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Anxiety post traumatic event

sashlie
Community Member

Hi there

looking for some advice. I experienced a loved one have a seizure for the first time - this loved one is okay now and fully responsive. However, I have been unable to get this experience out of my head and it’s causing constant hyperventilating and panic attacks (something I have suffered from for 20 years but not constantly throughout the day like recently)

any advice as to how I may get to sleep or go by my day without feeling like I need to constantly cry and shake?

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Sophie_M
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Hi Sashlie,
Wishing you a warm welcome to the forums. We know it can be hard to write the first post, so thank you for having the courage.  We are so sorry to hear that you aren't sleeping at the moment and that you're struggling with the feelings of anxiety.  Please know that you've come to a safe, non-judgemental space and our community is here to support you through this difficult time.  
 
If you would like some help finding mental health support, we would recommend that you get in contact with the Beyond Blue Support Service. They are available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals. You may also find some helpful information under the Beyond Blue pages:
 
"Sleeping well" - https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/staying-well/sleeping-well
 
"Reducing stress" - https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/staying-well/reducing-stress
 
"Anxiety management strategies" - https://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/anxiety/treatments-for-anxiety/anxiety-management-strategies
 
We hope that you will find some comfort here on the forums. Please feel free to keep reaching out here on your thread whenever you feel up to it.
 

Nimi
Community Member
Hi sashlie, I am really sorry to hear about this. That must have been absolutely terrifying and as someone who recently experienced panic attacks over a period of three months I can understand how scary it is when you don't feel in control and it continues to persist.

Nimi
Community Member
Sorry accidentally posted half my post before I was done! I wanted to say that I am sending you strength! I have found for me that sometimes deep breathing works, just stopping and trying to ground yourself in the current moment, or coming up with a plan for if that panic rises up.

Maybe something that you can keep close to you, like a note on your phone case or in your pocket saying "I can handle this." But in your own words of course. Stopping and taking deep breaths, counting up to five on an inhale, then pausing and slowly exhaling, can also help. Of course different things work for different people, so please do not give up or be too hard on yourself for it either!

Perhaps audio books or positive affirmations may help before sleep? Sending all the best.

~ Nimi

lonelyglassesgirl
Community Member

Hi sashlie, that sounds like a terrifying experience. I hope that your loved one is doing well, and I completely understand how this could trigger a return or worsening of panic attacks. Especially in these times, when it feels like everyone's responses are heightened.

You don't say how long ago this event happened, but please know that even people without a diagnosis of panic attacks can experience things like crying and shaking after something happens -- and it may not be immediately during or after the event, when you're occupied responding to it or in shock -- but a few hours or even days later when things have calmed down and you remember it. A similar thing happened to me, where something upsetting happened (a man groped me) and I had a really bad panic attack about two days later, and I started catastrophising that my anxiety would become extremely bad for a long time again or that I would feel like that forever -- however, it eventually settled, in part due to the help of a counsellor too.

Especially with anxiety, I find that it's very easy for it to spiral with catastrophising, and to feel like it will inevitably keep getting worse and/or last a long time. But sometimes that feeling can itself be part of the anxiety I think.

Have you been able to speak to a counsellor, GP or psychologist about your anxiety? They might be able to provide more specific advice and encouragement.

Take care! 🙂