Athletics Carnival tmr

Sammmmmmm123 · ‎05-05-2019

As the title suggest... i have a school athletics carnival tommorrow.... Im super anxious, sweating, even crying just thinking about it. i really don't wanna go. and i wanna let my parents know about this. but i cant open up. i just cant.

i have had really really really bad social anxiety since the start of year 8 (im in yr 10 now), when i became isolated. before then i was super extroverted and had a positive outlook on life. IDK where i went wrong but people started avoiding me, and bullied me, etc. And look at me now: a wreck. I feel like a lost cause. friends are trying to save me but its no help. im on a sinking ship. and ill sink to the bottom of the ocean. until i drown.

cool cool

but yea, the carnival is tommorrow and im with no friends to be frank. well at least thats what my brother says lol. its gonna be awkward as frickkkkkkkkkkkk and ill be sitting by myself for like 7 hours with nothing to do but hey i did this to myself i guess. any tips to make it less awkward? 😕

Katyonthehamsterwheel · ‎06-05-2019

Hi there

I just want to say I'm sorry that no-one was here to support you. I really hope the day went well for you.

Is there something stopping you from talking to your parents about this? Do you have someone else in your life you trust that you think you could talk to? A relative or teacher perhaps? Social anxiety sux, but there's certainly strategies you can learn that are helpful.

Best wishes, Kat

Sammmmmmm123 · ‎07-05-2019

hi. it was pretty embarrassing. but i dont care it's over now.

indeed it does suck lol. I do have a few people i can trust, but idk its hard to talk about my problems because it would be incredibly awkward telling my mom ''i have no friends and i got social anxiety, i need help''. So maybe if im older (like 25) and i manage to have my own house/apartment, job, etc ill get help.

It's lowkey kinda weird because i never get anxious when im talking to people i know, or people online, when it's 1 on 1, and im even confident contributing to group conversations but when its a social setting where theres lots of people, i freeze up, become extremely stressed, get shaky, and worst of all i get a wave of heart pain/stress or something like that, i dont really know how to describe it. Its a truly horrible feeling.

i do know some strategies to manage it, like deeply breathing, but it doesn't really help with much. all it does is make that heart feeling go away for a few seconds. all the other strategies dont really work

Katyonthehamsterwheel · ‎08-05-2019

Hi again 🙂

I'm glad you got through the day and it's over now. It is really hard to talk about personal things like that, and I find it easier to talk to professionals because I don't know them I guess. I wonder if you would feel comfortable telling your mom you've got "some stuff going on" and you'd like to talk to a professional about it? Or again perhaps check out if there's a school counsellor that you could talk to? You're certainly not alone in having this problem, it's just that so many people hide it and nobody wants to talk about it. Anyway, it's great that you've come in here. There are lots of people here who understand and won't judge 🙂

LesDave · ‎09-05-2019

If you're interest in advice from older people, here is mine.

The GOOD NEWS is you're young and are actually AWARE you have anxiety. For many of us, we never knew until much later in life and it was straight onto medicine. WHY? Why were we straight onto medicine? Well you are basically hard coded as a person once you get into your late 20s. Once you're in your late 20s the chances of changing your personality and beliefs is almost impossible. BUT YOU STILL CAN.

Here is some advice I wish I was given, and I actually wish I had given my kids. USE these next few years to challenge yourself to be strong and discover tactics you need to deal with stress and anxiety. If, by the time you are in your mid 20s you have developed the skills to work through this life, your life is going to be so much better. Read about self awareness, read about staying in the moment, read and practice the skills in tactics like acceptance and commitment therapy. You have a very long life in front of you. Don't waste it, and don't end up like many of us.

Sammmmmmm123 · ‎09-05-2019

Thank you. I will cherish this knowledge.

Sammmmmmm123 · ‎09-05-2019

Welllll i DID have an interview with the careers counciller with my parents, at the school (a few days ago). She said to take me to the school psychologist in the case they were ''missing part of the puzzle'' (at time i wasnt attending school peroidically). i thought this would be my chance to have my problems solves butttttt sadly it never happened. really bummed about that. mental health is a very taboo and touchy subject, at least at my school, so people never really wanna talk about it/take action, so that kind of influenced me in the sence that i dont feel like i can speak up.

anywayyyy dont worry about me. ill get stuff figured out one day. thanks for caring, though. 😃

Katyonthehamsterwheel · ‎09-05-2019

Hey again 🙂

Glad you're checking back in. It's a good place to share, full of like minded people. So you saw the school psychologist, that's good. Did you not talk about mental health issues? Or did you not find them helpful? I'm sure you could book in again if you wanted to. There's also Headspace, which is for young people (google them if you want) and Kids Helpline (google again lol, it's for ages up to 25) if you ever need people to chat to. I know what you mean about taboo. It's sad but true. But there are people out there that can help!