Dear Vickish,
Welcome to Beyond Blue and well done for reaching out.
You mentioned that you are usually such a tight-knit family, but have had a couple of events that seemed to have sparked arguments, so I'm wondering if it might help to tell us a little bit more about those events? We all have our different ways of responding to things, and sometimes when people don't respond the way we 'think' they 'should', can be the trigger of causing arguments.
Or if you don't want to talk about the events that led up to the arguments, then perhaps you could consider looking into some counseling for yourself?
Sometimes too, it helps to remember to bring yourself back to the moment. I know that for me, a lot of my anxiety comes from worrying about the 'what ifs'. But if I stick to what IS, then I'm okay. I can remind myself that as long as I have food, clothing, shelter, and my health, then everything else is just 'small fries'. I suppose too, this whole thing of social isolation and distancing is enough to make anyone anxious, but for those of us who already had anxiety before, well, it's just magnified, isn't it? I suppose too, working in a place where you are more susceptible to getting infected with an illness could also be a trigger.
Try to remember, every time you feel yourself getting anxious, to bring yourself back into THIS moment, HERE and NOW. What can you smell, see, hear, touch and taste RIGHT NOW? Look at your kids and your husband; are they healthy, clothed, fed, educated and loved right now? Maybe you could try sitting down as a family unit and each of you make a gratitude list of all the good things that you have and do as a family? Maybe too you could write down some goals and things to do once this pandemic crisis is over ..... if that has anything to do with your current stressors anyway? Would perhaps give you all something else to focus on, plan for, and look forward to, yeah?
And above all, remember that we here at Beyond Blue are here for you and with you for as much as you like.
I'm not sure if I have helped at all or not? I do hope I've helped at least a little bit. I'm certainly no professional, so if I have put my foot in it in any way, please know it was not my intention.
Anyway, that's all I got for now. Take care. I'll be thinking of you. xo
