd be more depressed while the next day I might have been anxious, I couldn't predict what was going to happen, it all depended on what I was trying to accomplish.
Fortunately, now I don't suffer from either of these, and to ask me why would take me several pages to explain, it's certainly not a simple answer, but understand how you are feeling and that crying for no apparent reason is certainly a sign that help is needed.
You can also contact Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800 by phone, web chat or online with trained counsellors, but please keep in touch with us.
Geoff.
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Hey mate, so crying is basically two reasons, it’s a message from the soul,
we have two minds the subconscious mind and the conciousness mind. The subconscious mind is a computer that has stored everything that ever happened, it has stored a lot of pain
When we cry and we are not sure why and it’s random, it’s usually something that your either releasing, or you are crying due to the pain you’ve had in the past and now your letting it go, you see sometimes we are not aware of our feelings. We are hard on ourselves as well.
crying is a very very good thing actually, it means your feeling your feelings. Sometimes people suppress there emotions and as a result they mite cry but since there numb it don’t make sense
but If your crying randomly sometimes it’s because your going through some hard times, or you haven’t let go of something in your past.
we cry when we release our emotions that are pent up, sometimes we have to step back and really investigate where it’s comming from.
You see society is geared towards negativity, if that’s our norm then sometimes we don’t give ourselves a he compassion we need.
here’s the thing, people keep treating the symptoms instead of the root issue and the cause of it, sometimes we are carrying baggage from our childhood.
My advice would be to keep a journal or a pc if you like typing. Just right everything out, try ask your self during the day how am I feeling, write down your triggers anything you want to write just write it out, even when your angry, it helps us to release feelings and emotions
it also gives us clarity. It helps us to self reflect. Also be kind to your self as well.
you see mental health is just a story, depression isn’t who we are, it’s the story we are carrying around.
you see we are a product of our upbringing. Most people don’t have a good upbringing so they carry the hurt into adulthood.
if we can treat the cause of the story it helps us re wire ourselves.
it’s our self talk as well, how we talk to ourselves creates negative thinking .
it’s not all bad though, when we go through things we grow as a person, we have more depth and empathy for others.
when we cry randomly it’s usually because we have suppressed emotions. Meaning we push our feelings away when we feel uncomfortable, as a result they come back worser. And that’s what crying is, it’s a message from the soul saying
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PArt two
please stop whatever your doing, please look inside somethings wrong.
so yes I believe that’s what it is. You may even be emotionally numb as a defense mechanism.
but start leaning into your feelings, to feel pain is beautiful. The trick is to be ok with what’s currently happening.
and to respond instead of reacting.
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And I’m sorry your going through a hard time, I’m almost certain that you have some suppressed emotions that need addressing
you see our thoughts create our emotions in the body. Most people are not aware of there thoughts.
and sometimes when we are raised in a negative enviroment, then we struggle with knowing how to navigate our emotions
also a big thing is to step back, it seems counter intuitive but by doing less you do More.
when we are at peace everything is else is easy,
take a walk on grass with your bare feet, earth has negative irons which are healing, same with water.
Find some ways to be compassionate with your self. Reward your self
and focus on living one day at a time.
Also regularly excersise gives us natural endorphins .
also start reading self development books
Some powerful books is the power of now, by eckhart tolle,
the untethered soul by Michael a singer,
the happiness advantage by Sean achor.
i promise you things get better, don’t worry about being happy, focus on finding joy in each day, so more of what you enjoy that’s the secret
practice trying to make others happy, if you can cheer up others we don’t see our own problems,
do some volunteering. Be a rainbow in somebody else’s cloud,
you will become strong my friend. Hang in there. It’s not where we are, it’s how we finish our journey that matters .