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BeyondBlue Hi! Check out this post if you're not sure how to start
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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remember, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anxiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for your post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthwhile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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M2B Struggling to keep it together
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Hi everyone I hate talking about this stuff as I feel very vulnerable. I have so much going on in my head but so I don't exactly know where to start. I've felt this way most of my life but got better once I moved out of home (14 years ago). I love my... View more

Hi everyone I hate talking about this stuff as I feel very vulnerable. I have so much going on in my head but so I don't exactly know where to start. I've felt this way most of my life but got better once I moved out of home (14 years ago). I love my family but it is almost taboo to talk about feelings and show emotion other than happiness (but not excitement). I know I have anxiety and am pretty sure have had depression on and off (if that's even a thing), I wouldn't say it's server though. I did get diagnosed with PND after having my first son and did counselling for a while but ended up stopping as i was feeling better. This was a few years ago now. I basically just want to hear from people in similar situations. I know I haven't really explained my situation well. I just don't really know what to say. I snap a lot and am frustrated and irritated a lot, I am overly emotional at things that have nothing to do with me (like when watching a movie) but when these things happen to me, I don't seem to feel much. Sometimes when I am feeling something, I don't understand what it is i'm feeling. I don't know why I am feeling a certain way or what triggered it. The birth of my 2 children, I didn't cry. They handed them to me and I just felt relief it was over. When I married my husband, I just wanted it to be over and couldn't concentrate on anything that day as I just wanted to be out of the lime light. But then I will cry for no reason and for example when I saw my sick grandparents who were really sick, I just wanted to get away from them. I just don't think I could handle the emotion and even more so I don't want anyone to see me get emotional. As I said earlier, we weren't aloud to show emotion when we were kids so I think I struggle with it now. I do want to run away from situation's when they bring up emotion and get flustered very easily. My parents talk about this stuff with such negativity, saying things like "their not right in the head" (even though my mum suffers from anxiety which no one ever talks about) and they definitely do not know how I feel or how I have ever felt as I have and never will tell them. I always put on a happy face and pretend everything is fine. Anyway, I know this is getting long, I just find myself struggling more now to put on a happy face. I'm always snapping at my husband and kids and always feel stressed about something. Would just love to hear how other people have coped with this stuff.

Slipstream_SS Time i started being more social
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Hi People Its cold and raining here in Perth, some summer hey, anyway thought id put some more thoughts out there. As per my Social Phobia my social life suffers because of it, and even though ive found ways to control my fears though Beta blockers t... View more

Hi People Its cold and raining here in Perth, some summer hey, anyway thought id put some more thoughts out there. As per my Social Phobia my social life suffers because of it, and even though ive found ways to control my fears though Beta blockers to relax me, ive learned not to put myself in situations that could cause panic. The positive is i dont really get panic attacks anymore, the negative is my social life is pretty dead. To put it into perspective, my fears restrict alot of my life. I dont go to dinner parties where i dont know anyone, yet ill go to dinner at a restaurant if its someone i know. I push girls that i meet away before they know my fears. Ive never travelled, as in never been on a plane, never been out of Western Australia, and thats sad i think, cos theres a big world out there to explore, and ive not seen any of it. Reason is i might be in another country at airport or something and have to fill out paperwork. Ive never had trouble making friends so ive always got someone to see if i want, but i spose i just got so adjusted to my safety zone i dont step out of it. My life consists of working 6 days a week training 6 days a week, then Saturday night and Sunday i just stay home and do nothing, where i should be getting out in the world. I also feel that being in my early forti4es now, my life is being wasted. All my friends know about my phobia and are understanding, but they are all normal in the scheme of things, and dont let stuff hold them back This is why i like it here, because im not being judged and weve all got some kind of issues in life. Anyway just a Sunday arvo vent. Have a good week ppl CK

Saschala First steps to getting help
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Hi everyone , this is the first time posting here , I've decided after tonight's panic attackt at 2 am due to sounds of men talking that I need help heart racing , nausea , headache , shaking and tight chest ... full of adrenaline , too scared to eve... View more

