ANXIETY AND HEALING A TIRED MIND

[blondguy]

Hi Everybody

I wasted 13 years of my life without taking full advantage of therapy. Whether I was stubborn or hiding behind the walls I had up whilst seeing a therapist was costly to my mental health and laid the foundations for depression in later life.

One therapist actually poked around and penetrated my 'force field' and had me crying like a baby. I was embarrassed and felt awful by crying in front of a guy that I hardly knew. Little did I know that he not only got me back to work later but dumped a huge amount of anxiety as well.

This guy also was firm that I saw him weekly for six months....I really let go and cried for the first few visits then he worked on CBT

Having a really good cry (mega vent) is a wonderful cleanser. At the time you will feel awful/uncomfortable however after 24 hours you will have so much more peace of mind than you would believe. Your concentration, sleep and general mental health will improve as well

Its difficult and uncomfortable to cry like this for many of us, but the temporary feelings of feeling vulnerable fade into insignificance against the benefits that can be achieved

Whether you have or haven't had a mega cry with a therapist your thoughts would be appreciated.

If you are stuck in the quicksand of anxiety or the darkness of depression I do hope this may be of even a small help to someone

New Posters are also strongly Encouraged to provide their thoughts 🙂

my kindest

Paul

[blondguy]

Clarification: I neglected to mention that this only worked for me in reducing my medium/high range anxiety/panic attacks..It may not be everyone's cup of tea as everyone has their own ways of reducing their own anxiety..

my kind thoughts 🙂

Paul

[BballJ]

Hi Paul,

Thank you for another great post, I know you are familiar with my story but just for other people also who may read this, I found my psychologist to be of great assistance, getting through to my feelings I never even knew existed. I didn't cry, was on the verge, but I didn't, but my oh my have I broken down a few times to myself, even whilst laying next to my wife in bed while she sleeps. I have good and bad days, when I feel lonely, I break down but there is stuff to be said about a good psychologist in your story and mine but also having a good friend to talk and listen....there is this clip I listen to on youtube and the speaker says this which you may find interesting and it breaks me down when i hear it.

"I want you to close your eyes... picture yourself in an open field, there are no buildings and no shelter, there is a storm above you.. the storm represents the situations and problems in your life and you don't tell anyone what you're going through, because they wouldn't understand and they can't help you anyway, you're in this storm and you're down on your knees and you're cold and you're weak.... are you not still here? you are still here, you don't have to do this alone....but hold onto that person who you think might help you and imagine them right now saying "I can't stop the storm right now, but I will hold you and keep you warm, until the storm passes"... because when they hold you and the storm is still there then it's ok because they are with you all the way"

I think this can be taken as that person is your psychologist or friend or spouse but either way I think it is an amazing quote and one I draw a lot from even though it breaks me down.

Just wanted to add that in, always find strength in your post's Paul... you have got me through some bad days with your insight and I can never thank you enough.

My best for you as always,

Jay

[blondguy]

Hi Jay 🙂

Thankyou for the genuine heartfelt compliment about finding strength in my posts...It means more to me than you know.

I just slowly read the clip (text) you have provided and I nearly teared up....seriously...

Here it is again for others because its GOLD;

"I want you to close your eyes... picture yourself in an open field,
there are no buildings and no shelter, there is a storm above you.. the
storm represents the situations and problems in your life and you don't
tell anyone what you're going through, because they wouldn't understand
and they can't help you anyway, you're in this storm and you're down on
your knees and you're cold and you're weak.... are you not still here?
you are still here, you don't have to do this alone....but hold onto
that person who you think might help you and imagine them right now
saying "I can't stop the storm right now, but I will hold you and keep
you warm, until the storm passes"... because when they hold you and the
storm is still there then it's ok because they are with you all the way"

I have copied and pasted it into my 'Coping' folder Jay (and will be forwarding it to people I know that suffer and dont have the courage to post on the forums) Nice1 Jay

I have read nearly all of the kind & caring responses you have provided to people in pain since you have been a member of the BB Forum Family Jay.

Your words are true and spoken from the heart. Your counsel/advice is an asset to the Beyond Blue Forums

You are a (true) Champion Jay

you have my total respect and please stick around...

Paul

[geoff]

dear Paul, a very comment and reply from Jay, because there are times when a fellow doesn't want to cry to their psychologist, especially if they are the same sex, and when this happens is that you don't talk about the real issues you are struggling with, just to avoid the embarrassment of crying, so you talk about ridiculous topics as the sports report or what you have planned for the rest of the week.
Firstly how is this going to help you, it won't, a waste of time for them as well as yourself, and misuse of money for the session that comes under the mental health plan.
When you go into the psych's office there is always a box of tissues and obviously they are there for one reason, to be used when you start crying, don't worry I've used them and have no guilt in doing so.
By being able to cry means that it releases a natural painkiller called 'leucine enkephalin' and that's the reason why you feel better after you have a cry, so don't feel embarrassed, you need to discuss what is causing you all of this trouble and why you are struggle from one day to the next. Geoff.

[blondguy]

Thankyou Geoff for your response

If I may quote a part of your post so others may be helped;

Geoff Said: "When you go into the psych's office there is always a box of tissues and obviously they are there for one reason, to be used when you start crying, don't worry I've used them and have no guilt in doing so"

Really appreciate your wisdom and input on this thread Geoff

my kind thoughts

Paulx

[BballJ]

Hi Paul,

Thank you for your kind words they mean so much.

I am glad you found something in that quote it is quite incredible. It is said by a motivational speaker whom has no arms and no legs yet uses his time to inspires people and get them out of their ruts. Quite an amazing person.

I will continue to be apart of these forums and help as many people as possible as people like yourself and Geoff have done for me and many others too.

Thanks again Paul 🙂

My best,

Jay

[blondguy]

No worries at all Jay 🙂

You are always posting all over the place with great advice

I just read about that motivational speaker and you mentioned he has no arms or legs...

That really is a major reality check for me....what a legend he his Jay

Hope your week is good to you

my kindest

Paul

[laurajayne74]

I'm glad someone shares my thoughts about crying - I always feel much better after a good cry

[blondguy]

Hello laurajayne74 and Welcome to the Beyond Blue Forums family 🙂

What a heartfelt reply and thankyou too! You are a legend for understanding that having a really good cry is good for the mind & body.

I hope you are doing okay

my kindest thoughts

Paulx