Hi everyone , this is the first time posting here , I've decided after tonight's panic attackt at 2 am due to sounds of men talking that I need help heart racing , nausea , headache , shaking and tight chest ... full of adrenaline , too scared to even wake up my own husband because I'm so fearful not of him ,but of someone trying to hurt us or him I guess I've had anxiety my whole life , I was sexually abused by my step dad at 5 years old up untill I was 9 then as a teenager I was held hostage by a group of thugs who broke into the home as I was sleeping at, I was 14 . I'm a married women with 3 children , I worry about everything but my triggers are crime related - we recently moved into a home with antisocial backyard neighbours, the teenagers who live there have threaten to hurt me and my husband , and since then I won't even go out the back yard ,I'm actually doing my washing inside ! I'm like this tiny little girl who is absolutely terrified of people and I cant trust anyone and I'm absolutely terrified of people who I feel threatened by . I'm too scared to walk my kids to school which is 5 minutes away because I'm so scared I'll bump into my backyard neighbours and they will hurt me, so I drive them to school , I won't even let my children play in the backyard anymore , this is getting so out of control and my own husband doesn't understand what is wrong with me , the control it has over me and how it makes me feel and that that when im scared I'm triggered off and I go into panic .only things that tigger my panic attacks is when im feeling scared , if I hear voices or noises At night if I see someone im scared of, if I'm driving and someone gets to close ,when my husband goes outside to mow the back lawn my anxiety is very high because of my irrational thoughts of the nighbours going to hurt him , i felt like I'm losing my mind and I dont want to spend my life like this anymore , I am losing my battle with anxiety and falling into a depression because I have no support around me , my anxiety keeps me inside a lot and I don't have family or many friends , I go weeks without a phn call from anyone and my husband works very long hours , I feel like my poor children are going to hate me because of my anxiety .I know I need some help and this is my first step into getting help and changing my life around

Iamawinner Uni stress.
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It's my first week back st uni and I'm already extremely stressed. I have to meet with my teacher to discus my project like everyone else. I procrastinate a lot and find it really difficult to communicate my ideas. Every time I meet with the teacher ... View more

It's my first week back st uni and I'm already extremely stressed. I have to meet with my teacher to discus my project like everyone else. I procrastinate a lot and find it really difficult to communicate my ideas. Every time I meet with the teacher and I don't know the answer or I haven't worked it out yet. I will say well I'll just have to work on that more .. but I always always feel him judging me and so when I look at him I get very overwhelmed that he thinks I'm stupid or just a pretty little girl. Or that I haven't put any effort in when 99% of the time I put everything into my uni. And it always makes me hold back tears. A lot of the time I di cry. It's so embarrassing in front of the rest of the class. I'm in my fourth year of uni and this happens every year and with most meetings with teachers. I have panic attacks when it comes to doing my assignments regularly and have so for the last 2-3 years at least. I know I can do it but when I think about not getting the work done I have so many negative thoughts that then cause the panic attacks or close to it. I just hate that everyone else seems to cope with stress so much easier it makes me even more upset!

CMF PMT anxiety/panic attacks/overthinking/constant chatter
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Hi, I am 46 and have always suffered anxiety on and off. The last few months I have had triggers that caused anxiety and I will have a particular thing that I panic and worry about. I have started to notice that it happens more around that time of th... View more

Hi, I am 46 and have always suffered anxiety on and off. The last few months I have had triggers that caused anxiety and I will have a particular thing that I panic and worry about. I have started to notice that it happens more around that time of the month. I do suffer other pmt symptoms but am noticing a pattern with the anxiety now. There will be a trigger, I will feel panic/anxiety during the day and wake at times during the night as i constantly think negative things about it about. It will then it will lift, like a dark cloud has been removed from my mind and I think more rationally and of positive things re what I am anxious about and tell myself how silly I was being. I will then feel ok and more upbeat until the negative talk sets in again-i.e when I wake the next morning. When this happens I try to remember that I was feeling ok and why I was feeling ok and that it is the anxiety making me think negatively but it is an ongoing cycle. I know hormones play a part in this. I have a dr apt next week but I am assuming it is hormone related as my last few anxiety/panic attacks have been around the time of the month. My cycles etc are also changing. I am taking magnesium and B6 now and drinking chamomile and green tea. Has anyone been though this or had experience with pmt anxiety. cmf

Faithh Hi friends - Seeking some words of support
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Hi guys, Thought I'd post here cos I wasn't exactly sure where I could just write an "update/having bad day" kinda post! Before I go on, I do have a therapist i speak to but just reaching out today in the hope of some responses as I'm not having the ... View more

Hi guys, Thought I'd post here cos I wasn't exactly sure where I could just write an "update/having bad day" kinda post! Before I go on, I do have a therapist i speak to but just reaching out today in the hope of some responses as I'm not having the best time and hope to feel less alone in this feeling. I'll put a little run down to what is affecting my life in negative ways (which I'm trying to change) but today has just been a bit of an overwhelming time. - Lost job in Nov 2016, still haven't been able to find anything. Im an art director and Ive been looking outside of my industry as well to earn some cash. I've gone from a healthy salary to nothing. Thankfully i have a partner, but still I need to make money and also keep busy! - Staying with mother in law lately to help her out after she was in hospital. I want to help of course but this has also pushed back my recovery program (haven't been to the gym since last Thursday and i can really feel the difference) - Dealing with my own health anxiety. I freak over the smallest things and catastrophise to the point of what feels like no return! Eg: tension headaches for me are... the worst case scenario, and I know I make them worse by imagining myself having to go to hospital for something terrible! - Shouldnt have googled anything health related!! Today has just made me feel so horrible I was pretty much in tears. Any words of wisdom, comfort and understanding would be so appreciated. Thanks xF

Frangipani25 New to the forum 🙂
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Hello, I've never done anything like this before so I guess I will just start at the beginning of the story that has led me here today. I've suffered with mild anxiety for over 15 years, in my late teens. it got worse after the traumatic birth of my ... View more

Hello, I've never done anything like this before so I guess I will just start at the beginning of the story that has led me here today. I've suffered with mild anxiety for over 15 years, in my late teens. it got worse after the traumatic birth of my youngest daughter 10 years ago. Afterwards I was diagnosed with PND. Since then add in an abusive relationship with my children's father, a divorce, court proceedings, custody battle, remarried, and change of location of 400kms away from my hometown it's fair to say I've been through a lot. About 6 months ago I started having panic attacks at work. I've had a few of these over the years, and only a handful quite debilitating. However my workplace was one of very negative energy. This obviously began affecting me, and as a result I resigned from there early Jan this year. Since then i spent a good month of daily to every second day experiencing an attack, have become mostly housebound and need to drive my children the 9 houses up to school each day as the thought of walking scares the life out of me. The 'what if' comes into mind. thankfully the panic attacks are nowhere near as frequent, and now mostly consist of chest tightening and feeling abit odd. After leaving work I saw a dr who diagnosed me with PTSD (traumatic birth), anxiety and debilitating panic attacks. I am currently in the care of a psychologist, but am finding the things that are getting brought up are so upsetting I feel so much worse after the visit. To make matters worse my husband and I have been trying over 2 years to fall pregnant. I do believe that is where my fear of birthing again, as well as medical procedures has come from. clearly we won't be getting pregnant whilst I am in this kind of state, which adds further stress to it all. Add in social phobia, medical phobia and being a little too dependent on my husband to always be there, things are pretty glum atm. Any help, support or advice is so greatly appreciated. sorry for the novel and thankyou to anyone who has made it this far in reading my post.

thebatman Anxiety and nausea
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Hi, I'm 21 years old and I've suffered from anxiety from the around the age of eight. During this time my anxiety continues to change my symptoms, as my resilience builds against current symptoms. Because of this, each time I'm faced with the questio... View more

Hi, I'm 21 years old and I've suffered from anxiety from the around the age of eight. During this time my anxiety continues to change my symptoms, as my resilience builds against current symptoms. Because of this, each time I'm faced with the question - is this anxiety, or am I actually ill this time? As of the past month or so I've been feeling extremely nauseous from time to time, and I've also been light headed and feeling panicked. I made the mistake of googling 'what causes nausea?', and this has now increased my nausea and vertigo severely because of the possible illnesses that could be the root of my symptoms. I was previously unaware that anxiety could actually cause nausea or vertigo, so I suppose a large portion of me is worried that I am suffering an actual illness. It seems when I start to feel nauseous, it gets worse, because it consumes my each and every thought. It has now gotten to the stage where I don't want to leave my bed, and I'm struggling to eat anything at all, in fear it will make me sick. My question is: has anybody else experienced this? and if so, how did you get over the nausea or the feeling as though you're about to faint? Thank you. RELATED THREADS How do you eat when food makes you feel sick? Anyone suffering physical anxiety symptoms? Fear of feeling sick/dating/anxiety Anxiety and not being able to eat properly

Na_tash_a Severe Anxiety. Can anyone reccommend anything?
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I am 27 now and have been suffering with severe anxiety since I was 17. At the time I didn't know what anxiety was, I thought it was because my diet only consisted of maccas and unhealthy food. I was always very outgoing and talkative who had plenty ... View more

I am 27 now and have been suffering with severe anxiety since I was 17. At the time I didn't know what anxiety was, I thought it was because my diet only consisted of maccas and unhealthy food. I was always very outgoing and talkative who had plenty of friends. At first I would just feel anxious before school and would go to the toilet constantly prior to leaving the house. It then moved on to me seeking out public toilets around me so I wouldn't be stuck panicking about going to the bathroom before I reached my destination. As the years went on it started to make me anxious just going to the shop or doing something like meeting up with friends. I would find myself having to wake up 5-6am vomiting and constantly going to the bathroom to calm my nerves so I could be ok to meet them. I couldn't eat prior to meeting them and had to wait to get home or to a safe place where I knew there was a bathroom. It got worse where I pretty much shut everyone out and made up so many excuses just to not go to their bday parties, I've even missed weddings because I wanted to avoid being sick. I now suffer with arm and head jerks when I start to become nervous. I shake uncontrollably until I can calm myself down. I feel I'm always feeling on edge, there's no calm place for me. I have been to multiple GP's and Psychologists and they cannot pinpoint what's causing this. Medications only work for a period of time then they end up making me sick or panicking more. I feel like i'm out of options. I recently went on a fodmap diet which has helped a lot but now making me lose weight. I am now taking private yoga sessions and taking time out of my day to try and relax but nothing is working. Ten years of hell I just want to live a normal life like everyone else and not have to worry about dumb things

Gazza17 Anxiety's back big time
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Hey guys, very new to this, so I thought I would start with a quick background to my story. I have been suffering from anxiety for well over 8 years, and at one stage, I hadn't slept properly for over 6 years, I would lay awake repeating simple issue... View more

Hey guys, very new to this, so I thought I would start with a quick background to my story. I have been suffering from anxiety for well over 8 years, and at one stage, I hadn't slept properly for over 6 years, I would lay awake repeating simple issues over and over in my mind, i was very frigidity, i would break down and weep for no reason,I couldn't concentrate at work(my work suffered big time). Simple tasks became a night mare, and I just couldn't function in everyday life. With the help from my very loving and understanding wife,and my local GP things got better over time, I did quit the job i loved ( this was a very stressful job) and found a less stressful job, my family rallied around me and helped and i did seek professional advice from councilors and physicists, and things got much better and for the last 18 months all was going really well, but for the last few months, i have fallen back a little and the beast seems to be creeping up on me again, life is really good at the moment, and i think i have no real stresses going on, but i feel like its starting all over again, but my symptoms seem much more serve this time around, I haven't slept more than 10 hours in 5 days, and haven't been able to work for the last 2 days, has anyone got any suggestions for me, do i need to try harder to control the anxiety, cant really afford of the profession help that i had before. Thx Gazza17